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bbbamI · 03-01-2009, 12:49 PM

Amethyst....I thought I would copy from your fantastic original thread and see what the ladies think.....

Let's assume that traits women usually like in men are equally present (looks, kind personality, no criminal record, etc.)-- which do you prefer:

A man of average smarts, or...

A very smart man?

Just wondering about the FIRE-inclined ladies...

Meadbh · 03-01-2009, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by bbbamI

Amethyst....I thought I would copy from your fantastic original thread and see what the ladies think.....

Let's assume that traits women usually like in men are equally present (looks, kind personality, no criminal record, etc.)-- which do you prefer:

A man of average smarts, or...

A very smart man?

Just wondering about the FIRE-inclined ladies...

Only the seriously smart need apply.

REWahoo · 03-01-2009, 01:04 PM

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Only the seriously smart need apply.

Go ahead, exclude the silly smart from competing...

**simple girl** · 03-01-2009, 01:37 PM

I prefer above-average intelligence, and DH fits the bill for sure! He has a lot of other fine traits as well.

two4theroad · 03-01-2009, 01:38 PM

In my errant youth, I cared not a whit how intelligent as man was long as he was a lot of fun, could dance really well and didn't get sloppy drunk. Of course, I had no designs on marriage with them either.

I have never believed the old adage that opposites attract, at least not in the long term. When I did decide to settle down it was going to be with a man that has the same morals I do, the same goals for life and someone that I could talk to for hours on end. He challenges my ideas and I his, we keep each other hopping, mentally and physically. He thinks I am smarter than he is and I think he is smarter than I. A match made in heaven...

2fer
So my answer is....a man that is equally smart. (In my opinion... since that is the only one that matters in this instance)

Amethyst · 03-01-2009, 02:20 PM

Wahoo, I prefer very smart men who aren't afraid to be silly, since I have a truly oddball sense of humor. Being too serious about oneself cancels out being seriously smart.

Purron · 03-01-2009, 02:23 PM

DH is a smart guy, but his most appealing traits are his kind heart and sense of humor. He has a way of bringing out the best in people and making them feel good about themselves. When he finally retires later this year, those who report to him at work will miss him very much.

bbbamI · 03-01-2009, 02:30 PM

I suppose I would go with a very smart man as a mate. In regards to other relationships, the intelligence doesn't matter.

I consider myself of average intelligence. I've been fairly successful in my life, but it takes me longer to reach my goals than it would for a very smart person.

My DH is an extremely intelligent man and I think this fact makes me feel protected. My common sense and his type of intellect go together pretty well. Most of my friends and acquaintances are very intelligent, but I have noticed a common factor among them; when they encounter a problem, to them there is only one way to "fix" it, and that would be their way. I believe some of them have blinders on when it comes to solving a problem; they lack the ability to understand the impact their decisions have on others.

To me, a perfect man would be intelligent and able to get his point across without patronizing.

Khan · 03-01-2009, 03:17 PM

I find intellect and wit to be extremely attractive. It can override looks (though not override being a jerk).

freebird5825 · 03-01-2009, 03:38 PM

You already know I'm a rocket scientist, so intelligence is definitely a big factor for me. That trait in a man is not to be confused with advanced degrees. These do not matter to me, nor do lofty titles and professional laurels.
I have been told by many men in my life (friends and romantic partners alike) that I "think too much".

Higher level thought is not something I do on purpose, it is who I am. So my mate has to be very similar.
It doesn't have to be techno-geek thinking, but men who do not like to explore the possibilities of things would bore me very quickly.
Been there, done that.

My absolute preference? Gimme a techno-geek anyday!

Amethyst · 03-01-2009, 05:19 PM

Freebird wrote, That trait in a man is not to be confused with advanced degrees. These do not matter to me, nor do lofty titles and professional laurels.

Hear, hear! Additionally, I could not care less where someone went to school.

My really smart person can articulate fine distinctions resulting from critical thinking--about life, love, marriage, finances, sex, art, literature, music, theater, cinema, gardening, fitness, politics, or what kind and size of screwdriver to use--and can also explain why these distinctions matter.

**Gumby** · 03-01-2009, 06:10 PM

I'm happy enough to be a boy toy.

bbbamI · 03-01-2009, 06:11 PM

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jambo101 · 03-02-2009, 09:57 AM

Seems most of you gals want the smart guy but i remember in High school when i was the whizz in science and math class all the girls would go for the dumb football players everytime,not saying all the sports guys are dumb but the ones in my particular school were.

bbbamI · 03-02-2009, 10:09 AM

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Seems most of you gals want the smart guy but i remember in High school when i was the whizz in science and math class all the girls would go for the dumb football players everytime,not saying all the sports guys are dumb but the ones in my particular school were.

Yeah, but we're older and wiser now.....

freebird5825 · 03-02-2009, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by jambo101

Seems most of you gals want the smart guy but i remember in High school when i was the whizz in science and math class all the girls would go for the dumb football players everytime,not saying all the sports guys are dumb but the ones in my particular school were.

Ditto, except I was the girl counterpart of the science/math whiz kid.
All the jock guys went for the girly cheerleader types. The boys only talked to me only when they wanted to copy my homework.
The smart boys viewed me as a threat.

But I managed a little boy-girl fun in spite of all that stereotyping.

freebird5825 · 03-02-2009, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by bbbamI

Yeah, but we're older and wiser now.....

Hey, WHO you calling "old" !

FinanceDude · 03-02-2009, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by freebird5825

Ditto, except I was the girl counterpart of the science/math whiz kid.
All the jock guys went for the girly cheerleader types. The boys only talked to me only when they wanted to copy my homework.

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But I managed a little boy-girl fun in spite of all that stereotyping.

Something like, "Fine, I'll let ya copy my homework, but it will cost you a date"...........