Are you a private person or a people person?

[SunsetSail]

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Originally Posted by FD INTJ too here, very strong I. Definitely more of a private person. Socializing with strangers is exhausting and uncomfortable at best. But I love spending time with good friends and family.

This describes me perfectly.

I have also been called a noisy introvert by DW. Her comment was that I can talk to anyone about anything, but I hate to do it outside my circle.

[powerplay]

I'm a private person and really enjoying my quiet alone time now that I'm retired.

[kyounge1956]

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Originally Posted by Katsmeow Quote: Originally Posted by W2R INTJ, so obviously not a social butterfly" Me, too

Me three!

[bbbamI]

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Originally Posted by FinanceDude Would not have guessed that, but I guess being an anonymous person on the Internet empowers all of us............

Well I suppose so...

Most times when I go to a party, I'll sit in the same spot. People 'rotate' during the night and I get a chance to talk to most everyone in a private type of way. Doing this enables me to get to know a person better.

[Fireup2020]

Social butterfly here...but I do have my limits! After a several HR convention a couple weeks ago, I had no interest in talking for a few days! So apparently, there is a weekly quota for how much I talk! I enjoy holiday gatherings, whether friends, family, or even co-workers. Almost feel guilty posting that on this board based on the other posts!

[haha]

I'm a Purple People Eater.

YouTube - Flying Purple People Eater

[ERD50]

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Originally Posted by haha I'm a Purple People Eater.

LOL - my brain read that into the title too. But the first time I saw it, and even after, my reaction is "this thread is going to get closed!". I keep seeing "private pension" in that title....

Even I have had enough of that (for a while... ).


-ERD50

[Silver]

Looks like INTJ's flock to this site. I'm one as well....and am gradually becoming more introverted as years go by.

[Sarah in SC]

Yes, the INTJ is the official "personality type of ER". I'm lazy by nature, but here's an old thread

http://www.early-retirement.org/foru...ype-15966.html

[freebird5825]

ESTJ ESTJ ESTJ
Is anyone here surprised?

Mr Boston tells me I can "w*rk a room" like nobody he has ever seen before. He is also an extrovert so this is a high compliment.

All I do is be myself.
Never overbearing but always friendly , talkative but not blabby , and very respectful of people's space and feelings. It ain't rocket science.

I've been told I possess leader qualities from childhood. Add a devilish nature and it's amazing what I can cook up to get folks talking and laughing instead of standing around like mannequins.

[Nords]

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Originally Posted by Fireup2020 Social butterfly here...but I do have my limits! After a several HR convention a couple weeks ago, I had no interest in talking for a few days! Almost feel guilty posting that on this board based on the other posts!

I think extrovert is warranted here-- the last thing any HR organization needs is a bunch of introverted sociopaths...

[keegs]

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Originally Posted by freebird5825 ESTJ ESTJ ESTJ Add a devilish nature and it's amazing what I can cook up to get folks talking and laughing instead of standing around like mannequins.

[TromboneAl]

Private, and, here's the thing: getting more private as time goes by. Anyone else notice that? Perhaps I've just learned that I like quiet time alone, and allow myself more of it.

[Fireup2020]

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Originally Posted by Nords I think extrovert is warranted here-- the last thing any HR organization needs is a bunch of introverted sociopaths...

Oh - scary enough, there are a few of those!

Always amusing to be asked "where do you get your energy?" or "why are you in such a good mood?" (In my mind the answer is "because I retire in 9.5 years!!!")

[Ronstar]

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Originally Posted by TromboneAl Private, and, here's the thing: getting more private as time goes by. Anyone else notice that? Perhaps I've just learned that I like quiet time alone, and allow myself more of it.

I'm private, getting more private, and I have noticed a lot of people becoming more private. It seems like there are more ways to keep busy while alone-computers, ebooks, netflix, iPods, ipads, etc

[Sue J]

I'm private. Definitely not a people person.

My sister is a total people person. She can hardly stand being alone. Networking/working a crowd makes her feel important. I used to feel like we clashed when we were together but now I've realized that when we are out together I let her take over the conversation and I only have to listen.

I've come to realize I have a low tolerance for small talk. Last tax season I worked for H&R Block and one of the new directives from the new CEO was that we should all take the first 2 minutes with the client and just talk about things other than taxes and their financial situation. This just about made my skin crawl. I could manage about 20-30 seconds before I felt really awkward. My office leader wanted to show me how to do this so he sat down with a client and asked all about his family, where did he meet his girlfriend, how did he end up in the local area. I just don't have it in me to make small talk look important.

I agree with Al, I'm liking my private time more and more.

[bbbamI]

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Originally Posted by freebird5825 I've been told I possess leader qualities from childhood.

I've been told I'm possessed.....

[Midpack]

I'm an ISTJ. I am fine being alone, but I also enjoy the company of others with two caveats.

• I'm much more comfortable with folks I know than strangers, more reserved with strangers.
• I much prefer a few close friends vs many friend-acquaintances. always have. A dinner/outing with 4/6/8 people is great. A gathering with 50-100 people is an obligation to me, usually one of the first to leave these events.

YMMV, as it should.

[Khan]

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Originally Posted by TromboneAl Private, and, here's the thing: getting more private as time goes by. Anyone else notice that? Perhaps I've just learned that I like quiet time alone, and allow myself more of it.

Having been retired for a long time I can take people in small groups (I can always leave).

ISTJ

I might enjoy going to a social function if I had someone to go with, but only if I had the option to politely depart from company of said someone afterwards.

Maybe terms should always be negotiated beforehand.

[youbet]

Is there any real difference between a private person and a hermit?

I think of myself as a private person. But when I haven't been out of the house for a couple of days, forget to shave, keep wearing the same blue jeans, pull the shades when I see the mailman coming, avoid answering the phone and that sort of thing, DW says "get cleaned up and get your sorry ass out of the house for a while you hermit!" And I do. I go down to the pub and talk to the guys about mean wives and how much guys deserve to be left alone to be private people.