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Old 05-25-2011, 09:27 PM   #1
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Lousy day... and I'm insensitive

Well, now when DW says "I feel like I got hit by a Mack truck" she has some credibility because she did.

Driving over to her Dad's to do some yard work yesterday a Honda ran a stop sign. DW saw it coming and slowed so she didn't hit the Honda, but the Honda got nailed by a Mack dump truck going in the opposite direction. The impact with that car caused the Mack truck to skid to his left and hit DW's car. The Honda Accord is probably totaled. This all happened at low speeds, from all descriptions the driver of the dump truck was exercising due caution going downhill toward the intersection and was going at most 25 mph.

The good things:

1. DW is not hurt other than some soreness, tomorrow she is seeing the doctor.
2. The Honda does in fact have insurance.
3. The insurance is with the same company we have, so this should not be an issue.

So we now have a Toyota Yaris as a rental until DW's car is either fixed or declared totaled. If it's only the fender and bumper we expect to get it back. If there is significant damage to drive train components (it's front-wheel drive) then it may be totaled. Dang, we did not want to be new-car shopping for about another 8 or 10 years!

The bad things:

1. While DW was trying to call me on the cell phone I was out enjoying the nice weather on the motorcycle so now she's sort-of mad at me for not answering. Her brother, who worked a 16-hour shift the night before, came to get her, but by then I was home, got the message, and could get over there to pick her up.

2. And another thing: DW's SIL was the first one to reach me and said "DW's been in a really bad accident". Now, because of my background, "really bad accident" means they had to cut the car apart to get you out, you are at best semiconscious, have multiple fractures, probable internal injuries, bleeding from the mouth and ears, and are being airlifted to shock-trauma. To SIL, "really bad accident" means you can't drive the car home. So me and SIL had a discussion about defining terms. DW and SIL think I'm insensitive.

3. Now DW doesn't want me riding a motorcycle. At all.

What a lousy day.

At least I did have the sense to suggest taking DW out for a steak dinner.
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Walt, good to hear your DW wasn't seriously hurt. Sorry to hear you also suffered injuries but weren't even in the car...
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glad your dW wasn't injured severely....I think if you both have the same company, no deductible, however since DW wasn't at fault, no ded anyway.

Do you wear a helmet?
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So glad she is okay. I hope she's not too shook up.

Let us know how you like the Yaris . And the mini phone you're going to have surgically installed in your ear drum for motorcycle riding.

"She was in a really bad accident" had to be terrible for you to hear.
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Thank goodness she wasn't hurt!

Don't worry about the rest... it will all work out after a while and thank goodness she is still in one piece. Good move with the steak dinner.
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OMG. "A really bad accident" would have had me thinking the worst. Anything less than near death and I would much more expect to hear "there's been an accident, but DW is okay" followed by whatever details and injuries are relevant.
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Glad to hear that she is okay.

Sorry it has been such a bad day. Your wife is fearful for you to ride your motorcycle, because she saw firsthand how quickly one can get in an accident, without it being their fault. I am sure that you already knew that from your years on the job. Stay safe and tomorrow should be a better day!
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Yes Walt, I am really glad it seems to be OK. I'm with you, you are not insenstive, you just don't want to have an unnecesary heart attack.

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How scary ! Glad DW is okay !
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Yes, Walt y’all did have a lousy day. I sure am glad your DW is ok…I know that is a relief to you.

Now here are a few thoughts from a woman that has a motorcycle ridin' DH and mmm, hmmm…never hears or checks the cell.

I imagine at some point she has thought about the accident and could see you getting creamed by a dump truck. This would be reason enough for her to not want you to ride your bike anymore. But I believe the real reason is because she could not get in touch with you. You were the one she wanted by her side in her time of dilemma…no one else…she wanted you.

You happened to be riding the bike and didn’t answer your cell. She has put the blame on the bike.

Are you insensitive?...nah…you’re just a man.

