Join Early Retirement Today
Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
cost sharing: single person with a couple
Old 12-16-2015, 08:51 PM   #1
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: Winnipeg
Posts: 1,295
cost sharing: single person with a couple

I was talking to co-worker "Bob" today who has a one hour commute and car pools with a married couple that live near him. Bob and the husband of the couple alternate driving a week at a time. That got me thinking...Bob is one person and the couple are two people, yet Bob drives half the time instead of a third of the time. Had the married couple not been married, each person would drive a third of the time. Is Bob getting ripped off or is it normal to consider a couple as "one" when it comes to cost splitting?

Another twist...suppose Bob and the married couple share a 2 bedroom vacation unit for a week. Bob uses one bedroom and the couple uses the other bedroom, but the three of them obviously share the common areas in the unit. Should Bob pay a third or half?
__________________

__________________
Music Lover is offline   Reply With Quote
Join the #1 Early Retirement and Financial Independence Forum Today - It's Totally Free!

Are you planning to be financially independent as early as possible so you can live life on your own terms? Discuss successful investing strategies, asset allocation models, tax strategies and other related topics in our online forum community. Our members range from young folks just starting their journey to financial independence, military retirees and even multimillionaires. No matter where you fit in you'll find that Early-Retirement.org is a great community to join. Best of all it's totally FREE!

You are currently viewing our boards as a guest so you have limited access to our community. Please take the time to register and you will gain a lot of great new features including; the ability to participate in discussions, network with our members, see fewer ads, upload photographs, create a retirement blog, send private messages and so much, much more!

Old 12-16-2015, 08:58 PM   #2
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
haha's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: Hooverville
Posts: 22,380
Quote:
Originally Posted by Music Lover View Post
I was talking to co-worker "Bob" today who has a one hour commute and car pools with a married couple that live near him. Bob and the husband of the couple alternate driving a week at a time. That got me thinking...Bob is one person and the couple are two people, yet Bob drives half the time instead of a third of the time. Had the married couple not been married, each person would drive a third of the time. Is Bob getting ripped off or is it normal to consider a couple as "one" when it comes to cost splitting?

Another twist...suppose Bob and the married couple share a 2 bedroom vacation unit for a week. Bob uses one bedroom and the couple uses the other bedroom, but the three of them obviously share the common areas in the unit. Should Bob pay a third or half?
I take it that you are Bob? If not, give it a rest.

Ha
__________________

__________________
"As a general rule, the more dangerous or inappropriate a conversation, the more interesting it is."-Scott Adams
haha is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 09:01 PM   #3
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: Winnipeg
Posts: 1,295
Quote:
Originally Posted by haha View Post
I take it that you are Bob? If not, give it a rest.

Ha
I'm not Bob. I was simply curious how people view cost sharing when it's one person and a couple.
__________________
Music Lover is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 09:02 PM   #4
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
Moemg's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Sarasota,fl.
Posts: 10,031
Quote:
Originally Posted by Music Lover View Post
Another twist...suppose Bob and the married couple share a 2 bedroom vacation unit for a week. Bob uses one bedroom and the couple uses the other bedroom, but the three of them obviously share the common areas in the unit. Should Bob pay a third or half?
Depends on whether they share the wife .
__________________
Moemg is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 09:17 PM   #5
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
haha's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: Hooverville
Posts: 22,380
Quote:
Originally Posted by Moemg View Post
Depends on whether they share the wife .
LBYM anyway.

Ha
__________________
"As a general rule, the more dangerous or inappropriate a conversation, the more interesting it is."-Scott Adams
haha is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 09:25 PM   #6
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
easysurfer's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 7,884
Quote:
Originally Posted by Music Lover View Post
I'm not Bob. I was simply curious how people view cost sharing when it's one person and a couple.
It's still one to one. Bob is one person and the couple is one unit.

