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Old 12-09-2013, 12:07 PM   #61
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I am your daughter to some degree. I am college educated, was the primary bread winner, and married a wonderful man who had a high school education and trade school. We continue to share the same priorities in life, and he has been and continues after 35 years of marriage to be a supportive and loving husband, father, and now we share the joy of being grandparents.

My dad was a lawyer. My mother "expected me" to marry a "professional" man. My dad stayed quiet but was always supportive.

Our daughter married 7 years ago. He was a "nice kid", still slogging through college after 6 years, and delivering pizza to support himself. Said he did not want to graduate with debt. Well, we trusted our daughter and supported them. We now see him as the son we never had. He is the envy of all DD friends, he works full time, and fully shares household and childcare responsibilities with DD. We truly love the man...

Lastly, my sister married "the professional" that mom and dad always envisioned for us. He is a good man and kind. But in the end, did little to be involved with kids, was not appreciative of my sister, and they divorced (though remain friends) after about 15 years of marriage. My mom is still not over it.

So, understand that at a young age, we generally change. We grow together or we grow apart. Love and support enhance, friction adds nothing. 9 months is not a lot of time, but she will have to make the decisions. Be there to support and nurture, and help her down the road as needed. At 24, they are still trying to be independent, and your thoughts have been shared.
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Old 12-09-2013, 12:47 PM   #62
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I know of a young man that was fresh out of the Air Force (enlisted man), broke, and working odd jobs at the time, who fell in love with a young girl who was about to graduate college and start a teaching career. She came from a fine middle class family and had sisters and brothers that were all successful (she was the youngest). He came from a poor family who did not have one person with a college degree or professional job or career (or two nickles to rub together, as we used to say). Young girl’s family was not pleased with this situation, but tolerated it.

Eventually, they married and moved away from the Midwest as she landed a teaching position back east. Well, over the years, the young man and the elementary school teacher lived in cheap apartments and saved some money. He started college at 26+ years old and she supported him teaching while working on her Master’s degree at night.

Four years later, he graduated top of his class in engineering and she continued to teach. He went on to get an MBA in finance and eventually work for a large oil company in a high paying corporate position.

Sometimes things work out even when the “fit” doesn't meet your norm. That Air Force guy was me.
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I know of a young man that was fresh out of the Air Force (enlisted man), broke, and working odd jobs at the time, who fell in love with a young girl who was about to graduate college and start a teaching career. She came from a fine middle class family and had sisters and brothers that were all successful (she was the youngest). He came from a poor family who did not have one person with a college degree or professional job or career (or two nickles to rub together, as we used to say). Young girl’s family was not pleased with this situation, but tolerated it.

Eventually, they married and moved away from the Midwest as she landed a teaching position back east. Well, over the years, the young man and the elementary school teacher lived in cheap apartments and saved some money. He started college at 26+ years old and she supported him teaching while working on her Master’s degree at night.

Four years later, he graduated top of his class in engineering and she continued to teach. He went on to get an MBA in finance and eventually work for a large oil company in a high paying corporate position.

Sometimes things work out even when the “fit” doesn't meet your norm. That Air Force guy was me.
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