Dating while retired

[omni550]

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Originally Posted by Chuckanut I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired. Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.

Maybe so.

An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.

omni

[Moemg]

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Originally Posted by Nords If you're going to tease the board with these tidbits, you should at least provide an address or a phone number to call for reservations...

Okay ,Here you go !

Restaurants, Anna Maria Oyster Bar, Bradenton, Ellenton, Florida, Fresh Seafood

[Chuckanut]

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Originally Posted by omni550 One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.

It's no just the men. I remember reading about a town in England that had a high incidence of some disease. Suspecting a heriditary trait, they took blood samples from a number of citizens to see if they could determine if the disease was passed from parent to child. To their surprise they found that 20% of the children had a different father than the guy listed on the birth certificate. Small towns... Go figure.....

[donheff]

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Originally Posted by Moemg Okay ,Here you go ! Restaurants, Anna Maria Oyster Bar, Bradenton, Ellenton, Florida, Fresh Seafood

I rode my bike past that place a couple years ago. I was strangely drawn to it but DW wasn't interested.

[Amethyst]

Wonder what the incidence is for women? Oh, that's right, married women aren't looking for relationships outside the marriage, and would never lie on the Net

Amethyst

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Originally Posted by omni550 Maybe so. An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married. omni

[TromboneAl]

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Originally Posted by Redbugdave All a retired man has to do to get the women to fall over them, (for marriage), is to advertise that he has health insurance...

...to cover his Viagra expenses.

[skyvue]

I am single and 44 and hope to retire at 50 so I have thought about this issues some. The vast majority of my friends, peers and people I will be running into will not be retired and not even close to being financially ready to do so. I am thinking women who I meet will assume I am "wealthy" if I am already retired.

While I will have fairly significant assets, that money will need to last 30 years so I do not plan to change my "spending" very significantly (though mortgage and child support will be done). In other words my lifestlye will seem fairly normal/routine, but that is precisly the reason I am "able" to retire early.

Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?

[Moemg]

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Originally Posted by skyvue Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?

IMO there are a lot of women who are not looking to be financially supported by a Man and are willing to share the expenses of dating . They just do not advertise it as it goes against popular opinion . There are still plenty of woman who cling to the old fashioned rules of the guys paying for everything but isn't that a little foolish if the women have as much or more than them ?

[FinanceDude]

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Originally Posted by omni550 Maybe so. An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married. omni

Sounds like issues at home..........

[Redbugdave]

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Originally Posted by skyvue I am single and 44 and hope to retire at 50 so I have thought about this issues some. The vast majority of my friends, peers and people I will be running into will not be retired and not even close to being financially ready to do so. I am thinking women who I meet will assume I am "wealthy" if I am already retired. While I will have fairly significant assets, that money will need to last 30 years so I do not plan to change my "spending" very significantly (though mortgage and child support will be done). In other words my lifestlye will seem fairly normal/routine, but that is precisly the reason I am "able" to retire early. Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?

Skyvue...There is one other angle. The woman herself may not have much money...but her family does. Marry the woman...and you become part of the family. One of my hunting buddies did that and now lives the life of Riley. He did not have a pot to piss in and now no longer works, and has beach and mountain houses amongst other things...all he does now is hunt and fish. I am jealous.

[omni550]

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Originally Posted by Amethyst Wonder what the incidence is for women? Oh, that's right, married women aren't looking for relationships outside the marriage, and would never lie on the Net Amethyst

I had asked him the percentage of married women on online dating sites. He said there were some....but the total was so small (around 1%) that they didn't bother tracking it.

He also mentioned that there are online dating sites (like Ashley Madison) that were specifically created for married people to meet another married people. Interestingly, according to my I.T. buddy, 15% of the men on that site are single.

omni

[okapi]

I"m looking for a rich old widow.With one foot in the grave,the other on a banana peel.

[W2R]

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Originally Posted by okapi I"m looking for a rich old widow.With one foot in the grave,the other on a banana peel.

So are the great majority of guys on online dating sites who are interested in women over fifty, IMO, whether married or not. Whether or not I am right about that, still I think it is extremely advisable for any FI woman (of any age) to be wary of guys who are mostly interested in their money.

Edited to add: From what I am told, it's the same for women seeking men, so guys should probably be wary about this too.

[omni550]

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Originally Posted by okapi I"m looking for a rich old widow.With one foot in the grave,the other on a banana peel.

Naples, Florida is a popular retirement destination for many people from my previous Mega-corp (Fortune 50) employer.

About 20 years ago, when I was taking an after-hours retirement prep class that Mega-corp offered, the instructor told us about several women in Naples who were collecting multiple pensions from Mega-corp.

How so? These women would find and marry some old Mega-corp retiree, he'd die, they'd get his pension...and, as they say, "wash, rinse, repeat".

I think Mega-corp has since revised their pension plan going forward to prevent this situation from occurring.

omni

[clifp]

The only negative I've notice as single early retiree, is a some jealous popping up although really only seems to happen when we are getting serious not early on.

Early on I do get the "well what do you do all day comments".

I haven't been dating much the last couple of years and since I am now over 50 and the idea of dating a 50 year old woman no longer seems crazy, I think it will be easier to be retired while dating since most 50 year old woman have thought retirement and most late 30 year old haven't.

Changing topics a bit. I have tried the free memberships on several dating site and haven't been real impressed. In the past I've used match.com fairly successfully but have not been a member for several years. Is there any other site that is worth checking out?

I good friend of my meet his wife through Eharmony but hated the hand holding process that Eharmony uses so I am not interested in using them again.

[MasterBlaster]

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Originally Posted by Moemg We frequent a local seafood restaurant that is also a hang out for older singles and what I have observed is that older guys have won the dating lottery . There are many more older single women than older guys .As long as the guy is semi decent and not a complete dud he has become a chic magnet .

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Originally Posted by Moemg Okay ,Here you go ! Restaurants, Anna Maria Oyster Bar, Bradenton, Ellenton, Florida, Fresh Seafood

Maybe something about those oysters makes the women a bit more amorous.

[omni550]

I found this old thread from 2008 http://www.early-retirement.org/foru...d-35778-4.html

Does anyone care to post a status update since then?

omni

[Nords]

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Originally Posted by omni550 I found this old thread from 2008 http://www.early-retirement.org/foru...d-35778-4.html Does anyone care to post a status update since then?

Oh, this should be good.

More popcorn over in this corner, please!

[Mulligan]

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Originally Posted by omni550 Naples, Florida is a popular retirement destination for many people from my previous Mega-corp (Fortune 50) employer. About 20 years ago, when I was taking an after-hours retirement prep class that Mega-corp offered, the instructor told us about several women in Naples who were collecting multiple pensions from Mega-corp. How so? These women would find and marry some old Mega-corp retiree, he'd die, they'd get his pension...and, as they say, "wash, rinse, repeat". I think Mega-corp has since revised their pension plan going forward to prevent this situation from occurring. omni

I have a very nice pension. But I imagine I would be kicked to the curb once they discovered my option 1 plan I took on my pension plan which means the pension checks dry up immediately after my last breath.

[haha]

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Originally Posted by omni550 He also mentioned that there are online dating sites (like Ashley Madison) that were specifically created for married people to meet another married people. Interestingly, according to my I.T. buddy, 15% of the men on that site are single. omni

These women obviously are not looking for marriage or similar. So that cancels one worry of some dating men. Also, he can be sure that she will be at least as discreet as he will.

Ha