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Old 02-14-2014, 06:06 PM   #421
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This is one of my favorite ER threads EVER -- so thrilled about how things have worked out for you. I still remember when you first posted. Living well is certainly the best revenge! Thanks for the update and enjoy your fabulous life
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Amazing courage. Congrats on finding happiness.

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Old 02-14-2014, 08:40 PM   #423
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Thanks for all of the continued support. I'll definitely be a more regular visitor, even though early retirement is still years off.

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Old 02-14-2014, 10:02 PM   #424
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As many of us on this Board have discovered with good planning and investing early retirement is an option sooner than you might think. There will be bumps in the road as you navigate that route but you are SOOOO much better off than you would have been living with/married to that jerk.

Congratulations, don't forget about us. We haven't forgotten you.
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It is inspiring to learn how well you extracted yourself from a bad situation and headed out to freedom.
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Old 02-15-2014, 06:21 AM   #427
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Thanks for the update and glad things are going well.

I never would have thought to ask an ex for a nude picture. I'll poll all my exes and see if there are any takers. If I don't post here again it means my wife checks my email....
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I never would have thought to ask an ex for a nude picture.
At this point I rather doubt I'd want to see it, nor she one of me.....
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This is one of my favorite ER threads EVER -- so thrilled about how things have worked out for you. I still remember when you first posted. Living well is certainly the best revenge! Thanks for the update and enjoy your fabulous life
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I am glad to hear that you have moved forward with your life. Best of luck!
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Old 02-16-2014, 05:57 PM   #432
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There is life after divorce. I am glad you are doing well.
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Old 02-16-2014, 08:22 PM   #433
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What a great outcome! Love to hear how well you are doing. You sound so happy, which is delightful. Thanks for sharing your story.
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Old 02-17-2014, 10:38 PM   #434
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Congrats again and thanks for the update, glad it all continues to work out so well!!
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Old 12-17-2016, 08:53 PM   #435
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Having just passed the 5 year mark of finding out my (now ex) husband was cheating on me, and since it's been a few years since I've updated, I thought I'd come back for a quick post. Even though I haven't read through the advice I received in years, this forum was so integral in me finally finding happiness.

Life continues to get better and better!

On the w**k front - I started taking a series of exams for work. Due to me taking these exams, I got a promotion, which means I may be closer to FI than originally thought!

On the personal front -- lots of travel! My mom and I did go to France last year, so she met the family I lived with when I was an exchange student there 20 years ago. I also ran the Boston Marathon with a good friend of mine (she'd felt the heat of the blasts in 2013 and wanted someone with her when she returned) -- it was healing and a good reminder to not take things for granted.

After going on over 60 first dates, last February I decided to give up dating after the last guy I'd agreed to meet for a drink. When I asked him where he was from, he proclaimed in his fake British accent, "I am from Narnia!" At that point, I realized I would have rather been at work than on a date with that guy, so I removed myself from all of the sites and wound up having the best summer of my life. I strengthened my friendships and made so many incredible lifetime memories. I have so many first date stories like this, my friends are asking me to write a book, which I may do someday.

In any case, while on a dating break which had reached 8 months at the time, I went to a movie with a friend of a friend, and we've now been dating for a little over a year. We just returned from a trip to Hawaii. I had never been in a healthy relationship with someone before, and it's been really incredible. So glad I've had the opportunity to experience this!

You guys are the best -- I am grateful for your wisdom every day!!!
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Wow - so great to read your wonderful update! You go girl!
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Love this. Thanks for the update!!
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Congratulations. Things happen for a reason and for you, the divorce was a blessing in disguise.
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Old 12-18-2016, 04:18 AM   #439
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Thanks for the update. It sounds like you're in a great relationship and life's going well.
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Old 12-18-2016, 05:43 AM   #440
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Divorce is always a bad deal. That is one reason I have never married. Although emotionally it may be no different, legally it is a lot different.

It's great you landed on your feet throughout all of this. Often, a divorce is so financially devastating it derails many of life's plans.

It the 'old' days, couples were more dependent on each other. Couples stayed married because it was the social norm, and they could not live apart. The laws made it difficult. Society managed to get through it. Mistresses were more accepted, or at least tolerated as long as the financial obligations were met.

In modern times, no one is dependent on anyone. There are plenty of social programs to help kids and the new single moms. It is real easy to get a divorce. Paychecks are garnished so no one has to wait for a check to be mail.

Marriage is really an obsolete concept in today's world. I guess that's what progress is...
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