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Old 10-15-2009, 11:10 AM   #61
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better watch out for them young whipper snappers making the moves..
No kiss and tell, kids.
Let's just say there were a lot of things I was watching.

but then dh2b arrived to save the day...ta da daaaaaaa
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Old 10-15-2009, 11:15 AM   #62
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Well, freebird...it looks like you and I were on same wave length back in the day.

If I dated a man twice my age now, he'd have to be 102.
Good thing we didn't grow up together. Oh my myyyyyyyyyy

I had a more mature guy flirting with me in the doc's office last week. I'll guess he was in his mid 60s.
He and I were the only ones in the waiting room for about half an hour.
I got silly and said "Well looks like we have the whole place to ourselves, doesn't it?"
I made this guy's day. He said goodbye VERY nicely when I came back out of the visit. Harmless flirting keeps us all young!
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I always have balked at that philosophy that seems most popular: men must be at least older than the woman. Why? I just don't get what that does for the man's ego, which is what it is based on. Can some guy explain that to me?
It's noticeable if you stroll thru the personal ads, too, because you have 60 year old guys asking for women who are 45, for example, and it happens over and over and over. By 60, I would hope, a man is more secure than that. What's with the age thing with guys?
Happily, times have changed some and it is not uncommon for older women--long ignored by the older men their age--going for the younger men and the younger men going for the older women. Of course, you will occasionally get some older women who will intentionally embarrass the older woman by saying, "...and what would your son like to eat?" But that might just be their own hang-up or even jealousy.
As for me, I want someone my own age or thereabouts, but my girlfriends who are married say go for a guy 5-7 years younger so we age at the same rate (figuring men die earlier than women the same age).
I did have one girlfriend who married a guy from her daughter's high school class. She had some premature aging and he looked his age, but together they looked totally like mother and son (not good). They stayed married for 15 years--just as long as she totally supported him financially! Yeah, that would happen with me...not. Some women are either desperate or just plain stupid (even with her law degree), but it do take all kinds to make a world.

It's not just the men in the personals.... when I was looking.. there were plenty of women who would put down the age the wanted at about 5 years younger to their age.. I would say less than half of the women had an age request that was more than 2 years older than they were...

One of the downsides of this age difference relationship... I have seen this one that dates younger guys... who do not have money... and are not interested in a 'relationship'.... all the guy wants is sex (well, one of the guys also wanted money).. and the 'cougar' is willing to do it because it makes them feel 'wanted' or 'needed'... I say they are being used... SOO, the guy moves on after awhile and the gal is 'devestated'... until she goes to the bar and finds another, thinking this time it will work...
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DW is 2 1/2 yrs older than I, just below cougarhood? It is a natural fit for as as we came of age politically, socially & artistically in the same years. She looks quite young, when we ask for senior admission to movies & the like people always think it is for me & not her. Since women tend to live longer (is it 7 yrs avg?) it makes sense for the woman to be a bit older.
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A number of women I know or work with say they (in their 30s and 40s) are attracted to older men (50s and 60s), assuming they are fit and active, of course. They deny it's about the money and say it's because we're finally controlling our rutting instincts, are more mature, etc.

A disporportionate number who feel that way are from South America and western Europe.
I really get what they are saying. When I was 20 maybe 1 thought out of 10 wasn't about sex. The ratio has improved with age and opened space for deeper relationships. But it is my observation that interest in sex (or at least acting on it) decreases with age in both sexes so maybe a 60 yr old male & 40 yr old female would be a good match from that particular perspective.
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I understand that a woman younger than 35 who prefers younger men is called a Bobcat. Just so everyone is up on the vocabulary of this new science.
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I understand that a woman younger than 35 who prefers younger men is called a Bobcat. Just so everyone is up on the vocabulary of this new science.
So would a bobcat prey on a tomcat?
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Good grief, I'm too old for a 60 year old man?
No....more likely, you are too young at heart for a 60 year old man.........
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I got silly and said "Well looks like we have the whole place to ourselves, doesn't it?"
Nice guy, but an amateur. My response would have been: "How about we REALLY go to a place by ourselves"........

My uncles' favorite "line": "Let's go into a dark room, and see what develops"...........
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I understand that a woman younger than 35 who prefers younger men is called a Bobcat. Just so everyone is up on the vocabulary of this new science.
Learn something new everyday! Wow this place has a plethora of provocative publications.
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Darn, I thought a Bobcat was used for excavating dirt and doing landscaping...shows what I know........
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When I was 20 maybe 1 thought out of 10 wasn't about sex. The ratio has improved with age and opened space for deeper relationships. But it is my observation that interest in sex (or at least acting on it) decreases with age in both sexes so maybe a 60 yr old male & 40 yr old female would be a good match from that particular perspective.
Are you sure your observations were related to AGE and not MARRIAGE??
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It's a veritable cornucopia of scintillating banter........
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I really get what they are saying. When I was 20 maybe 1 thought out of 10 wasn't about sex. The ratio has improved with age and opened space for deeper relationships. But it is my observation that interest in sex (or at least acting on it) decreases with age in both sexes so maybe a 60 yr old male & 40 yr old female would be a good match from that particular perspective.
10 for 10 about sex in younger years !
My feeling about sex has always been...when you fill out a form that has two boxes labeled "M" and "F", I keep looking for the "Y" box. I've made more than 1 paperw*rk receiving clerk blush with that one.
Still a wild woman at 51. Poor dh2b.
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So would a bobcat prey on a tomcat?
A tomcat is way too old for a bobcat. He would be lucky to appeal to a cougar.
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"One of the downsides of this age difference relationship... I have seen this one that dates younger guys... who do not have money... and are not interested in a 'relationship'.... all the guy wants is sex (well, one of the guys also wanted money).. and the 'cougar' is willing to do it because it makes them feel 'wanted' or 'needed'... I say they are being used... SOO, the guy moves on after awhile and the gal is 'devestated'... until she goes to the bar and finds another, thinking this time it will work...
Yes, I know this is shocking, but many older women who date much younger men are simply looking for fun, friendship and, yes, hot sex, too. But, I get your point that there are some women who get into something with a younger, better looking usually guy and then become just devastated when it's over. I used to swim with a gal like that and it was more than sad to listen to her. However, I'm not of the same mindset...having been called a female chauvenist pig by one of my ex-professors in college (mull that one over).
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I dated a married 19 year old woman when i was 15. 4 years back then was quite the substantial age difference. she was a woman...i was a boy....but she made me a man!
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Now that sounds like every young man's dream...lucky you!
I did have a girlfriend of 38? 42? come on to my son when he was 16. I couldn't believe she did this in front of me, too (needless to say, we were no longer friends after that visit).
But my randy young son said he would have gone for it if I hadn't been around when I finally pinned him down and made him confess. Since I was around--much to her disappointment--he acted like she had cooties. I'm just a big 'ole party pooper I guess..ha! Horny old woman...
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Yes, I know this is shocking, but many older women who date much younger men are simply looking for fun, friendship and, yes, hot sex, too. But, I get your point that there are some women who get into something with a younger, better looking usually guy and then become just devastated when it's over. I used to swim with a gal like that and it was more than sad to listen to her. However, I'm not of the same mindset...having been called a female chauvenist pig by one of my ex-professors in college (mull that one over).

I agree... if the woman is looking for 'hot sex' as you say... go for it.. but this gal would always dream that it was 'for real' and the guy really liked her... but some 'pay for play' as it were... buying stuff for the guy or even making the truck payment... the worse was the guy who lived with her, did not work, bought drugs with her money and had a girlfriend on the side who had his child.... so for me, 'pay for play' crosses the line to prostitution IMO...
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