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Old 01-04-2014, 08:44 AM   #21
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Badger,
Sorry for your loss. Lost many in the last year including a son to suicide. It is very hard for awhile. Grief is overwhelming. As the time moves on you will reflect on things you did together. Most on this site like to be in control, but the are some things we can do nothing about, life is short, God Bless
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Old 01-04-2014, 10:14 AM   #22
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Badger, sorry for your loss, there were two friends I lost last year and I understand the pain, it does get better. pletal, your post brings tears to my eyes. Bless you for having the courage to talk about it.
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Old 01-04-2014, 10:24 AM   #23
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There is nothing like a death, to make us more aware of how precious life is, and how important each minute must be.
Losing a close friend is in many ways like losing a parent or a child, as the closeness of experiences and common understanding is so near to your own life.
After 24 years of living in a senior community, and seeing nearly half of my friends now gone, it doesn't get easier.
Good to take the time to remember the good times. It helps.

Sometimes even in the darkest night a candle glows:
A good friend and a pillar of our community came down with colon cancer 2 year ago, and after weeks and months of treatment here in Illinois went to his other home in Arizona... for what proved to be a last ditch operation (colostomy) stomach removal. We all respected his privacy and stayed way for what we knew would be a final reckoning. No one heard from him, as he wanted to avoid putting his burden on others. We just assumed....
On last Friday while in the local supermarket, my DW brought me around to a different aisle and asked if I knew "who this is?" The 6'2" man infront of me bore a resemblance, but was 15 years younger and 130 lbs. lighter... but for sure, it was Bill.... I'm not given to crying, but the tears rolled down my face as I hugged him...
Some things just happen, and once in a while, they are great!

We must share the gladness with the pain...
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Badger,
Sorry for your loss. Lost many in the last year including a son to suicide. It is very hard for awhile. Grief is overwhelming. As the time moves on you will reflect on things you did together. Most on this site like to be in control, but the are some things we can do nothing about, life is short, God Bless
So so sorry for your loss, pletal--just no words. God bless you too.

Losing friends at any age leaves us with little empty spaces in our lives where they used to be. I miss them all.
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As others have said -sorry to hear of your loss. Time sure marches on...A good friend of mine had a heart attack on Weds but made it - 2 stints later he is home waiting for the 9ers game! We really need to appreciate the time we have together -
time is all we have, till it is up. Another great argument for ER
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Thank you all so much. Your kind words and that you took the time to post and offer comfort help more than you can imagine.

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Very sorry for your loss. It's not easy, but learning not to be angry and frustrated over things you can't do anything about is a very worthwhile pursuit. Be glad you shared the friendship for 46 years and reflect on all the wonderful experiences. In time those memories will crowd out the sadness.
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I am very sorry to hear about losing your friend. I hope the coming days bring you healing and peace.
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I join the chorus in expressing sorrow. My Dad lived to be 95 and witnessed the deaths of all his friends. Eventually he stopped going to the funerals.

I have lost many working mates during the last 15 years. It never gets easier. But be an active helper to the survivors. I helped the wife notify all his working friends in the second last one. It was cathartic.
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Sorry for your loss. Lost many in the last year including a son to suicide. It is very hard for awhile. Grief is overwhelming. As the time moves on you will reflect on things you did together. Most on this site like to be in control, but the are some things we can do nothing about, life is short, God Bless
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. Hugs and prayers to you.
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and I'm feeling a little down. We spent 4 great years at college and remained friends over the past 46 years. I suppose I'm getting to the age I need to expect this to happen more often if I last long enough. I'm not good at how to deal with things like this. It makes me angry and frustrated as well as sad because there isn't anything I can do about it.

I just didn't know anyone else to tell who might understand.

Cheers!
I lost a wonderful friend a few years ago. She was witty,pretty and full of sass. I didn't know her as long as you did. However, I am forever grateful for the times we had.
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So sorry Badger for the loss of your friend. And for you pletal for the loss of your son.
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My Dad lived to be 95 and witnessed the deaths of all his friends. Eventually he stopped going to the funerals.
I recall, as a kid, my grandmother, (who also lived into her 90s), telling me that she no longer read the local (small town) obituaries....because "Everyone I know (knew) has gone".
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