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Old 05-03-2015, 06:45 AM   #61
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Timely topic for me. DW is executor for her mother who's health is failing, and I am helping with finances. Some property dividing is already being initiated by SIL and BIL doesn't trust her. I expect this to get much worse before it gets better.

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If BIL and DW are on the same page, There isn't a lot SIL can legally do. Does DW have power of attorney now? (She becomes Executrix when mom passes). She needs to keep an eye on SIL. Greed does weird things and breaks up families.

Perhaps BIL and DW can talk to SIL about people being more important than things, and that her attitude could harm her relationship with the family.

My DH and BIL stopped having any contact with the other BIL after his mom's small estate was settled. The idiot BIL moved in with mom to help her (but didn't) then raided her bank account for drug money while she was dying. He didn't fight it when his brothers pointed out he stole his inheritance from himself. He got the car and nothing else. Within a year he wrecked the car.

I wish your wife well in dealing with this.

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Old 05-03-2015, 10:28 AM   #62
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Originally Posted by Olbidness View Post
I spoke with sis the other day and it seems she was just having a bad day. I explained the details of the will to her, and that according to my father's instructions she and my stepbrother will receive a larger portion than me. I am totally fine with how it is to be divided it up. No disrespect to my father but if I received an equal share it wouldn't allow me to do anything more than I can currently.

I think possibly sis was goaded by my more materialistic BIL. I also discussed the importance of keeping the inheritance in her name and not to mix
with community property accounts. This may cause problems but I hope not.

In any event I will proceed as if my father were looking over my shoulder.
Sounds like you had a good conversation with your sister. I'm sure your father would be proud of how you are handling his affairs.

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