Join Early Retirement Today
Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Recent Early Retiree adjustment advice
Old 07-10-2018, 11:08 AM   #1
Confused about dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: Washington DC
Posts: 3
Recent Early Retiree adjustment advice

Hello,

I'm new to the forum and hoping for wisdom on adjusting to the pace of retired life after a hectic career.

SC in WDC
__________________

Simona2018 is offline   Reply With Quote
Join the #1 Early Retirement and Financial Independence Forum Today - It's Totally Free!

Are you planning to be financially independent as early as possible so you can live life on your own terms? Discuss successful investing strategies, asset allocation models, tax strategies and other related topics in our online forum community. Our members range from young folks just starting their journey to financial independence, military retirees and even multimillionaires. No matter where you fit in you'll find that Early-Retirement.org is a great community to join. Best of all it's totally FREE!

You are currently viewing our boards as a guest so you have limited access to our community. Please take the time to register and you will gain a lot of great new features including; the ability to participate in discussions, network with our members, see fewer ads, upload photographs, create a retirement blog, send private messages and so much, much more!

Old 07-10-2018, 01:04 PM   #2
Recycles dryer sheets
kitesurfer2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: jax
Posts: 380
going on 3 years for me and adjustment is not done. I still wake up 0400 or so, never after 0600. i've developed a very lazy attitude of taking a 2 hour job and planning it for a week, and then take 2 days to do it.
__________________

kitesurfer2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 01:21 PM   #3
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Jerry1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2014
Posts: 2,154
Tell us a little more about yourself. In particular, what are you struggling with or what do you think you’ll struggle with? In general, it’s something you just have to relax and let happen. You’re not going to adjust in one day or week. In six months if you’re actually struggling, I’d be a bit more concerned. If you’re worried about not having enough to do, I’ve heard time and time again that “I have so much going on, I don’t know how I ever found time to work.” Start with those projects around the house you never had time for. Also, start an exercise program. Those two things seem to be common jumping off points.

Welcome to the forum.
__________________
Every day when I open my eyes now it feels like a Saturday - David Gray
Jerry1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 02:06 PM   #4
Full time employment: Posting here.
HawkeyeNFO's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Inside the Beltway
Posts: 657
How long do you plan to stay in the District? I'm nearby, but on the other side of the river. Because of kids in school, I'm here for at least 10 years. Hope to be working for just a few more years.
HawkeyeNFO is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 04:10 PM   #5
Confused about dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Posts: 8
Congratulations on your retirement! I'm just 2 months in after a fast-paced 35 years in IT. I left a very senior role and shut down cold-turkey. I can see it will be an extended adjustment period, as right now I just feel like I'm on an extended vacation. There must be many issues back at Corporate to be concerned with!

Not sure if this helps, but I've been working on reducing the need to feel like my schedule has to be full from sun up to sundown, and remembering that I don't have to keep assigning myself tasks to complete by the end of the day or the week. I've been doing an awful lot of yard work and gardening or other "chores" to achieve that sense of accomplishment, for now. I break for a nice lunch and commit to do something fun or otherwise new or interesting for the rest of the day. I guess this is just a crutch for now, but is working for me.
Hilltopper is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 04:12 PM   #6
Confused about dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: Washington DC
Posts: 3
Hi, we are actually in Alexandria having recently relocated from Boston for good I think.
Simona2018 is offline   Reply With Quote
Adjusting to retirement
Old 07-10-2018, 04:21 PM   #7
Confused about dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Jul 2018
Location: Washington DC
Posts: 3
Adjusting to retirement

Thanks all for the words of advice. The long vacation feeling was lovely the first few months . Gardening, house projects and exercise classes are all going strong. My struggle is not feeling useful. I left a senior role in Pharm R&D and now have no hard problems to solve. Iím looking into volunteer opportunities- maybe that will do it.

Gratedul for your thoughts.
Simona2018 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 05:09 PM   #8
Full time employment: Posting here.
Oz investor's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2018
Location: Brisbane
Posts: 700
Quote:
Originally Posted by Simona2018 View Post
Hello,

I'm new to the forum and hoping for wisdom on adjusting to the pace of retired life after a hectic career.

SC in WDC
welcome to the forum ,

i am probably not the best teacher here , i went along to Social Security hoping for sickness benefits ( but mainly healthcare concessions card ) they sent me to a medical review and gave me a disability pension instead

i have only been shocked a few times in my life but that was one of them

add in the new medications regime and my plans for retirement are Supa-glued in pause .

you could try looking for hobbies , catch up on interests from younger years

any stamps , coins sports cards from your youth

taking a deep breath and having a good look at the scenery can help as well

cheers !!

maybe resisting the morning coffee might help
__________________
i hold the Australian listed versions of BHP , and JHG .

You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can't possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.

Samuel Levenson
Oz investor is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 05:40 PM   #9
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Posts: 369
Iíve read elsewhere that it takes at least a year to adjust. Iím retiring slowly, currently working about 3.5 days/week. I recently moved to rural Vermont, a goal for a long time. Bought a house with cash and adjusting to living on less.

