There are options in this situation
The melancholy in the OP's post is clear and present. A couple of thoughts, even if for a number of reasons, they are not feasible, still worth focusing on:
1. Your commute is your biggest enemy right now. Can you move closer to work? Find a similar job closer to home?
2. Is there any possibility of starting your own business? A franchise? Part-time?
3. You're in a rut, it seems. You need things to look forward to--milestones, vacations, future travel, retirement. Your vacations or other time off needs to combine a number of the activities you enjoy. Instead of lying on a beach, how about bringing a travel fishing rod and surf casting, or renting a stand up paddle board for a day (and fishing from that)? You need adventure and new activities. How about hobbies you can do at night at home--numismatics, build a ship in a bottle (very hard and time-intensive, but rewarding--buy a kit).
4. Start researching and planning for retirement overseas. There are still safe, wonderful countries for US dollar payers where the cost of living is much less than in USA and the quality of life is much higher because you can hire cheap labor (cook, maid, driver, etc.). And where there is much to explore.
5. Any chance you can make a big move upward at work?