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Old 08-01-2009, 10:01 AM   #81
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Oh Glo, that is so sad.
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Old 08-01-2009, 12:56 PM   #82
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I've come to the conclusion that I am the weird one in my family.
Anyone remember the TV sitcom "Maybe it's me?"? I watch very little TV, but this show was really creative and funny in an odd way.

Super weird family, but a fairly normal teenage girl, wondering if *she* was the odd one.

"Maybe It's Me" (2001) - Episode list
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Some of the gags just totally cracked me up.

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Old 08-01-2009, 01:17 PM   #83
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Thanksgiving and Christmas came and went and I had no word from him or his family. I'm wondering what me nieces and nephew are thinking. On the anniversary of my mother's death in April, I sent him an email and said: I love you and miss you every day, just like ma. The reply said "if you're lonely, contact (here he listed names of a dozen of our relatives)". I never dreamed he could be so hurtful. I'll never get over it.
Sounds like a nice christian way to act.
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He claims to strictly follow the bible. I wonder where it tells him to treat his sister in this manner?
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He claims to strictly follow the bible. I wonder where it tells him to treat his sister in this manner?
This is very painful. There is a whole psychology of True Believers. They can act in reprehensible ways without guilt or any insight into what they are doing.

Within families all too often this serves as a shield behind which someone can punish a sibling or family member for ancient perceived wrongs that really make no sense in the scheme of things. Two of my brothers have rejected my sister for no reason at all that I can see other than she reminds them of my dead Mother to whom these nitwits still carry animus stored up for 50 or more years. They also have been at times very cruel, and in one brother's case threatening.

I would say that while things might get better, you really need to first be sure you are out of his range to do hurt. And be steadfast in rejecting any guilt or self-recrimination.

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haha: thanks for the warning, but I won't contact him again so I'm out of his "range". The rest of the family thinks he's turned into some kind of a nut.
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...Within families all too often this serves as a shield behind which someone can punish a sibling or family member for ancient perceived wrongs, that really make no sense in the scheme of things. Two of my brothers have rejected my sister for no reason at all that I can see other than she reminds them of my dead Mother to whom these nitwits still carry animus stored up for 50 or more years. They also have been very at times very cruel, and in one brother's case threatening...
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I'm sorry to hear you have this going on in your family. I'm also relieved to read this because I am the youngest sister who is on the receving end from 4, count 'em 4, siblings for the very same reason (animosity towards Mom).
Enough became enough a long time ago. Hence my no contact stance. And I am so much better off that way.
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This is very painful. There is a whole psychology of True Believers. They can act in reprehensible ways without guilt or any insight into what they are doing.

Within families all too often this serves as a shield behind which someone can punish a sibling or family member for ancient perceived wrongs that really make no sense in the scheme of things. Two of my brothers have rejected my sister for no reason at all that I can see other than she reminds them of my dead Mother to whom these nitwits still carry animus stored up for 50 or more years. They also have been very at times very cruel, and in one brother's case threatening.

I would say that while things might get better, you really need to first be sure you are out of his range to do hurt. And be steadfast in rejecting any guilt or self-recrimination.

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Nice post. Glo does not need to feel bad which is exactly what her brother wants her to feel. The problem is his not hers and maybe she really does not need someone like that in her life.
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