Almost every day I experience first, wishing I was done with work, and then, loving the work I do and wanting to continue. I do think Iíll be cutting down more, though. I reach FRA next year. (Not exactly early retirement, I know!). So itís clear that adjusting will be a big deal. I think.
trumpeting_angel is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 07:18 PM   #10
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Jan 2018
Location: Tampa
Posts: 3,602
Quote:
Originally Posted by Simona2018 View Post
Thanks all for the words of advice. The long vacation feeling was lovely the first few months . Gardening, house projects and exercise classes are all going strong. My struggle is not feeling useful. I left a senior role in Pharm R&D and now have no hard problems to solve. Iím looking into volunteer opportunities- maybe that will do it.

Gratedul for your thoughts.
I also left a senior role job. I find that learning more and more about Personal Finance and Investing, plus being in charge of 4 different portfolios keeps my mind active.
Perhaps you can volunteer in financial type work.
__________________
TGIM
Dtail is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 07:49 PM   #11
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Jerry1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2014
Posts: 2,154
Quote:
Originally Posted by Simona2018 View Post
. . .now have no hard problems to solve.
Try booking a flight to New Zeeland for $2,000 first class.

But seriously, challenge yourself to go somewhere with conditions that will challenge you. Maybe somewhere where youíll have to quickly learn a language. Maybe a place that will teach you a new skill. I saw something the other day where Porsche will teach you to drive fast on ice! Who knows, figuring it out is part of the challenge you seek
__________________
Every day when I open my eyes now it feels like a Saturday - David Gray
Jerry1 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 08:38 PM   #12
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
RAE's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: northern Michigan
Posts: 1,302
Quote:
Originally Posted by Simona2018 View Post
Thanks all for the words of advice. The long vacation feeling was lovely the first few months . Gardening, house projects and exercise classes are all going strong. My struggle is not feeling useful. I left a senior role in Pharm R&D and now have no hard problems to solve. Iím looking into volunteer opportunities- maybe that will do it.

Gratedul for your thoughts.

I think you are basically still in "work mode". It's not a long vacation anymore, you have now moved into a new (and potentially very exciting) phase of your life, where you get to decide where and how you want to spend your time. I think that is the way you have to look at it. If you need to be challenged, I'm sure there are many organizations out there who could put your skills to good use (as a volunteer)......continue to seek them out. What about mentoring young people, perhaps in an academic setting.....is that something that would interest you? Should be lots of opportunities to do that as well. After 8 years of retirement, my problem now is that I have too many volunteer commitments.......need to cut back a lot so that I can free up more time for myself and my family.
RAE is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-10-2018, 09:44 PM   #13
Recycles dryer sheets
texcurtis's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2014
Posts: 104
Recommend the book - How to retire happy wild & free. Itís about retirement & nothing about finances. .

Iím 3.5 years post retirement from a stressful career & am learning to embrace that I donít have to be productive to be a valuable person.
texcurtis is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-11-2018, 04:57 AM   #14
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 5,618
Quote:
Originally Posted by RAE View Post
I think you are basically still in "work mode". It's not a long vacation anymore, you have now moved into a new (and potentially very exciting) phase of your life, where you get to decide where and how you want to spend your time. I think that is the way you have to look at it. .
+1
IMO, if you feel "like on vacation" you're still using work as your context.

That's ok. But over time the vacation mentality leaves and every day just becomes "the way you live now". It took me over two years to stop using work as my reference and 'be'.

I was also in a high profile job; just hang in there and the 'need to be useful' also fades away.

You've had surgery in a way....you've had your job removed! The healing takes time.
__________________
Living well is the best revenge!
Retired @ 52 in 2005
marko is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-11-2018, 05:24 AM   #15
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Pinetops
Posts: 409
I retired 7 months ago from State Govt. I'm 57 and wife still plans to work for 5+ years. After 4 months, I still was feeling a bit restless and discontent - so I found some part time work - 8 to 15 hours a week proctoring formal education exams. This has been a very nice change of pace and has been a very nice balance for me. I no longer feel guilty about being at home on days that I do not work and easily am able to turn the switch from retirement to work mode. I also recognize that this "side hustle" is something that I want to do as opposed to something I have to do.

By the way, I have plenty of flexibility and have set up the following three trips over the next 15 months: 4 days at beach in August, 10 day cruise to Aruba in January, and 14 day vacation/cruise to Hawaii in Oct 2019.

Again, the key is having the right balance!

I
__________________
I

ER 12/15/2017
Now: Side Hustle(r) Extraordinaire
IMATERP is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-11-2018, 05:30 AM   #16
Full time employment: Posting here.
iloveyoga's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2017
Location: Des Moines
Posts: 559
Quote:
Originally Posted by Simona2018 View Post
Thanks all for the words of advice. The long vacation feeling was lovely the first few months . Gardening, house projects and exercise classes are all going strong. My struggle is not feeling useful. I left a senior role in Pharm R&D and now have no hard problems to solve. Iím looking into volunteer opportunities- maybe that will do it.

