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Old 12-16-2015, 02:46 PM   #61
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I've mentioned this book before. It was an interesting read, at least for me.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quiet:...t_Stop_Talking
I find this interesting, too, thanks for sharing.
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Old 12-20-2015, 08:01 PM   #62
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This is a fun thread. Thanks, OP, for starting it!

I like lots of alone time and I like to cook, show off my cooking and planning skills, and give presents. I consider having a great party to be a gift to my friends who like parties.

What I do -

>Hire college gals to set up and refresh buffet and clean afterward. They each get a full apron so people know who to ask for things.

>I introduce people and mention similar interests, like the poster who wrote about connecting car enthusiasts. I check around to see how I can make people comfortable.

>A fun thing happens before the party. I usually hand-make invitations that are clever and silly. When I left California, I made Burmashave-type signs directing guests to my hard-to-find condo. Guests showed up at the front door already laughing.

>Asking people to bring limericks (found or composed) always works. Only a handful will participate but that's all that's needed. "Help say good bye to the year of the monkey" was one really fun party theme.

I'm moving soon and can't wait to hostess my next party in my new home!
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Old 12-20-2015, 10:22 PM   #63
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I like having a mission or a role. So when I host our annual New Years Day open house, I am the hostess and I know what is expected of me. I chat a little with the 80+ guests, make sure there continues to be food on the table and that the drinks are flowing. I make sure the garbage is taken out and we haven't run out of paper plates. I do best when I have a purpose. Same as when I was the headmaster's wife, I knew my role.

Now, just being a guest at a random party like last night where whomever we might know was based entirely on DH's contacts? I'm totally lost. I've always been like that. It may be time to change since we are moving.






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Old 12-20-2015, 10:31 PM   #64
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This is a fun thread. Thanks, OP, for starting it!

I like lots of alone time and I like to cook, show off my cooking and planning skills, and give presents. I consider having a great party to be a gift to my friends who like parties.

What I do -

>Hire college gals to set up and refresh buffet and clean afterward. They each get a full apron so people know who to ask for things.

>I introduce people and mention similar interests, like the poster who wrote about connecting car enthusiasts. I check around to see how I can make people comfortable.

>A fun thing happens before the party. I usually hand-make invitations that are clever and silly. When I left California, I made Burmashave-type signs directing guests to my hard-to-find condo. Guests showed up at the front door already laughing.

>Asking people to bring limericks (found or composed) always works. Only a handful will participate but that's all that's needed. "Help say good bye to the year of the monkey" was one really fun party theme.

I'm moving soon and can't wait to hostess my next party in my new home!
You sound like an extrovert to me!
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Old 12-21-2015, 04:21 PM   #65
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This is a fun thread. Thanks, OP, for starting it!

I like lots of alone time and I like to cook, show off my cooking and planning skills, and give presents. I consider having a great party to be a gift to my friends who like parties.

What I do -

>Hire college gals to set up and refresh buffet and clean afterward. They each get a full apron so people know who to ask for things.

>I introduce people and mention similar interests, like the poster who wrote about connecting car enthusiasts. I check around to see how I can make people comfortable.

>A fun thing happens before the party. I usually hand-make invitations that are clever and silly. When I left California, I made Burmashave-type signs directing guests to my hard-to-find condo. Guests showed up at the front door already laughing.

>Asking people to bring limericks (found or composed) always works. Only a handful will participate but that's all that's needed. "Help say good bye to the year of the monkey" was one really fun party theme.

I'm moving soon and can't wait to hostess my next party in my new home!

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I've mentioned this book before. It was an interesting read, at least for me.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quiet:...t_Stop_Talking
I really enjoyed this book.

As far as hosting or attending parties. I'm somewhat more comfortable hosting rather than attending... When I attend I tend to find ways to make myself useful, helping the host/hostess... it's my coping strategy to avoid too much interaction. When that doesn't work you'll find me in a corner observing the crowd rather than diving in.

As a hostess I have lots of excuses not to be mingling/chatting.

I definitely feel drained after parties...

That said - it's not a lack of confidence... I had no trouble standing up in front of a group of about 100 people last week at a community planning group meeting to argue my side of a contentious infrastructure project. I knew my points were relevant and needed the city planning department to hear them.
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