A new hobby

[kumquat]

Same old same old.

Old hobby, old subject

[rescueme]

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Originally Posted by Lsbcal Hopefully someday you will be able to do some things that are not in the responsibilities category.

I don't ever forsee that happening. Growing up, I had parents that only cared for themselves, and how I could "meet their needs", as one of the "childern as chattel", as directed by my grandparents (all four) from the "old country". I was here for their benefit (as they often made clear); not that they were here for me.

As an adult (and a parent to a disabled adult "child") our (DW/me) respecive familes basically shut our son out of their lives, since he did not meet their norms.

Life sucks, then you die (and find release from your problems).
It's as simple as that, IMHO.

And no, don't call the suicide hotline (I/we can cope, on our own terms). I don't ask for anybody's pity.

If anything, this form opened my eyes to what "normal" familes are all about. Consider yourselves truly blessed...

[W2R]

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Originally Posted by rescueme I don't ask for anybody's pity.

OK, I can understand that but would you accept a suggestion? Being a caregiver can be exhausting. I do not really know your situation in any detail (thought your son had his own apt?) but if you have the constant responsibilities of a 24/7/365 caregiver you NEED time off. I would seriously urge you to hire someone on a long term basis who could handle the situation for at least one day a week.

You mentioned in another post today that in your youth, your parents required you to work for no pay, in what I gather was a pretty terrible situation. I am suggesting that you could be the good, caring parent to yourself that you never had. You could do this by declaring today "Rescueme Freedom Day" and hiring a helper.

[imoldernu]

Was delighted to see the reference to Duolingo... Looking forward to poking around in the subject.
Matter of interest, never really considered my self much into languages, other than my German minor in college, but now realize that three years of French in H.S., some basic Latin, a little bit of Japanese, from a week touring the islands (won a contest) enough Spanglish to get by, and some Esperanto, from my time as an "aggressor force" in the Army... perhaps a start on Duolingo.

My brother was a friend of Noam Chomsky back in the 1970's, and tried to get me in to linguistics... Maybe it's time

I was kidding about the Sanskrit...