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Old 02-24-2011, 04:36 PM   #21
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I live on a country road where the houses are side by side on 100' wide x 400 ' or more deep lots. All of the houses have changed ownership since 1984 when I moved in. The only "same" neighbors is a couple in their late 80s who live 4 doors away.
The new neighbor on one side of me is very friendly, but his wife doesn't exactly approve of him talking to me. Her scowl in my direction kinda gave her basic attitude away.
I don't think I've ever seen the woman smile.
The couple on the other side keeps mainly to themselves, are rarely outdoors, and also ignore the neighbors on the other side of their house.

Regardless of all of this overwhelming goodwill , if I see any of the neighbors, I always smile and wave
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Old 02-24-2011, 04:37 PM   #22
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I know my suburban neighbors and have lived here long enough to see most of them move in... I always make it a point to find new neighbors stick out my hand and be sociable.

The most recent newbie lives next door and seems charming, retired, home a lot, etc but has us seriously considering a move from the neighborhood. They installed a wood stove that has caused us some substantial respiratory distress this winter and seem disinclined to make changes to it.
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I am very wary about gaining more friends than I can handle.
That is a very interesting comment. I didn't realize it was possible to have too many friends, but I suppose that's where phrases like "too much of a good thing" originate.
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We lost our well pump last week, we took showers and did dishes at our nearest neighbors home. I have 10 out 20 neighbors I would trust my back to, either firefighters like me or EMT's. I think nothing of jumping in my truck and driving several miles to help a friend out.
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We live in a 55+ apartment community and we know most of the people in our 14-unit building as well as quite a few other residents and many of the staff. I love the feeling of comraderie and community. Three neighbors have become good friends and one neighbor has became my new grandma (although she moved to the neighboring building to be on the ground floor). Mom is now only 2 buildings away so I know many of the residents in her building also.

I too like my time at home to be my own but having friends so close makes it easy to visit for only a few minutes and then head back home. Visiting each other does not become an extended "event" because there is minimal start up cost!

DH and I are not convinced we want the responsibility and cost of a home again (especially in FL with high insurance costs and falling prices). In addition, I'm enjoying have good friends and family only a few steps away.
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I know my suburban neighbors and have lived here long enough to see most of them move in... I always make it a point to find new neighbors stick out my hand and be sociable.

The most recent newbie lives next door and seems charming, retired, home a lot, etc but has us seriously considering a move from the neighborhood. They installed a wood stove that has caused us some substantial respiratory distress this winter and seem disinclined to make changes to it.
I thought Washinton now had very strict environmental controls on woodstoves. They can really ruin a neighborhood, and I believe they may actually cause long term disease. One reason why I do not want to live in an area where there are small single family homes, because these are the type that actually try to heat with a woodstove.

I hope you can get a resolution. If you can see their chimney smoke, the smoke cops might cite them, and even if there is no smoke you might be able to get them to take some environmental measurements.

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I've lived in my current house for 21 years. I know a few neighbors on each side, but the rest of the 30 or so houses are strangers. It seems that almost everyone has a lawn service and snow removal and the neighbors drive into their attached garages, shut the door and that is their interface with the neighbors until they drive out again. Occasionally I see a few as I walk my dog or clear the road of snow with my tractor, but the interaction is rarely much more than a nod on their part.

Is this typical of where you live, as well?
Yes...it is for me. Well....except the snow part....

I've seen a lot of foreclosures and divorces during the past 17 years. As a matter of fact the neighbors I do know pretty well are all divorced....a woman that lives behind me, the men that live next door on either side of me and the guy across the street.
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This is a big reason we chose to move to a "55 or better" community after we FIRE'd. In our previous house we had lived there 25 years and hardly knew anyone in the neighborhood.

Our current community of 800 homes has a great clubhouse that we use daily. We see our neighbors there often and socialize with some outside of the community too.

We don't have much contact with our immediate next door neighbors. One is a renter who will be moving out shortly. The other side is a single man who we hardly ever see.

We have good friends who live within a few blocks, which is great.
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I moved into my girlfriend's house 1 year ago. We are friendls with the woman that lives across the street from us. We are friendly with the people that live on either side of us and behind us. We are on a friendly (nodding) basis with a lot of the people on our block but other than our neighbor across the street we are not friends with anyone else. My gf has been living here for 6 years and things have not changed since I moved in.

