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Old 04-27-2010, 11:27 PM   #61
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No successful interventions here, but possibly some suicides prevented, just because I'm a good listener (I'm told).
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Old 04-28-2010, 12:36 AM   #62
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No successful interventions here, but possibly some suicides prevented, just because I'm a good listener (I'm told).
Wow, that is huge.

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Old 04-28-2010, 11:32 AM   #63
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I am the youngest in my family, and amongst my siblings my advice and input is valued at zero, because they pretty much treat me like I am still 11. This came up in spades when we planned my parents 50th anniversary.

I married the oldest in her family. She is one of six, and was basically Mom jr. to a lot of her siblings. Because of that, and my general prudence I am sought after adviser and have spent many an hour ginning up small spreadsheets to help people budget or re-write a resume or even counsel on relationships. Its really strange to live this double life. Part of it is cultural. Hers is a lively italian family, mine is a bit WASP-ie.

My father is a big Ayn Rand style libertarian, and his ethos of letting people make their own choices has a big impact too. When my leg was amputated at 22, dosed in morphine I had decide on whether to try to save the limb or surgically sever it. My entire family would not express a single opinion on the topic. It was 100% up to me. I get the idea (not to decide for me), but I could have used a little advice then. I went with the amputation, if you are curious.

Other than advising my wife's family I don't really give advice to others. And certainly don't meddle. It doesn't change anything. If a person is receptive, I think I can have an influence. But it comes mostly from them, not me.
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Old 04-28-2010, 06:09 PM   #64
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No successful interventions here, but possibly some suicides prevented, just because I'm a good listener (I'm told).
Yes, I have been told that as well (that talking to me, helped keep someone from killing herself). It was a strange feeling, since all I did was talk to the person same as I would to anyone. I wasn't consciously trying to save anybody.

It certainly beats the opposite, being so boring that people would kill themselves to get away.

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It certainly beats the opposite, being so boring that people would kill themselves to get away.
Will someone just PM me to stop posting if I am so boring, please?
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