Big change in our plans

[Ronstar]

Good call! Sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. And besides, I doubt Missouri has beignets.

[Sarah in SC]

W2R, good for you! Enjoy that newly remodeled house! And I'm glad you are staying in NO so you don't have to keep the house clean any more!
I would liken Frank's motivation to my own. I married a guy from somewhere else, but told him early on that this was my home and I'd have a very hard time relocating to somewhere else later. I can see how Frank feels about leaving NO because I have the same motivation to stay here. My DH is like you--he's happy anywhere, but wants to know the plan so he can settle in.
Y'all are a super match!

[Martha]

Yes, the upside is that you now live in a freshly painted and carpeted home. Now all you need is a 30amp plug outside for rv visitors.

I bet your house will be nice and homey when you pull out your pictures and personal doodads.

[DangerMouse]

Glad to hear you are going to be able to take advantages of all those renovations you did in the hope of selling.

Personally I think it is a bonus that you did the decluttering as now you can just get on with enjoying life in the city you love.

[FinanceDude]

You could do a LOT worse than NOLA!!!

[deserat]

Congratulations on your decision.....who knows you might change your mind again, HOWEVER, being able to mentally settle down to something you know will be fairly stable for the near and possible far future definitely eases your transition.

And, I was not surprised, either. MO is not NO :-)

[Nords]

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Originally Posted by W2R I started to discuss his decision with him when he told me about it, mostly because I was worried that maybe he hadn't thought it through and would change his mind again. But once he told me he was very sure of this decision, I realized that I really was OK with it. I am also OK with him making the decision, because I have been so indecisive about this issue. I know that he is thinking of what is best for both of us and I'm glad one of us has a clue about that (because I really don't know).

What's with all this "Frank made a decision" stuff? Didn't you have at least half the vote too?

Just for the sake of an interesting conversation you'll have to ask him what he'd do if you still wanted to move to MO. Or maybe not.

You'll also have to bookmark this thread so that you can refer to it often during hurricane season... and after every evacuation. I feel that same sense of foreboding every 1 June and whenever spouse says "Ruh-roh-- come take a look at this satellite looper..."

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Originally Posted by REWahoo Nope, you were "unemployed pending relocation".

"Just one more year!!"

[Bestwifeever]

More thoughts:

(a) a buyer for your houses will now appear
(b) that new electric rice cooker is going to look swell on those cleared kitchen counters.

[Purron]

New Orleans is a special and wonderful place. I'm so happy to hear you and Frank are staying. I think you would have missed it terribly.

YouTube - Louis Armstrong - Do you know what it means to miss New Orleans

[freebird5825]

It sounds like a good decision for you two for the present. How do you spell Relief?

I can relate a bit because Mr B and I are juggling with the same type of question now - move or stay. We both got trapped here (in the East Nowhere area) by spouses wanting to live right near their families. What w*rked before, in our separate younger days, does not w*rk now in our middle aged days together, on both sides of the coin. I hope that made sense...

Our motives are different for wanting to move. We are talking it over on a weekly basis. I think we have reached a consensus...not right now but not never. He has a few remaining irons in the fire that he needs to straighten out. I am ready to go in a heartbeat, but I will admit my house is awfully nice to live in. We will have a tough time duplicating the quality of our current living quarters. I don't want to see him (and definitely not me) return to w*rk for any reason.

So we will both do short trips together once the weather clears. I'm happy with that.

Compromise is a beautiful thing.

[Amethyst]

I knew you'd miss your pretty house. Congratulations on a decision that makes you happy!

Amethyst

[bssc]

Congratulations on being flexible. One less thing to worry about.

[TromboneAl]

You need to add up all the projected selling, buying, and moving expenses and put them in the fun money bucket!

[Midpack]

If it makes you happy, we're happy for you as others have said - seriously. I've never lived in NOLA or Springfield but I've lived several places down south and several in the midwest and I'd guess they are radically different. NOLA would have to be a lot more fun and interesting. The midwest is safe and low cost, but pretty boring by comparison (others are welcome to their opinions, but after 28 years my POV is firm).

And if you're having any second thoughts, there's no reason at all. You have your whole lives to change your mind again - enjoy yourselves.

[Moemg]

[QUOTE=W2R;1034893]Frank made a firm and momentous decision. We are going to stay in New Orleans for the foreseeable future and that is that, case closed.

His reasons are many, including the economy and the location of opportunities for him to find an ESR job if needed. But regardless of his reasons, the upshot of it is that we will be staying in New Orleans.

[QUOTE]


Well I have only two comments
1- Enjoy your fixed up house in an area you like .Good decision !
2- Guys do not try this at home . After giving away most of our furniture and working like a dog to fix up a house most women will be pretty pissed by your change in direction .

[freebird5825]

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Originally Posted by Moemg Well I have only two comments 1- Enjoy your fixed up house in an area you like .Good decision ! 2- Guys do not try this at home . After giving away most of our furniture and working like a dog to fix up a house most women will be pretty pissed by your change in direction .

I firmly believe that an appropriate "false start penalty" should be assessed.

Whaddaya think, forum ladies?

[W2R]

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Originally Posted by freebird5825 I firmly believe that an appropriate "false start penalty" should be assessed. Whaddaya think, forum ladies?

Well, yesterday he volunteered to help me move around and rearrange ALL the furniture in my den and living room, and put down a 10'x14' rug, then arrange the furniture on top of the rug - - and he voluntarily vacuumed the rug and under the rug in the process.... I didn't even have to ask! Then he spent the morning with me shopping and said he was happy to do so. Guess that's a start, right?

We have a pretty good relationship going, and have for over a decade. Lots of give and take, plenty of both on either side. The nice thing about having a good relationship, is that we don't have to play games or keep score.

[REWahoo]

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Originally Posted by W2R Well, yesterday he helped me move around and rearrange ALL the furniture in my den and living room, and put down a 10'x14' rug - - then he voluntarily vacuumed it.... Then he spent the morning with me shopping and said he was happy to do so. Guess that's a start, right?

Wow. He must sense he's in deep kimchi...

[freebird5825]

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Originally Posted by W2R Well, yesterday he helped me move around and rearrange ALL the furniture in my den and living room, and put down a 10'x14' rug, then arrange the furniture on top of the rug - - and he voluntarily vacuumed the rug and under the rug in the process.... Then he spent the morning with me shopping and said he was happy to do so. Guess that's a start, right? We have a pretty good relationship going. Lots of give and take, plenty of both on either side.

Shoot for something BIG and EXPENSIVE.

[Bestwifeever]

Is that a new rug, W2R?

You really are in a win win position--your lovely house, a neighborhood you enjoy, and the stress of the move has evaporated. I think Frank knew what he was doing when he thought this through, but don't let him know that just yet .