I believe with a little time your DW will come around and you’ll be enjoying your bike once again.
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Walt, glad the DW is OK. Car/truck accidents can leave a mess as you know quite well. "Bad Accident" means the same to me as you...entrapment, serious bodily injury, Med-Evac or high speed ambulance trip to Trauma Center.

My BIL has a bike and says he always uses a Bluetooth with is cell phone to be sure to receive calls from DW while out for a ride. It has saved his bike bacon more times than he can remember. Women just don't get being out of communication.

Hope all resolves itself to your benefit and DW is truly fine. Let the bike discussion cool for a while and investigate alternative communication devices so you can keep your freedom bike.
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Glad DW is OK. Then I can chuckle at the Mack Truck line.
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Sorry to hear about the accident Walt, but I'm very pleased to hear that your DW wasn't hurt.

If she is now objecting to you riding your bike because she thinks that being hit by a Mack truck on a bike, even at slow speeds is really bad news then you may have a tough time persuading her otherwise. If it is because because she couldn't contact you then you can get a blue tooth set up as suggested above, and convince her to let you out on the bike again.
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Sorry that happened Walt... good to hear she did not get seriously hurt.
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Walt, I am glad DW emerged relatively unscathed. I think SIL should have worded things differently so that you knew right off that DW was okay.
I second or third the suggestion on getting a Bluetooth.
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"While DW was trying to call me on the cell phone I was out enjoying the nice weather on the motorcycle so now she's sort-of mad at me for not answering."

Are you married to my wife? I don't own a motorcycle, but she gets mad at me if she can't reach me when I'm out running. Glad she's OK, and kudos to you for the brilliant "let's go out to dinner" tactic.
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DW and SIL think I'm insensitive.

3. Now DW doesn't want me riding a motorcycle. At all.

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1. DW is not hurt other than some soreness, tomorrow she is seeing the doctor.
2. The Honda does in fact have insurance.
3. The insurance is with the same company we have, so this should not be an issue.


At least I did have the sense to suggest taking DW out for a steak dinner.
All's well that ends well.

Don't even mention the bike for a while. Then take it back up like there was never an issue.
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To be honest, I stopped paying attention after seeing your DW is OK. You should too. The rest is noise.

So what kind of tank will your DW want to replace the Accord with?
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The good things:

1. DW is not hurt other than some soreness, tomorrow she is seeing the doctor.
Thank goodness she's OK.

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The bad things:

1. While DW was trying to call me on the cell phone I was out enjoying the nice weather on the motorcycle so now she's sort-of mad at me for not answering. Her brother, who worked a 16-hour shift the night before, came to get her, but by then I was home, got the message, and could get over there to pick her up.

2. And another thing: DW's SIL was the first one to reach me and said "DW's been in a really bad accident". Now, because of my background, "really bad accident" means they had to cut the car apart to get you out, you are at best semiconscious, have multiple fractures, probable internal injuries, bleeding from the mouth and ears, and are being airlifted to shock-trauma. To SIL, "really bad accident" means you can't drive the car home. So me and SIL had a discussion about defining terms. DW and SIL think I'm insensitive.

3. Now DW doesn't want me riding a motorcycle. At all..
1. Second the bluetooth idea.

2. IMO, this shows your are sensitive. Hearing "really bad accident" had you worried sick about her. Better message would have been "She's OK, but has been in an accident". In situations like this, people should always start out by saying the loved one is OK before delivering the bad news.

3. Can't say I blame her. Motorcycles are dangerous. I suspect she's been uncomfortable with your motorcycle riding for some time now. The accident reinforced her fears and provided an opportunity to express her discomfort.

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At least I did have the sense to suggest taking DW out for a steak dinner.
That was very thoughtful. You're a keeper
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Walt, you're not insensitive, your DW is fortunate, your SIL is easily excited, you'll not have to give up your motorcycle, and after all that, you even got a steak for dinner. Sucks about the car, though.
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