After four years of singlehood I am dipping my feet into the dating pool. I have dipped my toes in before but the water was much too cold for my comfort level at the time. Anyway, I have signed up on Match.com and have made contact with a really great man whom I would like to get to know.
Good for you to take that first step back into dating! It's hard, I know. I met Frank on an internet dating site, but hardly regard myself as an expert in internet dating.
If you have experience with Internet dating would you please help me out here.
I don't know how much information to supply at the beginning of communication. What do men want to know about women that they might like to date?
Different men are different and want to know different things, so I have no idea. I think most of them don't know any more about internet dating than we do.
I think the usual practice is to not reveal information that will identify you until you get to know him and decide he's not a nut case. He can wait for your address and phone number, until you've decided that you want him to be calling you and coming to your door.
When Frank e-mailed me and wanted to meet, I suggested a Denny's because the parking lot was well lighted and it was in a busy location so it seemed safe. I wasn't sure about Frank after meeting him once, so we met there several times. Then I decided he was pretty nice and the rest is history.
Do you think it's ok these days if I ask HIM out for coffee? (Yes, I am a total newbie at this. I was married for 24 years!)
Any advice appreciated.
Probably it is, though I have never done that. Like you, I am not totally used to 21st century dating practices! Frank wasn't either, though so it has worked out.
The most important advice is safety. I think most guys understand if you want to play it safe and would kind of wonder if you didn't. So, I'd suggest meeting in a safe place and taking things slowly.
Another bit of advice is to date several people. If you don't meet "Mr. Right" at first, you will eventually. All in all, I think Frank and I have a lot more in common in our backgrounds and in our life experiences than I would have thought possible from internet dating. Good luck, and above all, have fun!