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10-14-2009, 09:19 PM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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Hey old enough to know better... 
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10-14-2009, 09:32 PM
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Right. Ain't even reached your prime, I'd bet .
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Tampa, FL (32.9% of the way to ESR. Really. I mean it. Seriously. )
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10-26-2009, 02:21 PM
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Recycles dryer sheets
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Twice my age! Perfect  !
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I get by with a little help from my friends....ta ta ta ta ta...
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10-14-2009, 09:16 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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I like cougars..........then again, I like cheetahs too......... 
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10-14-2009, 09:25 PM
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Dryer sheet aficionado
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I was a 19 year old very naive AF cadet on my first day of summer duty in the backseat of an F-4 at Homestead AFB and got picked up at the Officer's Club by a 40 year old Captain (nurse). Best summer of my life. I never even went back to my room for my suitcase. 500 knots inverted, hanging from the straps, over the Everglades, was nothing compared to my Cougar. At this age, I would give anything to re-do the F-4 part. Ladies, go for it, and the younger the better. There were no regrets on either side and it ended when I HAD to go back to school.
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10-14-2009, 09:37 PM
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I do have two good friends whose second husbands are ten years their juniors (both husbands are more mature than the first husbands were!). But I don't think my friends were technically cougars as they were the ones being pursued.
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10-14-2009, 10:09 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Hmmmm- ? 7 yrs older to 16 yrs younger if memory serves - I did live 30 yrs in New Orleans.
So the thing in the right ear is probably a hearing aid - not a shape adjustment knob?
eh?
heh heh heh -   .
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10-14-2009, 10:39 PM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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Hey I'm 60, any Cougar to me would most likely be using a walker.
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10-15-2009, 04:50 AM
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Full time employment: Posting here.
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A cougar for me would probably be that old bat on the Golden Girls
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10-15-2009, 07:28 AM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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Location: 43N Latitude, NY
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Biggest age difference I was ever involved in was me in my late teens (18 and 19) dating 2 guys in their early 30s. Um, not at the same time for the benefit of my fellow gutterminds.
I was always more mature than my chronological years, so actually both were a good fit.
I never dated a man my own age again...
until...<drum roll>...
dh2b is 16 months younger. But he acted a lot older so I didn't realize.
My personal mission is to get him to act like a kid more often.
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"Happiness depends upon ourselves." - Aristotle
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10-15-2009, 08:38 AM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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Location: Illinois-Iowa border town on the 'Ole Mississippi River
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I always have balked at that philosophy that seems most popular: men must be at least older than the woman. Why? I just don't get what that does for the man's ego, which is what it is based on. Can some guy explain that to me?
It's noticeable if you stroll thru the personal ads, too, because you have 60 year old guys asking for women who are 45, for example, and it happens over and over and over. By 60, I would hope, a man is more secure than that. What's with the age thing with guys?
Happily, times have changed some and it is not uncommon for older women--long ignored by the older men their age--going for the younger men and the younger men going for the older women. Of course, you will occasionally get some older women who will intentionally embarrass the older woman by saying, "...and what would your son like to eat?" But that might just be their own hang-up or even jealousy.
As for me, I want someone my own age or thereabouts, but my girlfriends who are married say go for a guy 5-7 years younger so we age at the same rate (figuring men die earlier than women the same age).
I did have one girlfriend who married a guy from her daughter's high school class. She had some premature aging and he looked his age, but together they looked totally like mother and son (not good). They stayed married for 15 years--just as long as she totally supported him financially! Yeah, that would happen with me...not. Some women are either desperate or just plain stupid (even with her law degree), but it do take all kinds to make a world.
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10-15-2009, 10:37 AM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Originally Posted by Orchidflower
I always have balked at that philosophy that seems most popular: men must be at least older than the woman. Why? I just don't get what that does for the man's ego, which is what it is based on. Can some guy explain that to me?
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I think it is kind of a societal norm that goes back a few generations. Russia is an interesting example. It is NOT uncommon at ALL for a 20 year old woman to marry a 50 year old man, it happens all the time, from what I understand......
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It's noticeable if you stroll thru the personal ads, too, because you have 60 year old guys asking for women who are 45, for example, and it happens over and over and over. By 60, I would hope, a man is more secure than that. What's with the age thing with guys?
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A lot of those guys are probably recently divorced, and don't want another woman the same age as their ex, figuring that all woman that age have issues....... More likely, he wants to know he still "has the mojo"........
