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View Poll Results: How long did you court your most recent spouse before you got married?
I'm gay and living in a place that does not allow me to marry. 2 3.33%
I've never been married. 9 15.00%
Less than one month. 1 1.67%
One to 6 months. 6 10.00%
6 months to 1 year. 10 16.67%
1 year to 18 months. 6 10.00%
18 months to 2 years. 8 13.33%
2- 5 years. 7 11.67%
more than 5 years. 11 18.33%
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Old 04-09-2006, 03:00 AM   #1
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Just curious.
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Old 04-09-2006, 04:08 AM   #2
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Being gay doesn't necessarily exclude marriage, depending on locale and/or definition of "marriage."

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I had been living with a Flight Attendant(Female) for a couple of years, met my wife while demonstrating some OR Equipment, 5 months later , we were married.

I knew the moment I met her that it was going to happen.

FA married a University Professor, it workd out exceptional for them both, perfect couple.(She is smarter than he is, he is just more educated).
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Single. 1976-2005 a long one night stand.

Halloween Party near work at a large hotel. The plain clothes cops have me at gun point frisking me and this little 5 foot snot comes out of the crowd and starts giving them hell cause they pulled the wrong guy out of the crowd. I'm moderately blasted and flattered cause the description was for a guy ten years younger. Longer story but the rest is history.

Maybe someday I'll make it back to New Orleans - before I get too old.
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I think it was 1976 we met. Married 1986.
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I think it was 1976 we met. Married 1986.
Who has the commitment issue, you or Greg?
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1987 - Had been single for about a year from a verbally abusive relationship, sister talked me into going out with her one night, her husbands best friends dad was there, recently single also. He followed me home that night, he never left, married 10 years later because he needed health insurance, will be married 10 years this Aug so I guess it's going to work out
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Old 04-09-2006, 11:06 AM   #8
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Who has the commitment issue, you or Greg?
ReWahoo: Doubt if Martha will have to face the commitment issue as long as she keeps working.

After a year or so of "Apocolypse" full time, I'm sure that will be an option worth exploring.

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Old 04-09-2006, 11:08 AM   #9
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curious at 52? you missed all the best years.

i would echo bpp's remark. the discrimination, even when unintentional, is so much more insidious. though recognized as partners in life, after 10 years and the death of one, hardly a single str8 i know including most family & friends truly considers me widowed. somehow, after the death of the love of my life, i am just another single gay guy.

i tried to click both gay and less than 1 month but seems that's not allowed.
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curious at 52? you missed all the best years.

i would echo bpp's remark. the discrimination, even when unintentional, is so much more insidious. though recognized as partners in life, after 10 years and the death of one, hardly a single str8 i know including most family & friends truly considers me widowed. somehow, after the death of the love of my life, i am just another single gay guy.

i tried to click both gay and less than 1 month but seems that's not allowed.
hi lazy,

I hope I'm always curious. I didn't intend to discriminate in the poll. I hoped to acknowledge the discrimination that the laws enforce rather than eliminate gays from the poll. I'm afraid I'm not very graceful even though I wish I could learn to be more so.
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Who has the commitment issue, you or Greg?
That's not commitment issues, that's your spouse realizing that she's going to have to clear the decks before she's ready to tackle a project like you.

Same for me-- we started dating in 1980, got married in mid-1986, started living together after my last boomer patrol (late 1986). *I spent over 90 days looking at that shiny new wedding ring and thinking "What the heck was I thinking?!?" *So did the rest of the wardroom and probably a big part of the crew. *But I'm cautiously optimistic.

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i tried to click both gay and less than 1 month but seems that's not allowed.
See that "Edit Poll" link in blue at the bottom right? *Depending on how the poll is set up, you may be able to see it and to click on it. *Or else you'll have to nag the original poster into complying with your desires.
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. . .See that "Edit Poll" link in blue at the bottom right? *Depending on how the poll is set up, you may be able to see it and to click on it. *Or else you'll have to nag the original poster into complying with your desires.
I failed to check the box to allow multiple votes when I set the poll up. Now, when I try to edit the poll, it allows me to change the poll choices and the choices of who views the poll, but it doesn't let me change the number of votes per voter. . . Sorry.
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Old 04-09-2006, 01:39 PM   #13
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not a problem sgeeeeeee. didn't think you were discriminating. just bustin ya and taking the opportunity to make a point.
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Met my first husband in college in '93, dated 3-4 years, married in '97 and then divorced 1-2 years later depending on how you are counting.

Met DH in November of '01, moved in together in February '02 (his house burnt down so I didn't have much choice), engaged August '02, married December '02.

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Dated exactly 1 year then we got married. That was 25.5 years ago, and we're still in love.

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... his house burnt down so I didn't have much choice...
Most guys are reading this phrase, nodding their heads in admiration, and saying to themselves "Gutsy way to force the live-together issue-- wish I'd thought of doing that to my house for an insurance check!"

What's that, honey? Oh, nothing, dear-- just talking to myself...
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