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Old 10-20-2015, 06:44 PM   #21
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I think khaki's and a golf shirt would make you look cool and relaxed. Add some penny loafers with matching man-bag and you're good to go.

Edit: If it's cool, toss a corduroy jacket (with elbow patches, of course) over the golf shirt.
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Old 10-20-2015, 06:44 PM   #22
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I don't own a black tie attire (and I would rather donate money to a charity anyway, than buy new clothes).
I happen to have a full white-tie set (from my brother's wedding) or I could downgrade to a business suit.
Well if you don't want to attend and would like to donate to the charity then that is one thing, but if it were me, and I were going, then I would probably just rent the tux.

Your price of admission is not just to the event, but also to be part of The Experience, ie to be surrounded by folks in black tie.

If you do not comply with the dress requests, then you could be seen as degrading the experience of the others.
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So much depends on the particular event/locale. I own a couple of tuxes and we love to dress up--assuming I can't wear shorts and flipflops. BUT, probably a majority of the "black tie optional" events in recent years have involved me wearing a dark suit. I'd investigate. Do they have a web (or facebook) page with pictures of last year's event attendees?
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BUT, probably a majority of the "black tie optional" events in recent years have involved me wearing a dark suit.
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DW & myself are going to a charity ball, where dress code is black tie for gentlemen and holiday formal for ladies.
How did this morph into "black tie optional?" It seems clear enough to me what is specified.

Why isn't a supposed millionaire willing to spend a small amount to conform with a social event?
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I have a tux and like to wear it on the few occasions when it is appropriate but I have not been to a formal event in years that was populated by less than 30% suits - usually more. If possible, check with someone who has been to one of the events before and find out if it is black tie optional in practice. If the vast majority do wear formal wear, follow Ha's suggestion and rent. I would feel more inappropriate in an outfit mismatched for the season than in a suit.
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IMHO this falls into the "just follow the rules and don't sweat it" category. I agree with Ha. Just rent a tux, and enjoy the evening. The cost will not impact your lifestyle.
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I was faced with a similar issue some years back and decided I wouldn't be pressured into wasting money on a tux rental for a couple of hours. I wore a dark suit and it was fine. Others confided in me that they felt railroaded into the tux rental.

So, my vote is to do what makes you happy - they don't get to ask you for money and tell you what to wear.
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Here you go: Emily Post spells out dress codes from white tie to casual: Attire Guide: Dress Codes from Casual to White Tie - The Emily Post Institute, Inc.
Bestwife, that post was incredibly clear and helpful. Thanks!
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Ask your wife what she wants you to wear !
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