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walkinwood · 11-07-2009, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Kabekew

So my first step is I really need to unwind from all that... how long does it take though for type A's? A month? Two months?

You ARE a type A. Next, you'll be drawing up an unwinding schedule!

Congratulations!

You'll unwind extremely quickly if you cut yourself off from work-related activities. It took me a couple of months before I stopped dreaming of work. A psychologist friend of mine said it was because your unconscious mind is trying to resolve the loose ends that you would have otherwise resolved in the course of your work.

We chose to stay close to home for a couple of months to relax. Enjoyed our home, our neighbors and each other's company.

JustNtime · 11-07-2009, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by walkinwood

You'll unwind extremely quickly if you cut yourself off from work-related activities. It took me a couple of months before I stopped dreaming of work. A psychologist friend of mine said it was because your unconscious mind is trying to resolve the loose ends that you would have otherwise resolved in the course of your work.

Kabe -- The Good News: A 'retired TYPE A' can easily become a 'Retired Type A' or even a 'RETIRED type a' with very little effort.
In fact, that is the key to how the trick is done.
As for the psychologist/psychiatrist suggestions, reminds me of the old joke:

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How many psychatrists does it take to change a light bulb? ONLY ONE -- but the light bulb has to WANT to change...
(Not to mention many many hours of therapy and glacially slow progress)..

So unless you have voices in your head telling you to hurt yourself or others, I'd recommend a massage therapist instead. Preferably PYT certified.
A full body massage should help work out those troublesome kinks and help you fully relax. Should you need additional attention, request an extended session or provide a bigger tip. I'm sure these therapy sessions will be much more enjoyable, relaxing, and more likely to lead to a happy ending...

Stevewc · 11-07-2009, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Kabekew

That's what I'm worried about. Today in fact as I headed home, officially retired -- the day I've always dreamed about -- I found myself cursing out the idiot driver in front of me who didn't INSTANTLY HIT THE GAS PEDAL when the light turned green! He was wasting my effing time just sitting there for almost five seconds while the light was clearly green, and it's barely a 10 second light, and I got places to go!!!

So my first step is I really need to unwind from all that... how long does it take though for type A's? A month? Two months?

How about using some of that energy helping all of us make good investment decisions? I hope to retire soon and will need to get more comfortable with living off of and making my savings last the rest of my life. Good solid investing help is always needed on the forum. Plenty to keep you busy and hopefully more relaxed at the same time.
Just a thought,
Steve

Spartacus · 11-06-2009, 10:24 PM

Kabe, I worked with a lady in sales that did high pressure selling for 20 years. She's retired now, and had to see a psychologist to allow herself to "chill"
Pay attention to the present moment. They're right in front of us all. Congratulations.
Burn the list, smile, look up at the sky tonight and know that the world is now officially yours to conquer!

and now, for you my friend, Everyday is Saturday!

JustNtime · 11-06-2009, 11:03 PM

Here's the bad news Kabe... A type A is a type A is a type A. Given a competitive situation your tendencies are to compete and/or to overachieve. You want to get ahead of the other traffic - you want in the fast lane - you want to do grave bodily harm to anyone in your way - (and say/think bad things about their mothers). The fact you're retiring 20 yrs ahead of most people shows you're a very successful overachiever.

Now what? Do you want to compete with me to see who can do less? I'll have to warn you I do have 7+ years experience at this and may have a slight advantage due to my more advanced years...

Take a long look in the mirror - see yourself - change what you want - keep what you don't - own it. Use the force for good and beware of the darkside (oops) -- IF I were single 40 and ER'd, I'd probably get a nice catamaran and sail around the world, trying NOT to set any new world speed records on the way. Maybe an RV through the continent. Perhaps a rail pass or a series of rail passes through a variety of countries to relax. Backpacking the Appalachian Trail this spring/summer for a little exercise and site seeing...

Maybe some baby steps, try to go to sleep tonight and not make plans for tomorrow - get up in the morning and don't plan your day. It may be harder than it sounds... Box up any organizers, schedulers, etc... Don't put on a watch. It's actually pretty easy compared to what you've already achieved.

Just some rambling random after midnight thoughts...

P.S. I just couldn't resist putting this link here. The Bumfuzzles are an interesting pair of misfits and their exploits can provide some ideas/entertainment. They really crack me up sometimes. Check out their first years of ER... bumfuzzle | sail around the world

Kabekew · 11-06-2009, 11:38 PM

Hmmm, good ideas, JustNtime... thanks

JustNtime · 11-06-2009, 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Kabekew

Hmmm, good ideas, JustNtime... thanks

Here's another - this guy took a Motorcat 30 down the east coast and spent the winter in and around the Bahamas... He's very Type A oriented...Cat's Away Home Page

You have a distinct advantage over me Kabe, while I find these ideas intriguing -- DW is NOT amused!!

So we travel primarily by car now and stay primarily in timeshares (we are NOT TS owners)... We have done cruises and flights to Hawaii and Virgin Islands. A nice cruise can be a good way to unwind, relax and let someone else do virtually everything but chew your food for you.

Night, the bed is calling me by name now...