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Old 05-19-2018, 07:43 PM   #1
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Do waitresses actually look at my tip amount?

I always wonder if they do. I am guessing most are too busy to notice but if you come in often they eventually make the association.

Note: I have become a generous tipper in my dotage. Not looking for an excuse to tip poorly.
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Old 05-19-2018, 07:49 PM   #2
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Yes. It was decades ago, but I know I immediately knew the percentage on each check.
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Old 05-19-2018, 07:52 PM   #3
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We are fairly decent tippers and frequent a single restaurant often and we are clearly remembered there and seem to receive extra attention/service.
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Old 05-19-2018, 09:27 PM   #5
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My wife is a retired waitress, and yes she knew how well or poorly everyone tipped. To this day she says hello to past customers we meet at the stores, and she tells me how great of a tipper the person was. When your livelihood depends on it, you remember.
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Old 05-19-2018, 09:42 PM   #6
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Whenever I enter a restaurant I frequent, it's like I'm at Cheers -

You do get the benefit of the dough.
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Old 05-19-2018, 10:55 PM   #7
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Whenever I enter a restaurant I frequent, it's like I'm at Cheers -

You do get the benefit of the dough.
I think you forgot a t there Robbie.......

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They sure do.
One local place even remembers what I usually order.
For me, it's an extra bonus of the value of 'stability', as since I have chosen to retire where i have lived for so long, I'm known well. Once thought I would like to be more of a tumbleweed, but...........YMMV
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Old 05-20-2018, 04:45 AM   #9
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Mom --age 88--is a huge tipper. Sometimes 50% (despite my scoldings!). I'm talking $50 on a $100 meal. When she walks in, it's like she owns the place.

Actually what I hate is that she's so popular with the waitresses, bartenders, managers and owners that when I eat with her you can't take two bites without someone coming up to talk with her.

She loves it but for me it's like trying to have a quiet meal with a celebrity and having autograph seekers bugging you. It's her entertainment for the day.

Now she has me doing it: When I'm out with mom, she leaves a nice tip and then I quietly hand her favorite bartender another $20 in cash, just in case it's a shared tip place.

(Robbie, I hope you're proud of mom and me)

Note that mom was never a cook and we grew up eating out; usually 5 nights a week and most breakfasts too. But she does make great....reservations.
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Want to make them smile? Leave the tip in cash, not on the card.
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Old 05-20-2018, 07:04 AM   #11
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I have also been leaving cash tips in recent years.
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Old 05-20-2018, 07:10 AM   #12
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Maybe some know this and some don’t, but the tip is usually shared. Part of your tip goes to the wait staff, the kitchen, the host, the busboy, the bartender.
When I worked at a restaurant I got 10 cents a head to bus the table. The waitress would usually keep the paper money and divide the coins with the rest of us. I kept a cigar box under my bed that I would fill with my tip money. Once a month or so I would take it to the bank and deposit it.
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After a hike, a small group of us stopped for tacos at a nearby restaurant (Taco Tuesday!). The service was good and we enjoyed our meals.

As we were divvying up the fairly small check, many of us figured what we owed w tip and then rounded up to the nearest dollar (we all paid in cash).

One woman in our group would have none of that, she insisted we were tipping "way too much" and made a big deal out of getting change and distributing it back to everyone. Seriously.

A few of us each snuck a dollar or two back in the till when she wasn't looking. We concluded she never worked as a server.
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I have also been leaving cash tips in recent years.
I do both.
Don't they get the tip right away either way, or do they have to wait if the tip is on the card?
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Mom --age 88--is a huge tipper. Sometimes 50% (despite my scoldings!). I'm talking $50 on a $100 meal. When she walks in, it's like she owns the place......
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Want to make them smile? Leave the tip in cash, not on the card.
+1 I always leave cash for a tip even when paying with my credit card.
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I'm a good tipper for good service. Our local Mexican place starts making electrolyte boosters when we walk in the door. They know DW doesn't like to wait on the check and it's always promptly delivered.
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Mom --age 88--is a huge tipper. Sometimes 50% (despite my scoldings!). I'm talking $50 on a $100 meal. When she walks in, it's like she owns the place.

Actually what I hate is that she's so popular with the waitresses, bartenders, managers and owners that when I eat with her you can't take two bites without someone coming up to talk with her.

She loves it but for me it's like trying to have a quiet meal with a celebrity and having autograph seekers bugging you. It's her entertainment for the day.

Now she has me doing it: When I'm out with mom, she leaves a nice tip and then I quietly hand her favorite bartender another $20 in cash, just in case it's a shared tip place.

(Robbie, I hope you're proud of mom and me)

Note that mom was never a cook and we grew up eating out; usually 5 nights a week and most breakfasts too. But she does make great....reservations.
Iím sure the tip helps, but I think this has more to do with personality. Some people are just extroverted and are drawn to that type of interaction. Iím sure excessive tipping greases the wheels but I bet if they were a straight 20% tipper or even a bit less and a very nice person, people would still spend time talking to them. I tip 20%+ and fly under the radar. Iím sure they know my face at a couple of my favorite eateries, but Iím an introvert and donít interact. They donít seem to be extra courteous or try to talk to me, thankfully. Theyíre always nice and professional so it may get me better service, but I think the talking part is driven by the patrons personality.
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Good question! I wonder about this also and it's hard to believe they actually check each time when you're paying with a credit card. Based on the reaction we get when we go to one of our regular spots, I'm pretty sure they check or just know your reputation after a visit or two. They are usually quite busy (late breakfast/early lunch crowd) but it seems like we get seated ahead of others. I'm pretty sure they also pride themselves on thinking they can spot a good tipper which I think is like judging a book by it's cover.
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My Dad always paid in cash and tipped well. What made him memorable to the staff is that he always carried Hershey’s kisses and would personally give them to the waitress, cashier and bus boy. This started when he was elderly and he and mom would eat out either lunch or dinner every day. Their world was getting smaller and they went to the same handful of places on a regular basis.
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