This is not different than when you IM someone and the couple shares a email or screen name. No difference.
__________________
Have you ever seen a headstone with these words
"If only I had spent more time at work" ... from "Busy Man" sung by Billy Ray Cyrus
easysurfer is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 09:30 PM   #7
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Posts: 11,017
I don't think it matters too much how they split the cost as long as they all agree beforehand. Either way, they are all benefiting.
__________________
Meadbh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 09:35 PM   #8
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
easysurfer's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 7,884
Quote:
Originally Posted by Meadbh View Post
I don't think it matters too much how they split the cost as long as they all agree beforehand. Either way, they are all benefiting.
+1. To agree before hand is the key.

Similar of if a group of folks go out do dinner. Some single, others in a family. I did that recently in a family gathering. We decided to just split the number total bill by the number of people. That way, if a single person only pays his/her amount and the families can work things out amongst themselves on who pays what portion.

p.s. I was just joshing about the one unit with sharing emails/screen names.
__________________
Have you ever seen a headstone with these words
"If only I had spent more time at work" ... from "Busy Man" sung by Billy Ray Cyrus
easysurfer is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 09:43 PM   #9
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Sunset's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: Chicago
Posts: 4,712
What if the married couple only have 1 car ? Do they each drive 1/2 a car for a week and then Bob drives his ??

For retaurants and even vacations I think per person is the way to split it, but for the car driving, its not worth it.

Bob is still saving 50% compared to if he drove himself all the time.
__________________
Sunset is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 10:07 PM   #10
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
 
Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 13,256
On the OP question.... I would assume that since all are going in the same car, they are all going to the same place (or close)...

So, the couple would be going on their own... one car, two people....

Now Bob comes into the mix... it is not 3 people, but two vehicles that are doing the commute... so alternating is the right thing to do...


As far as the vacation rental, the same applies... two sleeping units, split it in half... now if Bob asks a few of his female friends along for company... then all can have a good time
__________________
Texas Proud is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-16-2015, 10:14 PM   #11
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
Mulligan's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 7,369
Quote:
Originally Posted by Texas Proud View Post
On the OP question.... I would assume that since all are going in the same car, they are all going to the same place (or close)...

So, the couple would be going on their own... one car, two people....

Now Bob comes into the mix... it is not 3 people, but two vehicles that are doing the commute... so alternating is the right thing to do...


As far as the vacation rental, the same applies... two sleeping units, split it in half... now if Bob asks a few of his female friends along for company... then all can have a good time

I got ripped off then... Shared a vacation rental home with 2 couples who both had 2 children last summer. I paid 1/3 despite being one room, one person, and they used 4 rooms. But my friend probably didn't put much thought into the billing process and I wasn't bothered by it or I would have said something....or just not went.


Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk
__________________
Mulligan is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 02:36 AM   #12
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
target2019's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 3,705
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mulligan View Post
I got ripped off then... Shared a vacation rental home with 2 couples who both had 2 children last summer. I paid 1/3 despite being one room, one person, and they used 4 rooms. But my friend probably didn't put much thought into the billing process and I wasn't bothered by it or I would have said something....or just not went.
You could assess a kiddie tax!
😆
__________________
target2019 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 06:13 AM   #13
Moderator
Sarah in SC's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Charleston, SC
Posts: 13,456
We went on a weekend trip with another couple and a single friend years ago and they pulled this on her. She still brings up their "couple math" every now and again, and how unfair it was for her to pay a third of the rental!

As for the carpool, if he entered into the plan willingly, then it isn't probably a big deal. My single friend wasn't consulted ahead of time, just assessed her portion.
__________________
“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it's worth watching.”
Gerard Arthur Way

Sarah in SC is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 06:29 AM   #14
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Senator's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Eagan, MN
Posts: 3,043
They should split 50/50, after all, it is "double occupancy required".

If I go on a cruise as a single, I pay a higher rate than a couple would pay on a per-person basis. A couple is no more expensive than a single in a car pool. At a restaurant, a couple is two meals, so it makes sense to split each one of them out.

