My 57-year-old Classmate Has a Baby

[TromboneAl]

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Originally Posted by Nords No worse than going out for a meal with your daughter and having the waiter say "And for your wife?"

Show-off.

[flyfishnevada]

We know a couple that raised three, I think, of their own children and once they were grown adopted two boys. They've been raising kids for over 35 years! They confide that they are sick and tired of it and ready to have an empty nest.

My DW and I have nightmares about having another kid, even though she has had a hysterectomy and I have had a vasectomy. It's hard enough when you're in your 20's and 30's. I can't imagine starting it all now in my 40's, much less my 50's.

[Backpacker]

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Originally Posted by nords i hear that most parents would have preferred to have the grandkids first.

plus 1

[BigNick]

Father at 57... OK. 70 years old with a 13-year-old kid... not so much.

[LOL!]

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Originally Posted by Nords No worse than going out for a meal with your daughter and having the waiter say "And for your wife?" Notice that a waitress never seems to make that mistaken assumption... only a waiter.

That happened to me at the optometrist. It was the female staff members making the mistake. Maybe the employees need better eye care of their own? It pissed my teenage daughter off to no end.

[WhoDaresWins]

My father was 50 and my mother 40 when I was born, and I think it would have been impossible to have better parents. However, I did lose them at an early age. I was only 21 when my Mom died of colon CA at age 61 and 27 when Dad died at 77. They missed out on so much of our lives and I have always felt a bit melancholy going forward into adulthood. Mom would have loved to have seen a grandchild. Dad got to see my sister's first but died when he was only 6 months old.

On a lighter note, talking about cases of mistaken assumptions, my husband took his younger sister with him to the jewelers to pick up my wedding ring before the ceremony. She was 13 and he was 23, and they were both horrified when the jeweler asked her "And would the bride like to try the ring for size?" She was in pigtails and had braces on her teeth! In later years they could laugh about it of course.

[Purron]

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Originally Posted by WhoDaresWins My father was 50 and my mother 40 when I was born, and I think it would have been impossible to have better parents. However, I did lose them at an early age. I was only 21 when my Mom died of colon CA at age 61 and 27 when Dad died at 77.

So sorry you lost them - they sound like wonderful people. I was 21 when my 52 year old dad died of a heart attack. I'd rather have great dad like him than an awful one who was with me longer.

My mom is now 80 and I'm glad to have her in my life.

[Nords]

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Originally Posted by LOL! That happened to me at the optometrist. It was the female staff members making the mistake. Maybe the employees need better eye care of their own? It pissed my teenage daughter off to no end.

I was at the "raising my eyebrow" and "Oh no you didn't" stage of getting annoyed, but my daughter was so much more grossed out that it ended up being funny.

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Originally Posted by WhoDaresWins She was 13 and he was 23, and they were both horrified when the jeweler asked her "And would the bride like to try the ring for size?" She was in pigtails and had braces on her teeth! In later years they could laugh about it of course.

When I was a young submarine officer in 1985 Charleston, SC, I signed the leave chit of one of my even younger submariners. He wanted to take a four-day weekend to escort his spouse-- to her high-school junior prom.

I can only imagine the teasing he had to endure from his shipmates when they were out of earshot. But because he was married, he was actually one of the more mature & responsible members of Auxiliary Division. Which admittedly isn't saying much...

[Cherryrose]

Interesting. I guess I didn't realize so many people had children in their 40s or later. Congratulations to your friend. I sure don't need any more babies of my own. Bring on the grandchildren!

[Sarah in SC]

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Originally Posted by Nords When I was a young submarine officer in 1985 Charleston, SC, I signed the leave chit of one of my even younger submariners. He wanted to take a four-day weekend to escort his spouse-- to her high-school junior prom. I can only imagine the teasing he had to endure from his shipmates when they were out of earshot. But because he was married, he was actually one of the more mature & responsible members of Auxiliary Division. Which admittedly isn't saying much...

That is hilarious! Didn't happen at my high school, but easily could have been the case at any number of local public schools around that time!

Like a couple of others here, I was an early HS graduate at 17 but that didn't stop the wisecracking when I met DH at 18 and he was 26, mostly about him picking me up from cheerleader practice in the afternoons.

[happy2bretired]

My mother was 41 when I was born, way back in 1950 - father was in his 50s. My father died when I was only 18 months old but having an older mother, I think, was beneficial to me as I grew up. I hope that I picked up some of her maturity and strength along the way.

[rescueme]

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Originally Posted by 73ss454 So I guess when he takes SS we will get to support the baby also?(heh)

Yes ...

What do you call an old man (in my case, age 63) with a much younger wife (I won't specify any age - let's say a couple of decades younger than me)?

Lucky ...

"I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm once good once as I ever was" ...

[TromboneAl]

Jenny's boyfriend's brother (28) just got married to an 18 year old. Jenny is 22 and her boyfriend is 32. I said, jokingly, "Do you see a pattern here?"

Anyway, the interesting thing is that neither the bride nor the groom has ever kissed anyone. That's what I said. They haven't kissed each other or anyone else. There are all kinds of people in this world!

[rescueme]

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Originally Posted by TromboneAl Anyway, the interesting thing is that neither the bride nor the groom has ever kissed anyone. That's what I said. They haven't kissed each other or anyone else. There are all kinds of people in this world!

Even those those are "sweet". It's good to hear a story such as yours, as compared to the "trash" on TV/Internet today.

Good luck to them, as they explore their unique relationship.

As an old guy, I find such stories "sweet".

The world could benefit from such stories of “innocence”, IMHO.

OK, I'll stop blushing and return to my crugeman ways...

[Fireup2020]

Wow - congratulations I think! We just went to a wedding of two of our friends - she is 46 and he is 50. First marriage for both. After the reception, they admitted (ok, a couple of had noticed she had not been drinking alcohol the past few months, and we inquired...) they are due in October! His sperm with a donor egg...
Just don't think I could do that! (age or donor factor!) Still wishing them the best since it is something they have both wanted, and have gone through the wringer to get there!