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Never wanted kids, have no kids 59 37.82%
Never wanted kids, but, surprise! had kids 2 1.28%
Wanted kids and had one 23 14.74%
Wanted kids and had two 48 30.77%
Wanted kids and had three 15 9.62%
Wanted kids..but had too many (over 3)! 4 2.56%
No kids of my own but mate did have young (-18) kids 1 0.64%
No kids of my own and mate's kids are out of the house 4 2.56%
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Old 02-27-2008, 09:46 AM   #21
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No one yet admitting to a surprise kid they didn't want...must mean the buyer's regret fades with time! LOL!
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Old 02-27-2008, 09:57 AM   #22
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Originally Posted by Orchidflower View Post
As we all know, children come at a high financial cost; and wondered how many of us on this board did or did not have children of our own. And, if we did, how many did we have?
I was reading one of the older posts, and was surprised at the large number of members here who never had or raised any children. much did this help you get to early retirement or, at the very least, allow you to accumulate your mega-bucks towards retirement later? Alot, I suspect, because kids do cost money. Let's test this theory!
The coming of my kid forced me to start thinking about money and the future, and inspired me to get serious about saving and investment. (Classic impending fatherhood response.) So if I do have mega-bucks in retirement then yes, it will probably be attributable to having had a kid.

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Old 02-27-2008, 10:02 AM   #23
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When people ask me if I have any kids, I tell them "none that I know of". Since I'm a woman, most look at me kind of funny. A few get it.
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Old 02-27-2008, 10:29 AM   #24
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We originally wanted 4 kids. We had 2 boys, who are now 23 and 21. After the 2nd one I expected that I'd want to keep going. When he got to the age when we'd go ahead with a third, I just didn't feel like anything was missing and didn't feel the need to add another one. If we'd have had the urge to go for a third or fourth it would have been easy enough, we were all set up for babies. But we just felt complete with the 2 sons we had.

Thinking about it later I realized the house would have felt a lot smaller with a third and fourth. We would have needed a minivan. College costs would have multiplied.

If we really wanted to have more we would have done it besides the costs, because the pleasures far outweigh the negatives. It's been the most fun we could ever have.
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Old 02-27-2008, 10:51 AM   #25
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Never wanted kids of my own, but my 2nd wife has a grown daughter with a 6 y.o. son. So, I really did have my grandkids first.
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Old 02-27-2008, 10:58 AM   #26
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When people ask me if I have any kids, I tell them "none that I know of". Since I'm a woman, most look at me kind of funny. A few get it.

Hey thats my line!
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Old 02-27-2008, 11:02 AM   #27
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Wanted to have two children, but was blessed with only one.

She's now nearly 26 and is my proudest achievement, without a doubt. Not to say that every day was wonderful -- wouldn't want to repeat those teen years! -- but overall, she really made us a family.
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Don't like them.

Didn't want them.

Didn't have any.

I very much do not like noise and very much do like sleep.
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Old 02-27-2008, 11:12 AM   #29
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Hey thats my line!
Yeah, but it's funnier coming from a woman.
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Old 02-27-2008, 11:40 AM   #30
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We wanted kids and had three. Daughter 30 and sons 26 and 23. I would give a year of my life to hold each of them as babies again for one hour. I would not want to think of life without them in it.
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Old 02-27-2008, 11:55 AM   #31
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I thought I wanted a couple of 'em when I was young. But the older I got and the more I wanted early retirement, a low-maintenance lifestyle and had a lower and lower tolerance for noise, the more I realized it was a bad idea. So we never had one, and I had a vasectomy performed in 1999 to make sure.

I like well-behaved children in controlled doses. But not under my roof on a permanent basis.
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Need a vote that I wanted two kids and both are on the way now.
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2 boys, 8 and 10. I didn't want kids at first since I thought it would cost too much, but I'm REALLY glad my wife talked me into it.

It's a challenge every day, and a huge responsibility since they look up to me (which is scary), but I love help raising my two boys and really enjoy hanging out with them.
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Old 02-27-2008, 03:58 PM   #34
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When the young wife and I got married, we assumed we would have kids, but as we went along in life, it always seemed that the time was just not propitious to do so. ("shouldn't we wait until I'm out of the Navy", then grad school for each of us sequentially, then the stresses of new careers, etc. etc.). Then one day we woke up and discovered that were old, didn't have any children and were quite happy that way.
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Didn't really think about it much. Ended up with 3 here and 2 in heaven.

I have the patience and energy now to deal with any 2 of the 3 at any given point in time. All 3 at once is a bit overwhelming but I'm adjusting.

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We had two daughters, now ages 27 and 22. They've given us three grandkids with a fourth one on the way. We can't imagine life without them and are happy to have them all living nearby. We get to see them almost every week. We are glad we had them when we were younger. We crave peace and quiet more now so occasional visits work best for us. Can't imagine having little ones in the house 24/7 at this age.
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We didn't want kids from day 1, and we stuck to our plan. I'm glad we didnt have any, because I wouldn't want any of the crap our friends/relatives go through with theirs.
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Old 02-27-2008, 06:23 PM   #38
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Always liked children, but never found the right woman to marry (not that this is a requirement). Then at 40, girlfriend then, wife now, got pregnant with daughter number 1 and we had daughter number 2, seven months ago. Greatest thing that ever happened to me. 16 months to FIRE. Can't wait to be able to spend more time with them.
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Always wanted to have children and we have 2, son 29 yrs and a daughter 19 yrs. I am so glad that we had our children. I have been waiting a long time to be a grandma and will be one in 07/08! I can't wait. Hopefully, we will find out Monday whether it will be a granddaughter or a grandson.

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