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08-30-2010, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by haha
When my sons were still little my brother and his wife came to visit. They had no kids, and I think they had become a bit old for their ages.
My sons were learning to throw Ninja stars, and I had put some celotex up on a wall at the end of a hallway. There were gouges in everything where they had managed to miss the celotex. Our guests did put in the planned time of visit, but never came back.
I could tell more strories about visits from people who might have been expecting normal, but didn't find it. Some of them still mention how weird it seemed, 20-30 years later. And believe me, they do talk and dissect everything. Don't you
"God, did you see what they expected us to eat?" Etc
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Ha, the more stories you share about your family the more I suspect we must be related ...
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08-30-2010, 12:51 PM
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Originally Posted by haha
And believe me, they do talk and dissect everything.
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When someone visits me I'd expect them to gossip about my shenanigans to at least one person. Otherwise, I'd feel a bit let down....
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08-30-2010, 12:57 PM
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Maybe it just takes them a while to overcome their trauma & fear?
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08-30-2010, 12:58 PM
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I really feel like a contrarian here. DW and I love having house guests though we extend invitations veeeerrrrryyy carefully. Then we prepare a nice home meal (DW loves to cook), go out to eat someplace close and funky, maybe do some local attractions.
I will admit that over the years we have all tacitly agreed on a code of etiquette, know how to share privacy and space, etc. We also know that it's OK to sit in a room reading the newspaper or a book for half an hour or more without conversing.
Just got back from Milwaukee as house guests and had a blast.
Sorry to ruin the thread .
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08-30-2010, 12:58 PM
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Yes, there is some satisfaction, seven years later, seeing a distant relative, trying to figure out who I am, "oh, yeah, you're the one with the staircase going up and up and up." Some would call it a fourth floor walkup, but the real estate people call it, top floor, sunny.
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08-30-2010, 01:02 PM
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I have house guests frequently but they are relatives so they know me and as long as I am relaxed the visit goes well . So Khan just relax and go with the flow !
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08-30-2010, 01:13 PM
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We just got back from being house guests and we had tons of fodder for the ride home. Assume they were doing the same thing, talking some smack about us too!
I had the temerity to comment on the little squeaker in the booth next to ours at dinner using the cushion as a trampoline and scrawling on the walls and windows with crayons as being less than cute. That quickly became: "Oh, someone doesn't like children!"
For the record, I don't mind them at a distance for the briefest of moments. What's wrong with that?
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08-30-2010, 01:26 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
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Originally Posted by Nords
Maybe it just takes them a while to overcome their trauma & fear?
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Mmmm...no...not exactly....
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08-30-2010, 02:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Rich_in_Tampa
I really feel like a contrarian here. DW and I love having house guests though we extend invitations veeeerrrrryyy carefully. Then we prepare a nice home meal (DW loves to cook), go out to eat someplace close and funky, maybe do some local attractions.
I will admit that over the years we have all tacitly agreed on a code of etiquette, know how to share privacy and space, etc. We also know that it's OK to sit in a room reading the newspaper or a book for half an hour or more without conversing.
Just got back from Milwaukee as house guests and had a blast.
Sorry to ruin the thread .
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You haven't ruined anything. I have a theory that people who have had children are more likely to have gone through the learning curve of hosting houseguests. But those of us who rarely do it, well, maybe our guests have interesting stories. I doubt I would have made it to FIRE if I had opted to rent a place that is more suitable to occasional guests.
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08-30-2010, 02:27 PM
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Originally Posted by CuppaJoe
You haven't ruined anything. I have a theory that people who have had children are more likely to have gone through the learning curve of hosting houseguests. But those of us who rarely do it, well, maybe our guests have interesting stories. I doubt I would have made it to FIRE if I had opted to rent a place that is more suitable to occasional guests.
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I've never had children.
SO left long ago.
I can barely put up with the cat.
It's only for 2 days.
We shall survive.
