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Old 03-20-2011, 12:07 PM   #41
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After my first wife passed away in 1997, I started dating in a very furious and irrational way, mostly in what in those days would be considered online. After 3 years of a couple of close ones, I met my second wife via sms. She a leftist psychologist from a very poor working-class family and me your regular snobbish uppity conservative lawyer, son of an admiral in a very Navy town, that had to "stoop" to this "most vulgar" way of dating due to my lack of success in my social circles.
Nobody thought the relationship would last more than a couple of months. The mix ensured inevitable failure.
2 years later we got married and that almost 7 years have passed since. I am your typical elitist prick and she is extraordinary. She even thinks that we are made for one another

It turned out that we are not that different.
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Old 03-20-2011, 12:16 PM   #42
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We both worked at a department store. I had a full-time job; the department store job was weekend work as I was trying to save money to move to CA. I was not interested in getting involved with anyone as I was certainly moving out of state. When I met DH, I thought he was the perfect guy to play around with because he had a lot of girlfriends so there would be absolutely no chance of involvement. So, here we are going on 41 years of married bliss. Funny how things work out!
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Old 03-20-2011, 12:16 PM   #43
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We were paired together in the same canoe on a Whitewater Rver group outing. Same episode as the 'Closest to death thread'.
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Old 03-20-2011, 12:17 PM   #44
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Great stories!
I am single so I have nothing to contribute.
Now, will anyone admit to an arranged marriage?
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Old 03-20-2011, 12:23 PM   #45
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Great stories!
I am single so I have nothing to contribute.
Now, will anyone admit to an arranged marriage?
Yes, DW & I arranged it ourselves.
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Old 03-20-2011, 12:31 PM   #46
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We were naughty and did everything against the rules. Met DH at work. He stopped by the office to introduce himself to my boss who had fortunately stepped out for a smoke.
Took one look at those long legs (I like em tall.) and was all set to go into flirt mode until I spotted the wedding ring. Crap. Turned out his marriage was running on fumes and he separated and filed for divorce shortly after. Not ones to waste time we hooked up, did the office romance bit (worse kept secret at the job), shacked up and married three years later. That was nine years ago this coming June.
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Old 03-20-2011, 12:52 PM   #47
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Blind date. I worked nights at a mushroom farm, she worked days at an auto parts store. Used to leave large bags of mushrooms at her doorstep after we met. I had bought a house which had many issues - like a large hole in the ceiling. I didn't have furniture - my bed was two 2x4s, scrap planks, and blankets. My back of envelope budgets went out six months or so and included "fun" as a category but darn near nothing as an amount.

She didn't - doesn't - like shoes, walked on her toes, and did stained glass in the nude.

I think she saw potential and I saw great ankles.

The longer we were together the more evident it was that she is one of the rare people who does not say "I'll try". What she says, she does, no matter the effort or cost. Strange thing is that while she appreciates it she doesn't expect or count on others to be as rigorous. She's just her. Being with someone I can bet my life on? Wow. Closing in on 33 years, no marriage, everything owned in both our names.
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Old 03-20-2011, 01:11 PM   #48
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Dude don't leave us hanging. Details please.
We actually met twice, once when I arrested her brother and then about a year and a half later when we started dating. It wasn't until about the second or third date that we figured out we had met before.

Her brother is a nice guy, but has dated some insane women which has caused him to have no trust in the gender and turned him somewhat into a misogynist. (Not sure the order here, was the chicken or the egg first, etc.)

They were sharing an apartment together at the time of our first meeting, and he was dating some crazy girl who lived in the same complex. He and crazy girl were having issues when he happened to overhear her talking on the phone with some other dude - and bad mouthing my future BiL in the process. He took it badly, called her a few choice names, and ripped her telephone out of the wall before storming back to his place.

CG called the police and when I arrived she told the story with a lot of embellishment attached. Future BiL was probably going to jail anyway, but she tossed a lot of ice cream on top of the cake to make him look more worthy of jailing than he really was. But then he stuck a cherry on top when he refused to answer the door when I knew he was inside. There was a little drama, but he went to jail without too much fuss and it would have been forgotten.

We met again about a year later under much more conventional circumstances - one of her gf's was dating one of my friends. I met her parents when I picked her up for a date, and as we were driving away I realized I had completely missed their last name when she did the intros. It is a not-very-common German name, and as soon as she said it my mind popped up with a memory of a guy with that same name going to jail.

A few questions later and we realized that we had met before and what the circumstances had been.
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I was tugging on your arm begging you not to take him to jail, and you just ignored me. Then some other officer told me, 'Lady, if you don't let go of him you're going to jail too.'
We got some laughs out of it, but agreed to keep it a secret from her family. Years later we told a few of them, but never her parents and never her brother. He's never been arrested again, but continues to attract dysfunctional women like he's a magnet for crazy chicks.
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Being with someone I can bet my life on? Wow. Closing in on 33 years, no marriage, everything owned in both our names.
I loved your story! Wow.
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My (now ex) husband and I were scuba buddies and safety divers for a local scuba instructor in Hawaii. That is how we met. But we have been divorced for 13 years by now. We were married for 23 years.

