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Old 05-26-2019, 05:56 PM   #81
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Looking back, I realized people were right when they said I was "too nice and put up with too much from other people." So I've been working to change that Happens to a lot of women my age, or so I've heard. No sense waiting till I'm about to die!
My Mom is too nice and it drives me nuts sometimes- people take advantage of her. At 82, I think that is the way she'll be until the end. That gene missed me. I can spot a user or a sociopath at 50 yards. Navigating a career in credit withougood radar is not possible.
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Old 05-27-2019, 06:06 PM   #82
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I'll be there are people who would say: I wish I had learned earlier that I'm a loner and like it that way. I wish I hadn't wasted time trying to live up to the expectations of an extrovert world.
Thanks, Al! I have my wife and she is my best friend, and that makes all the difference! Most of my other friends are divers and while we all share a love of the sea, many of us are more interested in animals than people!
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And not a single person who knows there time is short said "I wish I had worked longer" or "I wish I had not retired so young"

So FIRE ASAP. Even if you think you might not make it, do it. You can always be a Walmart greeter if you absolutely have to.
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4) I never seemed to be good at developing and maintaining close friendships. This is probably my greatest regret ...
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I'll bet there are people who would say: I wish I had learned earlier that I'm a loner and like it that way. I wish I hadn't wasted time trying to live up to the expectations of an extrovert world.
I don't know how I missed this one the past several days. This is me. I can say I would have liked to be better at relationship/friendships, but do I regret not being better? I can't say that I do. I am just a "one-off" character. An odd-size. That proverbial pair of brown shoes in a world full of tuxedos. I enjoyed them in their own time. They were useful and I enjoy the memories, but they were a lot of work and seemed to sap me rather than replenish me. I always felt "more natural" alone than whooping it up with each other the way the rest of the world seems compelled to do.
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So FIRE ASAP. Even if you think you might not make it, do it. You can always be a Walmart greeter if you absolutely have to.
No you can't, Walmart is eliminating the position.

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Old 05-28-2019, 12:00 PM   #86
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And not a single person who knows there time is short said "I wish I had worked longer" or "I wish I had not retired so young"
I hear that all the time, so not to pick specifically on you, but it's actually not always true.

In one of the houses I grew up in, we had a neighbor who had something, MS perhaps, and was pretty certain he wouldn't live all that long. I remember my mom or dad say once that he had told them that he worked hard to make sure he left behind enough money for his wife and 4 boys.

You could certainly argue that his priorities were wrong and he should've made the most of his time with them, but -- he didn't.

He died at 50. I had moved away so I don't know if he really regretted that or not. But he certainly didn't do it blindly.


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Well, that's not really true either since greeter jobs are gone, but say you change it to generically "work at Walmart". Having that as a backup plan would be horrible to me. I wouldn't sleep well if I was on the edge like that, and I sure would hate it if I had to resort to it. I have no regrets about working OMY to give me some padding and take that off the table in all but the very worst scenario. On my death bed I'm pretty certain I won't be wishing I had that extra year at 48.
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5 Biggest Regrets People Have Before They Die Article

For me the points in the article could be summarized under the heading of not taking more risks.

A professor I had in college said of the generation before mine that studies had shown that their biggest fear was the fear of a nuclear war. Of my generation he said studies had shown that our biggest fear was the fear of failure.

If I have one overriding regret in my life it would be not taking more risks. Donít get me wrong, I have taken plenty of risks in my life, and by risks I mean appropriate risks regarding my job or career or relationships. I donít mean taking stupid risks that would jeopardize my personal safety/life or the safety/life of others.

However looking back I can see that all too often in my my life I let fear dictate my actions. Fear of failure. Fear of taking the risk. So many opportunities wasted.

Needless to say however I have and do take more risks now. Heck Iím retired at 60...
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Having done #1 and #2, I think it's hard to have both. If you're pursuing dreams, you're probably working very hard at it, and although it may make you happy, it may take you away from a young family, etc. But early on is the time to do it, if you hope to make money from it, as that money forms a nice basis for investment.

#3: yes, in fact most people won't be happy hearing your ideas and especially your complaints. At about 30, my family therapist suggested that I stop being so reserved about complaining, and tell my family members more strongly or often. I can assure you they did NOT prefer this, and the experiment only lasted a month.
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For me the points in the article could be summarized under the heading of not taking more risks.

A professor I had in college said of the generation before mine that studies had shown that their biggest fear was the fear of a nuclear war. Of my generation he said studies had shown that our biggest fear was the fear of failure.

If I have one overriding regret in my life it would be not taking more risks. Donít get me wrong, I have taken plenty of risks in my life, and by risks I mean appropriate risks regarding my job or career or relationships. I donít mean taking stupid risks that would jeopardize my personal safety/life or the safety/life of others.

However looking back I can see that all too often in my my life I let fear dictate my actions. Fear of failure. Fear of taking the risk. So many opportunities wasted.

Needless to say however I have and do take more risks now. Heck Iím retired at 60...
I feel the same way to some extent, but retired at 57 and even though at calculator driven 100% success, will never take a low paying job, so probably at more risk now in some fashion. lol
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I feel the same way to some extent, but retired at 57 and even though at calculator driven 100% success, will never take a low paying job, so probably at more risk now in some fashion. lol

Agreed. 100% success based on a series of assumptions and formulas driven from a batch of historical data. Hopefully the math is correct... LOL

My job now is being CFO and CIO of WestUniversity Inc.

The pay is pretty good and the benefits are outstanding!
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Yes, we tend to regret what we did NOT do, not what we did. I regret not getting the courage up to kiss my first crush.
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And as a result of the lesson learned from your regret, now you go up and kiss whomever you are attracted to, right?

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Yes, we tend to regret what we did NOT do, not what we did. I regret not getting the courage up to kiss my first crush.
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