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I did have one girlfriend who married a guy from her daughter's high school class. She had some premature aging and he looked his age, but together they looked totally like mother and son (not good). They stayed married for 15 years--just as long as she totally supported him financially! Yeah, that would happen with me...not. Some women are either desperate or just plain stupid (even with her law degree), but it do take all kinds to make a world.
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Why does that make your friend desperate or stupid? Obviously they made it work for 15 years.........maybe the companionship made her feel younger..........
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10-15-2009, 10:44 AM
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Good grief, I'm too old for a 60 year old man? 
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10-15-2009, 01:43 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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No....more likely, you are too young at heart for a 60 year old man.........
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10-15-2009, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Orchidflower
I always have balked at that philosophy that seems most popular: men must be at least older than the woman. Why? I just don't get what that does for the man's ego, which is what it is based on. Can some guy explain that to me?
It's noticeable if you stroll thru the personal ads, too, because you have 60 year old guys asking for women who are 45, for example, and it happens over and over and over. By 60, I would hope, a man is more secure than that. What's with the age thing with guys?
Happily, times have changed some and it is not uncommon for older women--long ignored by the older men their age--going for the younger men and the younger men going for the older women. Of course, you will occasionally get some older women who will intentionally embarrass the older woman by saying, "...and what would your son like to eat?" But that might just be their own hang-up or even jealousy.
As for me, I want someone my own age or thereabouts, but my girlfriends who are married say go for a guy 5-7 years younger so we age at the same rate (figuring men die earlier than women the same age).
I did have one girlfriend who married a guy from her daughter's high school class. She had some premature aging and he looked his age, but together they looked totally like mother and son (not good). They stayed married for 15 years--just as long as she totally supported him financially! Yeah, that would happen with me...not. Some women are either desperate or just plain stupid (even with her law degree), but it do take all kinds to make a world.
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It's not just the men in the personals.... when I was looking.. there were plenty of women who would put down the age the wanted at about 5 years younger to their age.. I would say less than half of the women had an age request that was more than 2 years older than they were...
One of the downsides of this age difference relationship... I have seen this one that dates younger guys... who do not have money... and are not interested in a 'relationship'.... all the guy wants is sex (well, one of the guys also wanted money).. and the 'cougar' is willing to do it because it makes them feel 'wanted' or 'needed'... I say they are being used... SOO, the guy moves on after awhile and the gal is 'devestated'... until she goes to the bar and finds another, thinking this time it will work...
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10-15-2009, 02:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Texas Proud
"One of the downsides of this age difference relationship... I have seen this one that dates younger guys... who do not have money... and are not interested in a 'relationship'.... all the guy wants is sex (well, one of the guys also wanted money).. and the 'cougar' is willing to do it because it makes them feel 'wanted' or 'needed'... I say they are being used... SOO, the guy moves on after awhile and the gal is 'devestated'... until she goes to the bar and finds another, thinking this time it will work...
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Yes, I know this is shocking, but many older women who date much younger men are simply looking for fun, friendship and, yes, hot sex, too. But, I get your point that there are some women who get into something with a younger, better looking usually guy and then become just devastated when it's over. I used to swim with a gal like that and it was more than sad to listen to her. However, I'm not of the same mindset...having been called a female chauvenist pig by one of my ex-professors in college (mull that one over).
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10-15-2009, 05:13 PM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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Originally Posted by Orchidflower
Yes, I know this is shocking, but many older women who date much younger men are simply looking for fun, friendship and, yes, hot sex, too. But, I get your point that there are some women who get into something with a younger, better looking usually guy and then become just devastated when it's over. I used to swim with a gal like that and it was more than sad to listen to her. However, I'm not of the same mindset...having been called a female chauvenist pig by one of my ex-professors in college (mull that one over).
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I agree... if the woman is looking for 'hot sex' as you say... go for it.. but this gal would always dream that it was 'for real' and the guy really liked her... but some 'pay for play' as it were... buying stuff for the guy or even making the truck payment... the worse was the guy who lived with her, did not work, bought drugs with her money and had a girlfriend on the side who had his child.... so for me, 'pay for play' crosses the line to prostitution IMO...
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10-15-2009, 09:17 AM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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10-15-2009, 09:29 AM
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from the article...
"the authors found that women liked the vitality the younger man brought into their lives, and men liked the maturity and confidence in the women"
And I'm going to behave this time..from my own real life experience...when I found myself involuntarily single at age 46, there were very few single men in the same age or just slightly older group. It's just the way it happens in remote areas.
"All the good ones are taken" and all that jazz.
I had a few younger guys making the moves. I never ruled out a younger guy because of their age. 
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10-15-2009, 10:08 AM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Or stamina.......... 
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