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Old 09-01-2010, 08:08 PM   #81
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Just for fun, I'm going to take a closer look at this within the profiles on Match.com. There is an optional question about salary, which I smartly did not answer.
I've had over 500 views of my own profile, so I am going to check out the age ranges of the "interested parties". It should prove to be fascinating, Captain.

UPDATE: I did a quick "back of the envelope" count of the number of guys who were looking for a woman more than 5 years younger than they listed themselves as being. No conclusive trend.U
Well, that may be true if the Men are telling the truth...!!

In my 40-somethings I was seeking a new Mate and did have many many dates via the then fledgling Match.com site. As a woman, what I found was interesting. I focused on Men in my area within 45 min drive & if their income level was lower than say 50K a year, I had a hard time relating to their interests & lifestyle & values. Their actual earnings were of no interest to me per se, but somehow how they related to things was a lot different than my own ideals. I really did not wish to be a prude about it, that is just how it played out in my unique situation & I never even ended up on a date with them.

Of those men I actually met in public places for a "date" after a few emails, many of the Men had clearly misstated their age on the website to a much lower # than it actually was (by 10+ years!)

Finally, I had a problem in that I had been very successful business wise & actually had to downplay my income & net worth....Despite what one would want to believe, very difficult to attract a Simpatico Single Mate if right off the bat you overshadow their successes. (BTW, women's dating books cover this issue quite extensively & many woman CEOs & execs have had to follow suit. ) So it would not be unique for a woman to understate her income level on these sites.

I did find Mr. DH & we have been together ever since, but my In-Laws still can't understand how I can live so well on the payroll of a Property Manager for a couple of small Buildings...LOL!
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My experience on Match.com is nearly 10 years old. Of all the women I dated, almost none had any savings to speak of - even a doctor and a lawyer that I dated briefly were living paycheck to paycheck. Lots of ants looking for a grasshopper out there, as retirement looms.
Now that's darn interesting. I went out on some dates many years ago from match.com, and I found more men than I wanted to find that were seeking a woman that had money and a good job. It was really discouraging, and I swore I'd never do the personals again...but some people have had great luck with it. Go figure?
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Now that's darn interesting. I went out on some dates many years ago from match.com, and I found more men than I wanted to find that were seeking a woman that had money and a good job. It was really discouraging, and I swore I'd never do the personals again...but some people have had great luck with it. Go figure?
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In other words, often these women were broke because they were nice.
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Well that is sure good news for me, Ha! As I'm rarely nice and definitely childfree.

I had two friends who did the match.com deal and both married the psychopathic losers they met there, had a kid each, and are now in such hellish circumstances that one I no longer have any contact with and the other is very infrequent. I was vocal in my early dislike of these creeps.

<shudder> There are far worse things than being alone, is all I can say.
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Health insurance coverage may be more in demand than a big bank account. A nice retired Federal employee with a pension and health coverage would be desirable I suspect.
As things have turned out, people have long overvalued current earning potential and undervalued security, methinks. I know I certainly did, or else I wouldn't have chosen private sector work.
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Health insurance coverage may be more in demand than a big bank account. A nice retired Federal employee with a pension and health coverage would be desirable I suspect.
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I went out on some dates many years ago from match.com, and I found more men than I wanted to find that were seeking a woman that had money and a good job.
Perhaps, but it's long been socially acceptable for a woman to look for that in a man, so I do sense some amount of a social double standard here, a similar one that says a woman can stay home and raise children while her spouse brings in the paycheck and bennies, but if the genders were reversed he'd be a slacking ne'er-do-well leeching off his wife who needs to go get a job.
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................. a slacking ne'er-do-well leeching off his wife who needs to go get a job.
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... In other words, often these women were broke because they were nice.
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OR they did not have a clue about finances!
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