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10-27-2009, 06:44 AM
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NW: I fully agree with what youŽve just posted.
I at 60 would suspect the intentions and motives of a -letŽs say a 40/45 woman who wanted to start a sentimental relation with me. 
And I certainly believe I would be a source of malicious gossip among my friends and acquaintances.
Sexual perks? Given my age ..... 
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10-27-2009, 11:30 AM
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Originally Posted by NW-Bound
Seriously, if one were to look to date again after being divorced or widowed, wouldn't one look in his or her age group first? Sexual desire asides, isn't compatibility more guaranteed by age? I myself do not see how I would get along with a "young thing". It is unlikely she would be truly loving me, and what could we be talking about? What is in common? Am I among the few on earth who value companionship more than sex?
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Me, too. Frank and I have so much in common, due to being essentially in the same generation. He is 6 years younger than me, but still we both remember the Kennedy assassination, pay phones, the Iran hostage crisis, how to operate a sliderule, waiting for hours in gas lines, and so much else that we simply do not share with those who are much younger. I think that if I were dating someone in his 30's, I'd spend half my time explaining these things and the other half explaining why I am more interested in retiring than in training to climb Mt. Everest these days.
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10-27-2009, 12:05 PM
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Originally Posted by NW-Bound
Seriously, if one were to look to date again after being divorced or widowed, wouldn't one look in his or her age group first? Sexual desire asides, isn't compatibility more guaranteed by age? I myself do not see how I would get along with a "young thing". It is unlikely she would be truly loving me, and what could we be talking about? What is in common? Am I among the few on earth who value companionship more than sex?
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Eh...people are different; for me the age doesn't matter much. I have one stipulation however. If he doesn't make me laugh.....adios mi amigo... 
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10-27-2009, 12:26 PM
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If he doesn't make me laugh
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here ya go
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10-27-2009, 12:27 PM
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Ehhhhh....thanks Ron...but clowns creep me out....  .....
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10-27-2009, 12:45 PM
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Ehhhhh....thanks...but clowns creep me out.... ..... |
Oh, no!
With apologies to ET, SOs Robert Red-furred among the pookies. Makes me laugh.
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10-27-2009, 01:10 PM
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Is that john wayne gacy?
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10-27-2009, 01:24 PM
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"It's tough to make predictions, especially when it involves the future." ~Attributed to many
"In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. But, in practice, there is." ~(perhaps) Yogi Berra
"Those who have knowledge, don't predict. Those who predict, don't have knowledge."~ Lau tzu
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10-27-2009, 01:40 PM
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Originally Posted by calmloki
Is that john wayne gacy?
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If that is him....shame on you Ron. You are very naughty. 
Ok...give me a man with a great sense of humor without psychopathic tendencies. That shouldn't be too difficult....right? 
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10-27-2009, 12:26 PM
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I agree with bbbamI, it's not the category, it's the individual person. As far as shared history, I can't remember the last time I even thought about the day Kennedy died, or who killed John Lennon or the first moonwalk, or the day the Wall came down, let alone talked to anyone about it. Some of the most powerful experiences of my life are universal. I likely have more in common with any father of any age from anywhere than I have with a man without children. Likewise, some more particular experiences that affected me deeply were in other cultures, under a diffrent set of rules, so I really don't share any of this with anyone else that I might talk to. The greatest commonality that we all share is that we are social beings, and we are born of a woman.
The reason couples exist is that we are more or less mongamous sexually reproducing mammals. Without that, men would likely all be brigands, or dead.
John Lennon (and Kennedy) meant about as much to me as Howdy Doody, so why should shared experience with these things mean much to me?
I can know more about basic compatibility in 5 minutes on a dance floor, or a 10 minute conversation about parenting, or parents, or current affairs than any number of "where were you when" conversations.
Anyhow, I don't think it is healthy to think too much about the past. We live in the present, and we will live in the future, God willing. Occasionally we may want to get smashed and wallow in nostalgia or regret, or whatever the past holds for us, but it isn't a good daily driver.
