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Old 12-11-2015, 01:22 PM   #81
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On her worst day DW annoys me far less than my last mangler on his best day.
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Old 12-11-2015, 02:34 PM   #82
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My husband constantly mumbles, moans and groans, and bitches while he is working on something.
Sounds like a perfectly normal guy to me.
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Of course my wife annoys me......and I annoy her, too. We have what we and others call a great marriage, but there are always challenges. There is definitely different dynamics, roles, and issues in ER, but we are both learning, and we both love each other dearly.
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According to my buddies at fishing camp in far NW Minnesota, the reason for the elaborate ice fishing houses on the lakes is that they are "marriage savers." In the midst of yet another bitter winter, the guys head out onto to the lake for the day, turn on the heater and the TV, pop open a beer and settle in for another day of wife-less fishing. DW stays home and curls up with a book enjoying having the grouchy old man out of the house. Win - win.
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According to my buddies at fishing camp in far NW Minnesota, the reason for the elaborate ice fishing houses on the lakes is that they are "marriage savers." In the midst of yet another bitter winter, the guys head out onto to the lake for the day, turn on the heater and the TV, pop open a beer and settle in for another day of wife-less fishing. DW stays home and curls up with a book enjoying having the grouchy old man out of the house. Win - win.
Basically the whole movie "Grumpy Old Men" was based on this premise.
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I haven't talked to the DW in the last three days, didn't want to interrupt her.
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I haven't talked to the DW in the last three days, didn't want to interrupt her.

This is the honest truth here a few months ago, (not married, I have a SO for 9 years) while at a restaurant she was in the usual full blown talking mode. While listening, I needed clarification from a few points she had just said. She told me to quit asking questions as what she was saying not important..."Just listen to what I am saying, it isn't important that you understand it". Lesson learned...I guess....


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This is the honest truth here a few months ago, (not married, I have a SO for 9 years) while at a restaurant she was in the usual full blown talking mode. While listening, I needed clarification from a few points she had just said. She told me to quit asking questions as what she was saying not important..."Just listen to what I am saying, it isn't important that you understand it". Lesson learned...I guess....


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The OP needs one of these, the Spat Solver.


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This is the honest truth here a few months ago, (not married, I have a SO for 9 years) while at a restaurant she was in the usual full blown talking mode. While listening, I needed clarification from a few points she had just said. She told me to quit asking questions as what she was saying not important..."Just listen to what I am saying, it isn't important that you understand it". Lesson learned...I guess....


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Very appropriate to just be the listener at that point in time. Good job! (take mental notes though..in case she asks for your opinion later)
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Very appropriate to just be the listener at that point in time. Good job! (take mental notes though..in case she asks for your opinion later)

It confirmed a long held suspicion of mine Aja, that as long as she gets to talk, that is really the importance of the matter....Yet...One would just assume then she was just blabbering, and if I said that I would be in trouble! And yes, I get tested occasionally so I try to pay attention. But she is one of those people who likes to throw out names of various people at work and such that I do not even know who they are. I cant remember a name of a person I don't know and never seen. Yet I still get "in trouble" for not knowing who they are...


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This thread is enlightening and hysterical.


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One of the worst mistakes a man can make is when DW or SO are talking about a problem they are having, the man hero leaps to the rescue and attempts to solve it for them.

They are not inteested in any solutions, they just want to talk about the problem!

Sigh, another one of life's brutal experiences
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IS, this is why I, and probably more than a handful of my fellow female posters here, can have a hard time understanding our girl friends when they do this. I am a problem solver, and cannot for the life of me understand the "bitching for the sake of bitching" nature of some of our conversations.
Just so you know not all of us share this most peculiar trait!

However I entirely own the "whispering from another room" trait, rather proudly.
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However I entirely own the "whispering from another room" trait, rather proudly.
I thought I needed hearing aids until I figured this (^^) out.
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One of the worst mistakes a man can make is when DW or SO are talking about a problem they are having, the man hero leaps to the rescue and attempts to solve it for them.

They are not inteested in any solutions, they just want to talk about the problem!

Sigh, another one of life's brutal experiences
It took me 30 years and two wives to really understand this.

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However I entirely own the "whispering from another room" trait, rather proudly.
Some men do this too. I am thinking of one in particular, who jumps out of my car as soon as I have it in park and starts walking off while talking. I'm shutting off the engine, getting my purse, taking off my sunglasses and putting them away, opening my door, getting out... and he is still walking off while talking to me in a soft, normal voice. He doesn't realize how far away he is if he isn't looking at me.

So, I just call out "HEY! Can't hear you way over there" and he will very nicely walk back and repeat what he said. Problem solved with minimal annoyance.
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It took me 30 years and two wives to really understand this.

Had me laughing out loud, so true! They really hit the nail on the head with this one! (sorry).
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