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Old 12-17-2009, 04:22 PM   #1
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Funeral Question

I have not had very many people I know pass away, so I have a funeral question to ask here.

How long after someone dies does the funeral usually take place? When are funeral arrangements usually finalized?

We had a trip planned for the holidays but now I think at least the two of us who were closest to the person who died should either stay in town next week or fly back for the funeral. I'm not sure what to plan on at this point. It was someone young so we are just kind of in shock right now.
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Old 12-17-2009, 04:28 PM   #2
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Usually the third day after death. Could be longer if burial is not local.
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Lazarus giving funeral advice - sheesh!
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I like the idea of Lazarus giving funeral advice. Hopeful, really.
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Old 12-17-2009, 04:56 PM   #5
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If people are expected from out of town, if the person is famous and many people far and wide must be notified, and/or if the person is to be cremated and there is no visitation, but only a memorial service, it can be a week or more later IME.

Your local obituary notices should give you some idea as to what is most usual, if they state day of death and day of the funeral.

I am so sorry to hear of this sad death of this young person.
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Old 12-17-2009, 05:23 PM   #6
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I am so sorry to hear of this sad death of this young person.
Thanks for your kind thoughts. I called the hospital this morning for a status and at first they said sure, we'll connect you to his nurse. Then when I told them his name I got this long pause and heard an intake of breath on the other line so I kind of knew then before they even said anything more. Then I kept getting transferred to different people so I knew I was going to end up talking to some kind of grief counselor. What a tough job that must be.
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Around here, most funerals are 2-3 days after the person's death...unless folks are traveling in from a great distance. An old friend of mine passed away in the wee hours yesterday in NC, and his funeral is Saturday a few miles from me in IL.
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There was one death and funeral mentioned on the news tonight. A Tulane Medical School professor drowned in Saturday's deluge, due to driving into a canal that was not visible because it was overflowing so badly. His body was recovered right away, but his funeral was this afternoon. So, that would be 5 days in this one particular case.

His death was a dreadful accident, and naturally many of his students and fellow faculty members wanted to attend the funeral. So, I would imagine that was the reason for the delay. He saved his wife's life before he drowned, and I can barely imagine what she has been through already.
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Some religious traditions require a fairly quick burial, which can effect when the funeral is held.
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I like the idea of Lazarus giving funeral advice. Hopeful, really.
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Lazarus giving funeral advice - sheesh!
There was a split second delay in my comprehension of these 2 posts. You guys...

I believe the time between passing and funeral is dependent on the method of interment, i.e. standard coffin with ground burial, standard plus later cremation or immediate cremation only.
Please call the funeral director immediately (not the family ) to ask these kinds of questions.
I am sorry for your loss.
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A Tulane Medical School professor drowned in Saturday's deluge, due to driving into a canal that was not visible because it was overflowing so badly.
What was the deluge? Is our news up here so "locally centred" that we need a Katrina to know you guys have a problem?
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What was the deluge? Is our news up here so "locally centred" that we need a Katrina to know you guys have a problem?
We have had over 26" of rain so far in December - - the rainiest month on record for us. And, 19" of rain has fallen since last Saturday. On Saturday, when that poor professor drowned, we had 8" of rain after 1 PM and 3" of it fell within one hour. Frank and I just stayed inside at his house because there was a foot of water in the street outside his house and reports on TV of more elsewhere. We did manage to go to a nearby restaurant later in the evening after it subsided, and although flood waters blocked us earlier, by 10 PM he was able to take me home (about a mile and a half from his house).

There has been some flooding in homes and businesses, but not as much as one might fear. Frank's house and my house remain dry. We have sunny, dry weather predicted today and tomorrow so I think we are done with it or nearly so.

It is GREAT to be retired with this going on! My former workplace is in an area that floods easily so getting to work would be hair-raising. I have just stayed home most of this week with a big grin on my face.
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