Khan
Gone but not forgotten
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As a hermit and a geezer (age 56) and an introvert, I don't want to date or live with anyone ever again.
It's just not worth the trouble.
It's just not worth the trouble.
Yikes! I am having a hard time dating at 32!!! I can just imagine what it'll be like at 60!
I agree with you Ha....after a certain amount of work and time, you want someone you can click with initially....not someone you have to mold.
I have been on a few dates.....it's easier to be single!
Yes, you are wrong.That's what I'm asking for Ha Am I wrong to suspect that there ARE men out there who are actually looking for a partner? (not solely in the bedroom ) Who can accept that there are "good girls" out there (meaning not hopping in the sack right away or without an "exclusive" relationship) ?
Don't sweat it, you're 32 and a LBYM kind of woman, which makes you hot..............
I was widowed at 51 so I was forced to get a new life . I joined any clubs that looked interesting .I took classes and I joined a gym .I met some nice guys and had some fun .Rather than looking for another guy I'd advise anybody who's single to fix up your life and make it interesting .If you meet someone great if not you still have a great life .Don't look at a guy and imagine him married to you ,look at him and imagine just having fun with him.
Only on this forum! I have tried to share my dream of ER on a couple of dates, they looked at me like I had three heads.
As for the comments of building an interesting life and working on yourself....I have been doing that the last couple of years and I am in a place where a guy is not necessary....but would be the icing. I have watched too many friends just let a guy define them....I'm not doing that.
I have dated older men and men my age...most of them are still out in the playing field, not wanting to get serious.
As for the internet sites....my few experiences were not that good, but they make great stories!
Only on this forum! I have tried to share my dream of ER on a couple of dates, they looked at me like I had three heads.
I have also found that many women say they are looking for a long-term commitment (and maybe they are) but also seem interested in a sexual relationship before really getting to know someone.
Women that I work with claim I am "too picky" or set the bar too high, but I would prefer to live my single life than "settle".
I'm sure that certain single men on this board would like to know how/where you are meeting these women! Me too, since I want to be sure not to ever search there (if I am ever back "on the market").
Inquiring minds want to know.
That is an excellent outlook on dating. Good for you.
That's what I'm asking for Ha Am I wrong to suspect that there ARE men out there who are actually looking for a partner? (not solely in the bedroom ) Who can accept that there are "good girls" out there (meaning not hopping in the sack right away or without an "exclusive" relationship) ?
As much as I'm inclined to agree with such a sentiment, I feel obligated to support the effort to conduct additional research...A woman hopping in the sack right away would be appealing in the short term but repulsive in the longer term sense.
As much as I'm inclined to agree with such a sentiment, I feel obligated to support the effort to conduct additional research...
I think most researchers would agree that it's reasonable to provide access to the raw data for peer review, so to speak...Having conducted extensive research, I'd be pleased to share my findings for the reasonable sum of two dollars.
I think most researchers would agree that it's reasonable to provide access to the raw data for peer review, so to speak...
Only on this forum! I have tried to share my dream of ER on a couple of dates, they looked at me like I had three heads.
As for the comments of building an interesting life and working on yourself....I have been doing that the last couple of years and I am in a place where a guy is not necessary....but would be the icing. I have watched too many friends just let a guy define them....I'm not doing that.
I have dated older men and men my age...most of them are still out in the playing field, not wanting to get serious.
As for the internet sites....my few experiences were not that good, but they make great stories!
Sorry to hear your you had bad stories with some guys... but us guys can say the same thing about women... Like "What do they want?"... or "how long a list do they have?"...
With some, they are ready to take you off at your knees with one mistake..
Boy, is that the truth. I never could handle trying to decode a series of hints, gestures,
and historical incidents to come up with the correct action, then get ripped into for
not 'doing what was plainly obvious'. All statements of my inability to interpret hints
and requests for direct requests and statements were ignored. This was my greatest
problem with relationships.
Boy, is that the truth. I never could handle trying to decode a series of hints, gestures,
and historical incidents to come up with the correct action, then get ripped into for
not 'doing what was plainly obvious'. All statements of my inability to interpret hints
and requests for direct requests and statements were ignored. This was my greatest
problem with relationships.
The conflict (to me) is that the non-serious man wants to have casual sex, and the non-serious woman wants friendship.