Wow this thread is on fire (no pun intended). When I started reading this I think there were 7 pages, and here I am replying on page 9. Brewer's issue has seemingly resolved. But one takeaway from this, for those about to retire, is to make sure spouse is on board with the ER plan.
My DW is still happily w*rking as a teacher. We had many discussions before my ER, and she was consistently supportive of it. That did not change when I pulled the plug, and we have probably argued less since my ER, One thing I did, in the first month or so of my ER: I made it a point to not being home at 3:30 PM, when she came home from school. I just didn't want to risk her seeing me "doing nothing" as she walked in the door. It was an unecessary precaution, as it turned out, but better safe than sorry.