Gratedul for your thoughts.
As mentioned, it does take some adjustment time. I try to do some things each day that provide value, to my household, to my family, to friends, etc. I like to do financial stuff, so I help people I know with their questions. My sis moved to town, so I have learned to paint and helped her to paint her new place. We don't need the money, so I can do stuff for free and not worry about it.

I have a small PT job, working for my son, and it is in a totally different field (HVAC) and so that has been interesting.

Welcome and good luck!
__________________
Retired in 2013 and we are living the dream!
iloveyoga is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-16-2018, 12:43 AM   #17
Full time employment: Posting here.
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Posts: 692
Quote:
Originally Posted by Simona2018 View Post
Thanks all for the words of advice. The long vacation feeling was lovely the first few months . Gardening, house projects and exercise classes are all going strong. My struggle is not feeling useful. I left a senior role in Pharm R&D and now have no hard problems to solve. I’m looking into volunteer opportunities- maybe that will do it.
Also retired from a senior R&D role. I loved the tech and w*rking with smart people, but the "shark tank" politics in a declining industry told me it was time to go. DW and I have been retired for over 3 years and no regrets.

Much to my surprise my adjustment was difficult. I endured w*rk nightmares for years; these have only recently moderated in frequency and intensity. Also a surprise both DW and I still need to feel useful. We're just not the type to sit around all the time. Over the years, we've both learned to relax and not feel guilty about play time and down time. In fact I've grown somewhat aggressive about defending my "me" time and play time.

Still, we keep busy. We've heavily involved with mentoring young adults. Building these deep relationships has been one of the most rewarding things I have ever done. We take much longer trips and spend more time with numerous hobbies.

I've delved quite deeply into my Christian faith, reading both texts that are considered mainstream in our church as well as strongly contrary views. I'm also learning a bit about Islam. This entire search has been one of the most intellectually and emotionally taxing endeavors, as tough or even tougher than years of grad. school in engineering. After all, I'm trying to figure out the meaning of life, at least for me!

I'm also a musician. Retirement has allowed me to take my music to a new level. I'm finding my own stylistic voice and have started writing my own songs after performing covers for decades.

Retirement has been very good to me and DW. Please be easy yourself. Some adjust quickly, we took years. I suspect most folks from an R&D background like yours are inherently curious, intelligent, easily bored, and are self starters. From experience, I know that these are great attributes for early retirees!

FB
__________________
Living the dream...
FreeBear is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 07-16-2018, 04:33 AM   #18
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
DrRoy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Michigan
Posts: 2,553
Just as an example, I have had travel and photography to fill about 1/2 of my time. The other half has not been a problem. Do you have any interests that would fill your time?
__________________
"The mountains are calling, and I must go." John Muir
DrRoy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-16-2018, 05:30 PM   #19
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Jun 2018
Posts: 76
Thanks for all of your comments. I will be on FIRE in 39 short months. I am currently in a very high stressful state government job. I truly love my job and and entering my 31st year in it. Rose from very bottom to very top. I am a go getter. I am always battling 3 separate crisis at a time. I am trying to find comfort in succession planing. I donít think I could sleep or even retire for that matter if I didnít make plans for someone to take the helm. So thatís what I am doing. It helps me ease into the thought of retirement.

I will definitely need to occupy my time. I own a beautiful beach house in Pompano Beach, Florida and enjoy the beach very much. I think I will volunteer youths with helping them with life issues. I mentor a few young men now and find it very rewarding.

My mom is 92 and still makes a list everyday to accomplish at least something or she feels that the day was wasted! God Bless her.

Thanks again. Your comments really help!

PompanoBeach, Fl.
pompanobeach is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-18-2018, 09:34 AM   #20
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Live And Learn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Tampa Bay Area
Posts: 1,780
This is the time to be useful to YOU and not to others. Are there any self-improvement goals that you had to put off because of w*rk ? A book that you always wanted to read, a practice that you always wanted to do but never had the time (exercise, daily walks, losing weight) ? Your job is now YOU ! Do THAT

It takes time to adjust to not having deadlines - some start procrastinating because there is always tomorrow - some makes to do lists. Figure out what works for YOU and do THAT !

Welcome to ER. 3 years in and enjoying every moment.
__________________

__________________
"For the time being no discipline brings joy, but seems grievous and painful; but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it." ~
Hebrews 12:11

ER'd in June 2015 at age 52. Initial WR 3%. 50/40/10 (Equity/Bond/Short Term) AA.
Live And Learn is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Retiree Health Plan After Death of Retiree-Spouse Coverage? Youngster Health and Early Retirement 11 12-12-2015 08:24 PM
Adjustment to Early Retirement Kickernick Life after FIRE 52 09-08-2015 06:58 PM
Recent retiree -invest retirement $ at market top? NameTaken2 FIRE and Money 45 06-26-2014 03:38 AM
Retiring early with kids; Big adjustment when they left? FUEGO Life after FIRE 18 06-05-2014 04:20 PM
Recent Grad looking for advice. FearTheTaxMan Young Dreamers 5 07-30-2013 08:05 AM

» Quick Links

 
All times are GMT -6. The time now is 11:29 AM.
 
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8 Beta 1
Copyright ©2000 - 2019, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.