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Never wanted kids, have no kids 59 37.82%
Never wanted kids, but, surprise! had kids 2 1.28%
Wanted kids and had one 23 14.74%
Wanted kids and had two 48 30.77%
Wanted kids and had three 15 9.62%
Wanted kids..but had too many (over 3)! 4 2.56%
No kids of my own but mate did have young (-18) kids 1 0.64%
No kids of my own and mate's kids are out of the house 4 2.56%
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Old 02-27-2008, 08:55 AM   #1
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Children: You did or did not have them poll?

As we all know, children come at a high financial cost; and wondered how many of us on this board did or did not have children of our own. And, if we did, how many did we have?
I was reading one of the older posts, and was surprised at the large number of members here who never had or raised any children. Hmmm...how much did this help you get to early retirement or, at the very least, allow you to accumulate your mega-bucks towards retirement later? Alot, I suspect, because kids do cost money. Let's test this theory!
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Old 02-27-2008, 08:59 AM   #2
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2 kids, one of each now 34 and 31 years old. Sort of dating myself. (heh)
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Sort of dating myself.
Isn't that illegal in Florida?
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2 kids, one of each now 39 and 35. Would do it the same again.
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I had one. He has cost me a ton of money with special schools and medical visits when he was younger, but I would do it all over again. I received more pure joy from raising him than anything else I have ever done....most days. (He turned out ok...finished college, studying for exams now and planning his future.)
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It may be in Florida, but it does not appear to be in East Texas!
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No kids, didn't want any. Was afraid I'd get one like me.
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No kids, may adopt down the road. Had the plumbing disconnected so there's no surprises.

We still practice a lot though, just in case.
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Old 02-27-2008, 09:22 AM   #9
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What about no kids yet? The poll needs that option.
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Old 02-27-2008, 09:28 AM   #10
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We wanted kids but were unable to successfully achieve the goal - you should add that option to your poll.
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Old 02-27-2008, 09:45 AM   #11
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Had my vasectomy at 27, as soon as I found a urologist that would fix a young single (several others
refused, claiming I would change my mind about children). One of my better decisions. I have always
been much better with dogs.
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Old 02-27-2008, 09:57 AM   #12
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Had my vasectomy at 27, as soon as I found a urologist that would fix a young single (several others
refused, claiming I would change my mind about children). One of my better decisions. I have always
been much better with dogs.
About the same age here but married... I wonder if that made a difference or if it's just different here, first guy was more than willing.

edit: maybe he realized it'd be best for the world if there weren't more of me
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We have one child, 19 months old. If it were up to me we'd have one more. If it were up to the wife we'd have two or four or five more. I guess we'll have to see who wins out in that one. God, I hope it's me.
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Have 3....17 yr old son, and daughters 12 and 9. No regrets. Children are such a blessing.
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I am not retired yet, and I voted "Never wanted kids, have no kids" but that doesn't mean I actively planned to not have kids. I like babies and children.

The time simply got away from me. I took too long to grow up--I still might not be done.

Now, it's too late for me to have one biologically, and I'm with a partner who doesn't want to have children. Even if he did, I am not sure we could swing the responsibilities financially and guidance-wise.

Not to ignore the financial impact of having kids, but I see the commitment in time, effort, and attention as heavier responsibilities than the financial one.
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Never wanted any myself and ended up being unable to have them, wish I'd known that earlier, I would have saved a bundle on BC. Married a man with grown children, youngest was 16 when we met, we now have 6 grandchildren with one great grandchild due next month. He has no regrets about having them.
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My ex and I wanted kids, and had one. She is so dear to me, and I wouldn't go back and do anything differently even if I could. We had never been around children, and my baby was the first I had ever held! What an awesome experience. We went all out trying to give her the best parenting a child could possibly have, despite our inexperience with kids.

But you know that show, "Eight is Enough!"? After finding out what taking care of a real live baby is REALLY like, we decided that for us, "One is Enough!"
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I wanted kids and had two . My daughter is 30 and my son would be 36.
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I fall somewhere between the options. I always thought I'd have kids but between putting myself through college and grad school, then pursuing the career, and not meeting the right person to have kids WITH... I ended up without any.

There's always "what if?" but I figure that if I'd wanted them badly enough I would have found a "donor" and taken the time.
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