F. is now the man in my life, although neither of us are interested in marrying again (he is a widower). He and I met on an internet dating website.
Met current friend online on a science forum ~4 years ago, he was married. He is divorced now (I had nothing to do with it).

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He contacted me because of the advanced degrees. Apparently his mother once told him, "Eventually you have to talk to them!" .
That's what Mother told me a long time ago: "Eventually you have to get out of bed and start talking to each other."

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Anyway I doubt that I am any more interesting to talk to than anybody else, but we do enjoy one another's company immensely and have for the past eleven years. He is brilliant, fascinating, and accomplished. Not only that, but yesterday he assembled furniture for me. (Note to the single ladies: furniture assembly skills and actually enjoying furniture assembly and volunteering to do it, are a big "plus"). The longer we are together, the more I realize how terrific he is and how lucky I am to know him.
He did some chores for me last week.
He sewed a button onto my jeans and peeled some oranges (my hands don't work very well anymore).
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We met at college, but I knew her older brother first. We (BIL & I) took a class together. First time we met we had an argument - and haven't stopped arguing since. The professor didn't care for the BIL, so the following year when his younger sister enrolled, the prof introduced me to her - just to irritate the brother. We dated through college, and when we decided to get married, her two older brothers tried to talk her out of it.
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Been married twice (divorced 1st time and widower 2nd time). I met my Life Partner on the Senior Dating web site. We met in person the first time at a Barnes & Noble and then had lunch. For me it was love at first meeting (it took her until the next week when we had our first date). Last month we celebrated one year of being & living together.
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Met current friend online on a science forum ~4 years ago, he was married. He is divorced now (I had nothing to do with it).



That's what Mother told me a long time ago: "Eventually you have to get out of bed and start talking to each other."



He did some chores for me last week.
He sewed a button onto my jeans and peeled some oranges (my hands don't work very well anymore).
He sounds wonderful, Khan! I am so glad you met him.
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Met in 1977 as she was heading for Mexico City to work. Kept in contact. She got married in 1981 to a Mexican. After 14 years, she divorced him and gave me a call. We have been together since June 1, 1995.
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Met current friend online on a science forum ~4 years ago, he was married. He is divorced now (I had nothing to do with it).
That's what Mother told me a long time ago: "Eventually you have to get out of bed and start talking to each other."
He did some chores for me last week.
He sewed a button onto my jeans and peeled some oranges (my hands don't work very well anymore).
You go girl!
I am very happy for you. Nobody should be alone.
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We met at a Dunkin Donuts in Youngstown OH. He was with my cousin and I was waiting for my boyfriend who worked the afternoon shift at a car assembly plant to meet me after his shift ended. DH told my cousin he would let him drive his fast car, but only if I came along. I did not want to go, but my cuz really wanted to drive the car. As we were pulling out, my boyfriend was pulling in and saw us leave. He lived next door to my cousin, which was where I was staying at, and saw that we did not get home until the next day. He came over later that day and asked my older cousin to go do something with him and did not talk to me. So, when DH came over later we went out again. DH was in the AF and stationed in Columbus OH. He left on Sunday and came back the next weekend to get me and my cousin and we went back to Columbus OH to live with him. Those were some wild times. There was 6 guys and 2 girls living in a big house that was constantly filled with other people too. We married 1 month from the day we met. That was in 10/71, so we have been married for over 38 years. Another cousin ended up marrying the boyfriend that lived next door.
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I met my wife 30 yrs ago on the beach in Santa Monica. I was 29. I had never been to that specific beach before, I have never returned. I was there with my friend Jay. We went to check out one of our fellow employees who we knew would be there in a bikini. She was a knockout. Later in the afternoon, I saw another woman who I thought was very attractive. When she walked out to the water to get wet, I walked up next to her and introduced myself. Bold, but it worked. For those of you who think I might be a cad, she had her two small children with her, who I eventually provided for......

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just a note in passing, on our first date, I took her to my favorite comedy club. The warm-up comic started the show and was talking to people in the audience. You know how they often wander thru the audience and they like to tease people? (FWIW, I remained silent throughout) He walks up to me and says "Hey, didn't I see you here last Saturday night? Weren't you here with another girl?......(more teasing)" Obviously, the point was to embarrass me in front of my date. The audience laughed hard at his teasing. I'm sure he used that line often to get a laugh during his warm-up. The problem was that my face turned absolutely scarlet because I HAD been there the prior week with another woman. No one knew this, of course, but me. I'm sure he had never seen me before.
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Great stories!
I am single so I have nothing to contribute.
Now, will anyone admit to an arranged marriage?
I guess you can say that my maternal grandmother had an arranged marriage. Her brother brought her from Greece in 1907, he paid her way steerage and met her in NY after she was processed through Ellis Island. He brought her back to Pittsburgh where he worked as a laborer in the steel mills and lived in rented quarters with his wife and a daughter. He quickly told her that he could not afford to support her and had found a husband for her amongst his co-workers, a single Greek guy her age who was a hard worker, did not drink much, saved his money, etc. They met once. Their second meeting was their wedding. They were married until their deaths in the 1960's and raised six children to adulthood, all college graduates. My dad always said that the most important element of a successful marriage was two people who wanted to make things work because the honeymoon was over in 6 months. I don't know, maybe some truth in this.
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