Ha
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10-27-2009, 01:30 PM
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Originally Posted by NW-Bound
It is unlikely she would be truly loving me, and what could we be talking about?
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Well, she could love you, but I guess you don't believe that could ever happen, so obviously it won't.......
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What is in common? Am I among the few on earth who value companionship more than sex?
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Age is a factor. Tell me this, at age 20 did you value companionship more than sex? How about 30? 40? 50? I think over time companionship takes over, but everyone puts their own value on sex......... 
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10-27-2009, 01:34 PM
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Originally Posted by FinanceDude
, but everyone puts their own value on sex.........
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What was it Paul Simon said about taking comfort on 7th avenue?
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"In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. But, in practice, there is." ~(perhaps) Yogi Berra
"Those who have knowledge, don't predict. Those who predict, don't have knowledge."~ Lau tzu
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10-27-2009, 01:37 PM
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Originally Posted by FinanceDude
Well, she could love you, but I guess you don't believe that could ever happen, so obviously it won't.......
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I am neither divorced, nor widowed. And I am not looking. So there is nothing for me to know, really.
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Originally Posted by FinanceDude
Tell me this, at age 20 did you value companionship more than sex?
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YES.
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10-27-2009, 01:44 PM
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Consult with your own advisor or representative. My thoughts should not be construed as investment advice. Past performance is no guarantee of future results (love that one).......:)
This Thread is USELESS without pics.........:)
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10-27-2009, 01:49 PM
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Yeah, just don't let hypothesizin' turn into fantasizin'.
YES.
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Couple both 52-year-old, with 2 children in college. DW RE @ 50. No pension, no benefits for either of us. Working part-time for travel money (in good years that is, and for food in lean years!).
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10-27-2009, 05:30 PM
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Originally Posted by NW-Bound
It is unlikely she would be truly loving me, and what could we be talking about? What is in common??
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I endorse Haha's response to this question.
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Originally Posted by NW-Bound
Am I among the few on earth who value companionship more than sex?
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Well, I don't know - never saw any stats. They're both very important. But I never was interested in the latter without the former, so waited till I could get them both in the same package 
Amethyst
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10-27-2009, 07:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Amethyst
... But I never was interested in the latter without the former, so waited till I could get them both in the same package
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Companionship without sex would be called friendship. However, sex tends to be over-rated in my view; people enjoy the novelty with something new, which invariably wears off.
Now, I do believe in love at first sight, simply because I have experienced that myself, in my youth. You don't know that somebody at first, so how to explain that strong feeling? How do you know if the two of you would be compatible? Love at first sight is not logical. But it was not all about sex; at least that was the way with me. I could not and cannot explain it.
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10-27-2009, 08:58 PM
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Originally Posted by NW-Bound
Seriously, if one were to look to date again after being divorced or widowed, wouldn't one look in his or her age group first? Sexual desire asides, isn't compatibility more guaranteed by age? I myself do not see how I would get along with a "young thing". It is unlikely she would be truly loving me, and what could we be talking about? What is in common? Am I among the few on earth who value companionship more than sex?
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I hate to disagree with you but my husband was a lot older than me and I was crazy in love with him . The fact that he was older rarely came up . So am I the forums official reverse Cougar ?
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10-27-2009, 09:04 PM
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I hate to disagree with you but my husband was a lot older than me and I was crazy in love with him . The fact that he was older rarely came up . So am I the forums official reverse Cougar ?
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No I do not think you are a reverse cougar.
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10-27-2009, 10:40 PM
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I hate to disagree with you but my husband was a lot older than me and I was crazy in love with him . The fact that he was older rarely came up . So am I the forums official reverse Cougar ?
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Sheesh Moemg,
I was begining to think I had the only May December romance here! We can perhaps share the reverse Cougar title? We had a 30 year age difference and it was great in almost every way. His 2 oldest children never accepted me. Oh well! We had 13 wonderful years and I got to raise 2 great kids. I can honestly say that I was loved. Have been close to a few men my age and had a 30 year old trying to put the moves on. No one has sparked the intrest in too long.
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