Originally Posted by socca
If the 'kind man' doesn't actually believe she is beautiful and intelligent, then he is deceiving her. This may work in the short run, but it's unlikely to work in the long run. Ironically, the dumb women are more likely to be fooled.
Him: "I think that you're the most gorgeous specimen of female femininity that I've ever met. However, I don't ever want to see or talk to you again."
This is the narrow minded viewpoint that keeps people sitting at home. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that varies with conditions.
Just have another Martini or listen to a romantic song if you are having trouble seeing hers. I agree with you that if you are deliberately deceiving someone to get either sex or money you are doing wrong. But things are usually not so clear cut.
In one of my dance communities there is a very large woman. She asked a guy who we all know to dance one night. He said "No, you're not my type." "What is your type?" "Someone who isn't fat."
She told me this story while we were having a drink. She was hurt. Obviously she knows that very large women are a minority taste, but she also knows that I appreciate her as a woman. She has lovely hair, she smells good, she wears very dramatic dark lipstick colors, and she likes men. I would have no trouble making her feel desirable, and it would not involve deception on my part. Women aren't stupid; they know that just because you make them feel good you are not necessarily interested in marrying them. It helps to remember that she probably sees "better" specimens than you 100 times a day too. Men and women are whole creatures, not just collections of attributes.
I should also say that your extreme case would not happen to a man who is looking for friendship and companionship, rather than solely a sex partner. I think Mr. Rogers was right, everyone is beautiful.
I would like to briefly address the original question- what place is best for older singles? South Florida is probably best for sheer ease of access to people.
Overall, there are more men relative to women in western cities, high tech cities, Alaskan fishing villages, Edmonton, etc. But most older women do not want to pull up stakes and become waitresses in a mining camp or fishing village.
Some cities are more married than others. Seattle has a lot of unmarried adults.