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We got married for love and companionship. We've been together for 7n years. She's shown me a lot of love. Probably I've been obsessing too much on this money stuff and forget that, and see only the friction over this money crap. Yes we have quite different outlooks in life. Opposites attract, no?
Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately since it will make me work harder at it, and I do think marriage is valuable, we don't have a prenup so I guess that means a 50 - 50 split in case things go south. It's too late to go back now, and I should have thought of it. I'd have to write some kind of big check since I have a larger kitty, but I'm determined to work this out, she sounds positive, and think we can. We do keep all the assets separate, and won't comingle since we have opposite styles of investing money, and each want to keep control of our own separate piles of money.
Thanks for the good luck.
Well, let's hope that divorce is not in the cards...
And yes, opposites attract... me and DW have a number of opposites and money is one of them.... she likes living the 'hear and now' and does not think long term where I have ALWAYS thought long term (had plans in place to have $1 mill by 55YO when I was younger than 18).... she travels all the time, and at times I go with her and the kids...
I think one of the things is how did she get this kind of thinking (both of our DWs)... mine lost her first husband to cancer in her late 30s... with two young kids.... maybe something in your DWs past can shed some light on your DWs thinking....
As far as splitting, it is not a lost cause, just harder... my DW had a friend who got divorced after 9 years... he had an accountant put together a reasonable showing of what was separate property.... he had almost all the assets when they got married... so, as long as you keep your assets separate, it is a lot easier to claim that it is yours...