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Old 02-23-2008, 07:40 AM   #61
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You folks were very helpful so I thought I'd report back on where we are at. We told the boy he would have to wait until he is 18. We flip flopped back and forth several times. At the end of the day, it came down to the fact that we both believed that DW would torture herself if the worst happened. She is definitely the type who would second guess herself the rest of her life - "would he have changed his mind before he turned 18 and we didn't sign?" So we will let it play out that way and we fully expect him to come home with signed papers shortly after he turns 18 - and if so he will go with our blessing - and we will feel better that he is a year older and hopefully a year more mature.

Thanks again for all the input - it certainly helps to look at things from every perspective.
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Old 02-23-2008, 09:33 AM   #62
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You folks were very helpful so I thought I'd report back on where we are at. We told the boy he would have to wait until he is 18. We flip flopped back and forth several times. At the end of the day, it came down to the fact that we both believed that DW would torture herself if the worst happened. She is definitely the type who would second guess herself the rest of her life - "would he have changed his mind before he turned 18 and we didn't sign?" So we will let it play out that way and we fully expect him to come home with signed papers shortly after he turns 18 - and if so he will go with our blessing - and we will feel better that he is a year older and hopefully a year more mature.

Thanks again for all the input - it certainly helps to look at things from every perspective.
Personally I believe you made the right decision. It's his life to do with what he wants........after he turns 18.
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You folks were very helpful so I thought I'd report back on where we are at. We told the boy he would have to wait until he is 18.
Thanks, you'll have to let us know what kind of 18th birthday party the Army throws him!
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Thanks for the update. I don't think anyone who responded to your initial post, whatever position they took, did so with anything but your family's best interests in mind, so it's good to know that you're no longer on the horns of this difficult dilemma.

How did your son take it, if I may ask? Better or worse than expected?
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Thanks for the update. I don't think anyone who responded to your initial post, whatever position they took, did so with anything but your family's best interests in mind, so it's good to know that you're no longer on the horns of this difficult dilemma.?
I couldn't agree more - thanks!

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How did your son take it, if I may ask? Better or worse than expected?
He didn't take it well at first - I think he is coming around now though. We gave him a couple days to cool down then reminded him that over the next year - how we treat him will be a direct result of how he treats us. Quite frankly some of his adolescent behavior shortly after only reinforced for us that we made the right decision. He really is a great kid - and if it be God's will - he will be a great soldier.
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. Quite frankly some of his adolescent behavior shortly after only reinforced for us that we made the right decision. .
I hope you pointed that out to him.
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I couldn't agree more - thanks!



He didn't take it well at first - I think he is coming around now though. We gave him a couple days to cool down then reminded him that over the next year - how we treat him will be a direct result of how he treats us. Quite frankly some of his adolescent behavior shortly after only reinforced for us that we made the right decision. He really is a great kid - and if it be God's will - he will be a great soldier.
When your son reaches age 18, he may or may not still want to join the army, but this is why there are barriers like minimum age limits (and parents) to keep young people from making immature choices about important life decisions.
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"He really is a great kid " Your quote...


That is why I would love to see him stay out of the military until the Iraqi adventure is done.
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Yes and do not join the Police Force unless the Crime Rate falls X%.
Yes and do not join Fire Department unless the fire rate falls X%.
Yes and do not join the Tree Falling business until all the tall trees have been cut.
Yes and do not join...................................

Have no fear, there will be another War, seems every American generation has had one.

I am glad the boy is listening to his parents and I hope he does what he wants to even if he has to wait another year.
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Quite frankly some of his adolescent behavior shortly after only reinforced for us that we made the right decision.
Well, thank goodness we never saw any examples of adolescent behavior when I was on active duty.

Anyway the remedy for that is pictures. You need lots of pictures.

Then when he brings his girlfriends over you can show off the photo album...
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