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08-30-2010, 02:27 PM
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LOL Khan, you make it sound soooo inviting, I really want to visit - mostly curiosity about how bad could it possibly be :-)
We have teenage boys 15 and 17, often there are two or three extra bodies (sometimes more) in our lounge room on Sat morning. Sometimes they get a sheet or pillow (from my boys), sometimes I feed them breakfast, but not if I have stuff to do out of the house before they get up. They seem quite happy in our house which is definitely way smaller than many of their friends' houses. I'm sure I can't tell you anything about the "take me as you find me" philosophy of hostessing :-)
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08-30-2010, 02:27 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Khan
Oh crap Nords.
You have me down.
It's my 60th birthday.
Only for 2 days.
I am planning on buying much food from the local farmers market.
Maybe a visit to the local coffee shop.
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I understand how your feeling Khan. DH and I have become increasingly eccentric over the years. Good thing we have infrequent houseguests. Our best friends from Montana come a couple time a year, but they're even more eccentric than we are. Oh, and we have 4 cats (did have 5, but dear Hummer passed on).
I've decided one of the best things about getting older is no longer having to give a sh!t about what other people think.
So chill, enjoy the visit, and have a happy 60th Khan! We like you fine just the way you are
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08-30-2010, 02:33 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Purron
One of the best things about getting older is no longer having to give a sh!t about what other people think.
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This belongs on a bumper sticker.
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08-30-2010, 02:57 PM
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Doesn't everyone ?
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08-30-2010, 03:03 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Dawg52
Doesn't everyone ?
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I shall buy beer.
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08-30-2010, 03:04 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Khan
I've lived alone for ~15 years and someone is coming to visit.
Maybe I should just set fire to the place and save myself the trouble.
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If the place is just messy, don't worry too much. :-)
If it's really unhygienic, unclutter a bit and have someone give it a through cleaning (outsiders see and smell things inhabitants don't).
The state of my house back when I was single is the stuff of legends. Still have a picture but won't post it.
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08-30-2010, 03:11 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Tigger
I don't know how bad the situation is, but if it's like my own situation was 10 years ago when my new SO was going to come over:
- Unclutter the place
- Thoroughly clean it. If you've neglected cleaning for years and can afford it, bring in professionals. Outsiders see and smell things the inhabitants of a house don't.
- Let sunlight and fresh air come in, put flowers in every room
- Bathe
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(please don't take offense, I have no idea what your house is like, but I had been... busy and the place was an incredible mess)
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I have disposed of 4 bags of clothing and 3 bags of trash.
I do bathe on a regular basis.
I want to move to a 1 bedroom apartment.
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08-30-2010, 03:31 PM
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I live in a bear cave with furniture (Rita Rudner). If I were single male my situation would be thought cute.
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So? That's only one opinion.
Anyway, you are who you are. Don't try to, quickly, improve upon something you have spent years perfecting.
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08-30-2010, 03:36 PM
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I have disposed of 4 bags of clothing and 3 bags of trash.
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Now you have room for your guest.
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I want to move to a 1 bedroom apartment.
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Is that bigger or smaller that your current residence?
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08-30-2010, 03:38 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by ronin
I had the temerity to comment on the little squeaker in the booth next to ours at dinner using the cushion as a trampoline and scrawling on the walls and windows with crayons as being less than cute. That quickly became: "Oh, someone doesn't like children!"
For the record, I don't mind them at a distance for the briefest of moments. What's wrong with that?
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I think you're supposed to smile with fond memories and say "Ah, that reminds me of my students!"
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Originally Posted by SVHoper
We have teenage boys 15 and 17, often there are two or three extra bodies (sometimes more) in our lounge room on Sat morning. Sometimes they get a sheet or pillow (from my boys), sometimes I feed them breakfast, but not if I have stuff to do out of the house before they get up. They seem quite happy in our house which is definitely way smaller than many of their friends' houses. I'm sure I can't tell you anything about the "take me as you find me" philosophy of hostessing :-)
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Hunh, when I was their age I never brought any of my girlfriends home like that...
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Originally Posted by Khan
It's only for 2 days.
We shall survive.
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Not to add more pressure to an already tense situation, but you realize of course that after it's all over then we will want photos.
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