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Old 08-07-2015, 01:52 AM   #1
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I posted before about concerns regarding missing the professional and social interactions that are enjoyable.

What I am realizing, though, and the question I ask myself is:
What do I want to do for the rest of my life?

That is a good question.
Still thinking.
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Old 08-07-2015, 07:16 AM   #2
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Ask yourself "What would I do if I won the lottery", or "what do I like to do with my time off". If the Dr. gave you some bad news tomorrow, would you be glad you stayed on?

If you like work, continue on. I am beginning to realize that work just takes up too much of my time. I just do not have enough of my life left to keep working.

Social interactions are great at work, but I never call anyone from work on the weekends. And if the interactions are that good, it can continue after work.

Only 333 days left, and I am struggling to come up with a reason why not to leave today...
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Old 08-07-2015, 08:01 AM   #3
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Only 333 days left, and I am struggling to come up with a reason why not to leave today...
The only reason to stay could come up with was "mo' money". But even though I have made a bunch in the stock market and and was employed by the military/industrial complex for many years, I guess I'm just not that good a capitalist. Enough was enough.
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Old 08-07-2015, 10:11 AM   #4
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what to do with the rest of your life? enjoy it - that's what I plan on doing
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Old 08-07-2015, 01:03 PM   #5
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Make two lists. What I can't do because I am working? and What I will be able to do once I stop working?. This will give you clear picture what will work best for you. Each person have different dreams, so no one really can answer it for you. For me retirement is a total freedom how to enjoy my precious time on earth.
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Old 08-07-2015, 01:43 PM   #6
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I have the general opinion that any bad day not at work is still better than a good day at work. I'm on that last year and it tougher as the end draws closer to be excited about much work related.
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Old 08-07-2015, 01:59 PM   #7
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Regardless of whether one is in their 40s, like me, or 60s, like Eileen, trying to decide exactly how best to spend the rest of our lives can be quite a challenge. I've been reading How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free just recently, and that has given me some new things to think about and helped to broaden my perspective on what's needed for a fulfilling post-work life. I think it's also helpful to realize that life is short and you only get one chance at it, so try to focus on doing things that will make you happy as often as possible. For me, it's things like traveling and learning new skills and making new friends. If you ever find yourself debating or fretting about whether you should do something a little scary or "outside the box", realize that a) whatever you're anxious about right now won't matter one whit once you're dead and b) life's most exquisite and rewarding moments often come from experiences we only get once we've stepped outside our comfort zone.
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+1 on Sojourner's suggestion. Another one of Zelinski's books is also helpful - The Joy of Not Working.
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Old 08-07-2015, 04:20 PM   #9
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b) life's most exquisite and rewarding moments often come from experiences we only get once we've stepped outside our comfort zone.
I do want to avoid becoming homeless and/or dependent for as long as possible though ..

Might pick up the book though.
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Old 08-07-2015, 08:51 PM   #10
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Thanks.
That's a good idea about list making.
I already know that a full day at work usually gets me tired so that I don't do as much in the evenings as I would like to do. Then I tend to put things off till I have days off for vacation and get used to having a lot of time to do whatever I want /need to do.
Sometimes, it just comes down to 'having time' .....
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I FIREd on July 10th of this year. I volunteer twice a week walking dogs at a couple of animal rescue shelters. On other days, I hike, run bicycle or be spontaneous and go to somewhere I read about in the morning paper.

To have the freedom to do what I want when I want to is why I retired.
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Old 08-08-2015, 05:02 PM   #12
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Maybe consider p.t. consulting in your field as a way to have the best of both worlds. Stress goes way down because you really are your own boss.
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Old 08-09-2015, 08:34 PM   #13
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Yes ... I am looking into the part time as well. Thanks.
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Old 08-09-2015, 08:43 PM   #14
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What I am realizing, though, and the question I ask myself is:
What do I want to do for the rest of my life?

That is a good question.
Still thinking.
Hi Eileen,

I firmly believe this is a critical life question, regardless of FI or ER! I wish more people would ask these questions and listen over a period of time for the answers.

Keep in mind that the answers are likely to change over the decades. The wonder of FI is that you can afford to act on these answers instead of just talking about pursuing your dreams, all sizzle, no steak. When the answer changes, you can afford to keep changing with the times.

Good luck, you're off to a good start by asking the right questions!

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My DW is struggling with this question right now trying to decide whether to announce, in a couple of months, her intent to retire at the end of the year. It doesn't seem to help that I have been happily ER'd for the last 4 yrs.

As many have said in on this site, it is good to both have a reason to leave w*rk and a to have something to retire to.

Once thing to consider is whether you have been a self-starter most of your life or whether to go to w*rk and people tell you what to do. Self-starters tend to do well in retirement even if they don't have a detailed plan ahead of time.

One thing I always tell people is, retirement is not like vacation. So whatever you do, don't make a retirement list that looks like a vacation list. There are things you will check off and do in the first 3-6 months. After that, you are really starting a new phase in your life.
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Old 08-10-2015, 09:32 PM   #16
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I don't know where I read or heard this comment, but it resonates with me:

You have to retire from something to something.

Have you ever heard of the book StrengthsFinder. I have not read the book, but plan on doing so because I know that I'll need to find some vocations that keep me connected, engaged, and learning.
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Old 08-10-2015, 09:55 PM   #17
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Thank you.
I do have the Zelinski book but have not heard of StrengthsFinder. I do have some ideas of what I would do, but it's also true that some additional things I'll want to do will only become clear as time goes on.
I think that going part time or retiring entirely will depend upon the ongoing workload and overall stress, no matter how much I feel I like the work, people at work, etc.
I will just have to let things settle and see how things turn out as the weeks/months go on. It'll be clear eventually!
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Thanks, I put both of the Zelinski books on hold at my library just now.
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Hi Eileen,

I have been struggling with the same issue with regards to how I would spend my time in retirement, have read about 7 books now, and the last book I read was by Mitch Anthony (2014) - The New Retirementality. This book was a bit of an eye opened for me. The book discussed the fact that so many people work at a job they hate or don't enjoy doing for 20-30 years, waiting for the day they can retire. if you love your job or enjoy what you do every day, why would you want to retire ? Now that I have been recently laid off, reality is setting in, and I am taking some time trying to figure out what I want to do next.
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We also have some friends that unfortunately in their early 60's have illnesses/disabilities that make is so that they can't drive so we take them on errands, etc. WE also do some volunteer work. 3 years into this it has taken us time to figure this out. I always have some days where nothing is planned otherwise it is too much like working f.t. I tried to send you a private message but it looked like it did not go though. I don't know why.
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