For the 10 years prior to living here I was friendly with the neibhors on one side of me and hated the noisy people that lived on the other side and behind me. I knew 2 other people on the block to say hello to. The people in general were not friendly.
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I moved to my house in 2004 as a singleton. The people I do stuff with socially are mostly co-workers and the occasional friend/couple from my "old" life. I know my neighbors on either side somewhat. The lady next door and I have had dinner together in a restaurant twice. She is also a widow, about 15 years older than I, and she has a daughter and grandchildren nearby that occupy her time. She travels a lot in winter. The young couple on the other side just moved in a year ago, and we mostly wave and say "hi" (they have no kids or pets and work a lot, she's a nurse and he is an electrician). Our houses are close together, but I never hear a peep. I have a nodding acquaintance with the other people on the street (of 15 homes). They are all quiet people, a mix of ages, and everyone minds their own business, keeps up their properties nicely.
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I know my neighbors for about 5 houses in each direction. My son got friendly with their sons and daughters so he knows them better. I stop and talk now and then. I had them to a few parties, they had me over also. We used to have block parties but that stopped a few years ago.
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Very little interaction with my neighbors. Don't even know their names.
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I thought Washinton now had very strict environmental controls on woodstoves. They can really ruin a neighborhood, and I believe they may actually cause long term disease. One reason why I do not want to live in an area where there are small single family homes, because these are the type that actually try to heat with a woodstove.

I hope you can get a resolution. If you can see their chimney smoke, the smoke cops might cite them, and even if there is no smoke you might be able to get them to take some environmental measurements.

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At 3800 sq feet - I wouldn't really consider their house small, but they are definitely heating with that stove. Most houses around here have a fireplaces and most of us use them occasionally, but the 24/7 nature of the smoke is a problem. While there are some regulations about wood smoke, there are many exceptions for heating. I have already looked in to this kind of code issue and turned up empty.
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We know most of our neighbors and have been invited to some parties but mostly we just chit chat a little and wave . I used to live in a community with a clubhouse and everybody knew everybody and partied all the time together . I liked it for awhile but then it became a little too much .
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At 3800 sq feet - I wouldn't really consider their house small, but they are definitely heating with that stove. Most houses around here have a fireplaces and most of us use them occasionally, but the 24/7 nature of the smoke is a problem. While there are some regulations about wood smoke, there are many exceptions for heating. I have already looked in to this kind of code issue and turned up empty.
I didn't mean to imply that you live in a neighborhood with small homes, or that all homes that are heated with wood are small. I was speaking only of a concern that I have, and the type of local environment where these conditions are typically found. There are lots of North Seattle neighborhoods with much of that type housing from '20s on that can be so smokey in some weather conditions that you choke just to drive down the street. A burning fire in a fireplace is very different from the smoldering all day and all night fires burning in typically air constrained wood stoves meant for heating.

In any case, as you know, in Seattle small does not mean cheap.

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We have lived on a cul-de-sac of about 20 homes for last 15 years or so. I chat with everybody and we all know each others kids (for those that have kids). We also all know each others' dogs.

I always make it a point to chat with the teenagers as well and the young adults back from college.

But I have only been inside 3 of the other homes on my street. We have pet-sit for one of the those neighbors. Another had washer hose break while they were on vacation, so I was first-on-scene of water running out of the back door. The third was a neighborhood party.
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We live in a small (76 homes) condo community of mainly 55+. We know about 90% of the people. About 60% participate in monthly or quarterly activities (homeowner meetings, parties). Because we live in close quarters (ranch condos in a quadraplex), we are careful to respect each others' privacy. We would never drop in to someone's home without calling.

But knowing and being on friendly terms with neighbors doesn't make them friends! It's only the next door neighbor and one very elderly neighbor who we get together with on a regular basis. Most of the neighbors are a good twenty years older and much more conservative than we are. With gas creeping (skyrocketing?) up, I wish that there was better social opportunities right in the hood, but geographic desirability doesn't necessarily correlate with compatible interests and personalities.

In our last condo community with much younger people, we barely knew any of the 276 neighbors. They worked and kept to themselves.
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This scenario unfortunately soured our relationship. I've noticed that he avoids saying hello to me or making much contact when we are both outside working in our yards. I can't figure out why he would expect free tech support for life just because he cut my lawn twice 5 years ago. The situation is a little uncomfortable and it baffles me.
He probably is embarrassed.
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Suburban Los Angeles area, same house for 23 years. I only know 1 neighbor (barely), but I know alot of the dogs in the neighborhood.
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I know about 4 or 5 of them. We live in a wooded, lake area of 5 acre lots so we rarely bump into people. But I know the builder across the street, the heating a/c guy 2 doors down, my doctor behind us, my coworker's parents and the HOA board member down the street, and to a lesser extent the retired next door neighbors on each side.
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