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Old 02-23-2009, 12:48 PM   #41
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BF regularly refers to me as "the smart one" - but in an affectionate way I have dated/married men who used my "intelligence" against me verbally (you are too smart for me, just because your IQ is X does not mean blah blah blah (not something I share with people unless we are in a "serious" relationship - that will bring out male insecurities - rather disappointing I might add!)...the ones who had a problem with it did not last. I am enough of a dingbat in some areas - it all balances out!!
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Old 02-23-2009, 01:37 PM   #42
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This subject has been covered before on this board. Please see post 1075 link
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And the long-reaching effects of an Obama Administration......
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Intelligence - especially mind searing brilliance - is a huge attraction. But in my experience it is too rarely associated with "all other things being equal" like kindness, or empathy, or ability to tolerate and interact with the general public.

Personality, intelligence and affection are much more important than physical looks (except maybe for 20 year old guys).
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Personality, intelligence and affection are much more important than physical looks (except maybe for 20 year old guys).
If you would like to test that hypothesis, put up some pictures of 45 year old beautiful women, average women, and appearance challenged women on a dating site.

Then sit back and count your "flirts" received.

Like Billie Holiday sang, "God Bless the Child Who Got Its Own". Physical atractiveness is a gift that keeps on giving.

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I have dated/married men who used my "intelligence" against me verbally (you are too smart for me, just because your IQ is X does not mean blah blah blah (not something I share with people unless we are in a "serious" relationship - that will bring out male insecurities -
I have never told anyone my IQ. It tends to fluctuate, anyway

Can't imagine a guy on this board being "threatened" by female smarts.

Female smarts combined with a huge rack...maybe
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Can't imagine a guy on this board being "threatened" by female smarts.

Female smarts combined with a huge rack...maybe
A girlfriend I had a couple decades back was a 44D. Personally, I think that's a little much. I'm a fan of proportion.

That's not what broke us up, though! We were both strong-willed and clashed on too many things. She was pretty bright, but our opinions about too many aspects of life were too misaligned for it to work, and we gave it three shots. First she dumped me, the second time I dumped her, and the third time we reached a mutual agreement that no matter how much we cared about each other and wished it were otherwise, it wasn't going to work.
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A girlfriend I had a couple decades back was a 44D. Personally, I think that's a little much. I'm a fan of proportion.

That's not what broke us up, though! We were both strong-willed and clashed on too many things. She was pretty bright, but our opinions about too many aspects of life were too misaligned for it to work, and we gave it three shots. First she dumped me, the second time I dumped her, and the third time we reached a mutual agreement that no matter how much we cared about each other and wished it were otherwise, it wasn't going to work.
It is good to decide such things before marriage/children.
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. From what I have observed of the egg-head set, the constant need for showing that you're the smartest person in the room is not attractive. The truly smart ones combine book smarts with social smarts in equal parts.
Not a case of assessing the qualities in a woman but I think you will see the point.
My sister was once dating a fellow who was a Grand Master at chess. My dad was an OK player and decided to pay a game. Amazingly, my dad won.
The fellow was seriously smart.
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Did my pager just go off?

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...Wife #2 (of 20 years now) has to struggle at school but she is one of the most kind, giving, selfless people I have ever met Combine that with a good dose of just common sense and I'll keep her for another 20 years.

Intelligence is hard to measure. Intelligent at what? Number crunching? Mechanically inclined? Socially adept? Understanding people?
Home run with bases loaded! You have the formula.
Intelligence measures? I like to think of intelligence as the desire to learn, i.e. knowing what you don't know and doing something about it. It could be via books, classroom, asking others with experience, rolling up the sleeves and pitching in, etc.
The means is not as important as the journey.
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A date may only need to look good in hooker-style clothes and not immediately puke when she has a few drinks.

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