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I am female, and a mother or step-mother or both 20 17.24%
I am female, and not a mother or step-mother 22 18.97%
I am male, and a father or step-father or both 41 35.34%
I am male and not a father or step-father 33 28.45%
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Old 06-25-2010, 03:57 PM   #1
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Kids or Not?

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Decide when I was ~10 that I would never have any.
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Decide when I was ~10 that I would never have any.
People are all different. When my wife decided to stop at 2, I was quite sad for a while.

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People are all different. When my wife decided to stop at 2, I was quite sad for a while.

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We're all different. I'm just annoyed when some people inflict their opinions on me.
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No kids for us. I used to work with kids when I was younger and I do look after my niece from time to time but I do not feel the urge to have any kids of my own. DW is pretty much the same way, great with other people's kids, but no desire to have kids of her own. Other people might not understand our choices and that's OK, I don't understand their choices either most of the time.
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I'm just annoyed when some people inflict their opinions on me.
Isn't that what this forum is all about?
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Old 06-25-2010, 04:39 PM   #7
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Father of 2, GF of 4. Those human beings, along with DW, are the center of my life.

I used to wonder where I'd be had the kids not come along, but it's pretty hard to imagine. I guess it must be comparable to nonparents wondering what things would have been like with 20+ years of kids under the roof.
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There is a saying about wives and husbands that goes something like "Divorce? No. Murder...yes." I think there should be some saying like that for parents with kids. Mine could argue until my head was twizzling around at times. Just lucky for him he had a mother who loved him totally and pretty much unconditionally I say...or he'd been in deep poop.
I wanted to be a mother. I had alot of fun with my kid. I enjoyed him "most" days. But I cannot tell you what my motivation was to be a mother at all...it was just a need I had to take care of someone I guess. Go figure?
But for folks who don't want children, I am your biggest booster and believer that not everyone needs to have kids or should have kids--especially if they don't want them. It is definitely NOT for everyone..and that's why God invented both chocolate and vanilla.
Again, what a boring world this would be if we were all alike.
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Decide when I was ~10 that I would never have any.
You beat me by 10 years. Two years of being a day camp counselor pointed me in the childfree direction. Most important decision I ever made.
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Old 06-25-2010, 05:40 PM   #10
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I voted no kids, even though I have a 32 yo stepdaughter. She was long gone when I showed up.
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I had two children who were the center of my universe and it has now expanded to include my grandson and of course my SO . It's a life choice and not for everyone but it was the right choice for me .
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I seriously expected to get Rickrolled when I clicked on this link from Ha on the Child-free Study thread.

One kid. Didn't want to have kids at first, but after she came I always wished we'd have more. Didn't work out that way, but no regrets.It's been a trip, overall. One granddaughter too, and she's a pistol.

I don't know how they can measure happiness, though. It would be interesting to see their criteria.
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Interesting results. I expected a higher percentage would be parents. I would speculate that it is just a self selection bias - a fair number of people choosing not to have kids may be thinking forward to FIRE.
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Me. No kids. Never wanted them....I'm the oldest daughter and had to look after younger siblings growing up. What A Drag.

He. Two kids from previous marriage. Both grown and on their own when we met. Guys with kids were a no go when I was still dating.
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Old 06-26-2010, 07:43 AM   #15
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We have one kid - a soon-to-be 17 yr. old son
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I have two grown children - I adore them! There is nothing like grown "kid-love!" My son still comes over and mows the lawn! My daughter makes special treats for us and brings them over. Yes, I can say, they are the loves of my life.
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No kids. Just the furkids. I didn't not want them but I didn't want to enuf to make happen either. No regrets.
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I answered yes (step-mother) because when I was married, I was a full-time step mother of three (all grown now) and still maintain relationships with them.

No kidlets of my own. No heroic measure to make it happen or not. If I am supposed to have them, it will happen. (age 40 now)
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I am the father of 3, the FIL of 2, and the grandfather of 1. I couldn't imagine life without them and hope for many more years and more grandkids.
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Old 06-26-2010, 09:35 AM   #20
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Even when I was a kid I did not like hanging out with kids. Always preferred dogs.

Was thrilled when a friend found a doctor who would do V's on young unmarrieds with no kids (this was pre-internet, and not easy to find) to seal the deal.
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