It depends on what the situation is. In a two-bedroom vacation place, assuming equal size beds and bedrooms, a single and a couple would split 50/50. The single person could bring another person, or two, or change people every night, and the cost would be the same.

Just remember, a single person has the advantage as they can either be single, or not. The couple is stuck with each other. They have a built in penalty...
__________________
FIRE no later than 7/5/2016 at 56 (done), securing '16 401K match (done), getting '15 401K match (done), LTI Bonus (done), Perf bonus (done), maxing out 401K (done), picking up 1,000 hours to get another year of pension (done), July 1st benefits (vacation day, healthcare) (done), July 4th holiday. 0 days left. (done) OFFICIALLY RETIRED 7/5/2016!!
Senator is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 06:38 AM   #15
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Dec 2015
Posts: 1,086
I have actually lived this scenario. 40 years ago, in college, my wife and I shared a 2 bedroom apartment with a single guy. I felt like a 50-50 split would be fair, but he felt that since there were 2 of us and one of him, he should pay a third.

I didn't really agree with his line of thinking, but I did agree to his terms. We are close friends to this day.
__________________
HadEnuff is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 07:08 AM   #16
Recycles dryer sheets
latexman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Apex, NC
Posts: 146
"You get what you negotiate."
__________________
latexman is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 07:18 AM   #17
Full time employment: Posting here.
Philliefan33's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2014
Posts: 729
My daughter rents a three-bedroom house with an unmarried couple. They split the cost three ways. They are happy with the arrangement-- it seems fair since the couple has the largest bedroom and the male half of the couple uses the third bedroom as his man cave.
__________________
Philliefan33 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 07:19 AM   #18
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
donheff's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Washington, DC
Posts: 8,634
It usually seems pretty easy to work out a sensible arrangement. Splitting days with a car between the two cars seems OK, splitting rentals between two similar rooms seems OK. Breaking a restaurant bill in two between two couples seems OK. In thirds between a single and a couple seems about right. I don't enjoy going out with the few people I know who insist on tracking every penny on a restaurant bill and splitting it up precisely. If you are that tight, don't eat out. Or maybe go to a restaurant that tracks orders and readily splits bills up individually.
__________________
Every man is, or hopes to be, an Idler. -- Samuel Johnson
donheff is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 07:30 AM   #19
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
kcowan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Pacific latitude 20/49
Posts: 5,705
Send a message via Skype™ to kcowan
We shared a condo in Paris with another couple for a week and we took the master suite because we paid. Then in Nice, they paid and took the larger bedroom. Paris was more expensive than Nice but not by much.
__________________
For the fun of it...Keith
kcowan is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-17-2015, 08:11 AM   #20
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
 
Join Date: Dec 2014
Posts: 1,650
Quote:
Originally Posted by donheff View Post
I don't enjoy going out with the few people I know who insist on tracking every penny on a restaurant bill and splitting it up precisely. If you are that tight, don't eat out. Or maybe go to a restaurant that tracks orders and readily splits bills up individually.
I think most restaurants will track bills the way you want if you ask up front. I don't care to track each penny. But I'm not real thrilled when most of the other's bills are 3 times or more what mine is individually. Between over eating (or ordering) and lots of alcohol it is easy to hit 3 X or more.

But then we don't eat out often... even when it is just us.
__________________

__________________
bingybear is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Trend towards high deductible plans, cost-shifting/cost-sharing explanade Health and Early Retirement 33 12-26-2015 09:25 PM
Will for Single Person healthyandfun Other topics 20 01-21-2015 12:49 AM
Retiring as a single person. nun Life after FIRE 36 10-10-2013 05:29 PM
Are you a private person or a people person? easysurfer Other topics 95 11-23-2010 10:01 PM

 

 
All times are GMT -6. The time now is 02:34 AM.
 
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8 Beta 1
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.