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Old 11-07-2008, 08:19 PM   #1
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I've written about my kitty with the liver disease. We've done everything but think he doesn't have much more time. I am beside myself with worry and grief. I wish Cute Fuzzy Bunny was still here. He always knew the right thing to say and gave me such great advice about my kitty.
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Old 11-07-2008, 08:23 PM   #2
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Having been through this many times, I can only suggest you try to look at it from the cat's point of view.
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Old 11-07-2008, 08:27 PM   #3
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It's really hard. Do what you have to do when you have to. Time heals.
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Old 11-07-2008, 08:41 PM   #4
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I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty. We lost our old cat to liver disease; it was very difficult to bear. At the end, when he was hooked up to all the specialized machines and such, I wondered if it was the best thing to do for him. He may have suffered less if we didn't.

My only recommendation is to make him comfortable and let him know he is loved. Cry with a friend.
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Old 11-07-2008, 08:52 PM   #5
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Take some comfort in knowing that he knows that you love him, and that he loved every minute of his life with you.
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Old 11-07-2008, 08:55 PM   #6
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My wife and I have always been cat persons. We had a beautiful white cat (Angora?) with blue eyes, and pink ears. What was even more lovely than her look was her temperament. She never failed to come at our beckon. She would know to wake us up in the morning if we slept in late. No, it was not so she could get fed, but she knew we were supposed to be up. I have had a few cats growing up, but she was the sweetest cat we have ever had, or probably ever will. And she would not hurt a fly, never knew how to hunt and catch anything live. She was never aloof and loved to be with people. And she loved to eat corn!

We lost her to kidney failure after 12 short years. In the end, she was so miserable that we had to take her to a vet to have her put to sleep. My son and I took her home to bury her in our backyard.
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Old 11-07-2008, 09:03 PM   #7
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Believe me, I know how tough it is. Your kitty should come first...then later you can deal with your feelings. Be strong.
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Old 11-07-2008, 09:23 PM   #8
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As filled I write this, my beloved 15 year old kitty is climbing all over me, trying to get my attention by pawing my face and head-bumping me, purring all the while. I know that at some point, I will be without her company...and I will be grief stricken. But, as I had to do with other precious pets over the years, I know that there is a time when letting go is the kindest act I can do for my pet. It is never easy, but remembering all the love and companionship my pets have given me unconditionally over their lifetime helps to ease the pain.

My heart goes out to you.
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Tough deal Purron - we've had many cats pass through our lives and feel best about the ones that we knew had a good life. That was primary - when the quality of their lives went away i've taken some of them in to be put to sleep - some died as their quality of life went away, the lucky ones, but for others it seemed the kindest thing to help them out of this life in the easiest way - for them, tough for me. Wish that i could have done the same thing for my Mom as she went through a protracted dying time. Make a good choce for your kitty and you will have made the best choice for yourself and will feel ok about it in the future.
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Old 11-08-2008, 08:26 AM   #10
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I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty. It's always hard when they are ill. Just remember the good times you had together and know you gave him a good life.
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Old 11-08-2008, 08:30 AM   #11
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I'm so sorry. I know that you will do right by your kitty and will cherish all the memories you have.
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Old 11-08-2008, 08:47 AM   #12
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What everyone else said, Purron; the title of your thread says it all. I tried to post sooner but my cat was asking for attention. She's a healthy four-year-old who didn't seem to understand, just purred on.

I've always found it helpful, when the time comes, to say goodbye to my cats and tell them they are loved kitties.
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Old 11-08-2008, 10:07 AM   #13
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I'm so sorry you are going through this Purron. It is the price we pay for the years of love our kitties give us. We must say goodbye at some point. I've been through it many times with my kitties, so I understand. You have to be strong in the end to do what is best for your baby. My thoughts are with you.
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Old 11-08-2008, 10:21 AM   #14
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Purron,
I'm very sorry to hear that things are not going well. You've done much to help keep your cat healthy and happy, and you'll always know that you've done your best. Good luck.
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Old 11-08-2008, 11:20 AM   #15
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Thank you all so much for the kind words everyone. I have a great vet who has been a great deal of comfort to my cat and me. I thought last night was the end - he was breathing fast and shallow and hadn't eaten a bite all day. Today, he seems a bit better but I still don't think he will be with me much longer.

Khan, I've been thinking about what you said all day and it's so true. I should think of it from his point of view. He's been through a lot including some major surgery. At this point, I just want to help him be as comfortable as possible. Perhaps by some miracle, he will recover. If not, I will not let him suffer and I don't want to put him through more invasive treatments. This would be for me - not him.
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Purron,

You have my sympathy. Our pets have always been loved members of our family, and I've been through the end-of-life thing many times. And in retrospect, every time we tended to hang on to them too long. I think reflecting back we've not done the right thing soon enough because we wanted to defer our pain in the pending loss. The correct decision is not always the one we want. Pets can't tell us what they feel, but their eyes will tell us a lot. I still choke up thinking about the pets, our best friends, we have lost. My heart goes out to you in turning loose of your cherished kitty. I'm certain you've given him a wonderful life.
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Old 11-08-2008, 06:05 PM   #17
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Purron, I'm so sorry he's not doing well. I've followed your posts about him. So many of us have been through this kind of thing with our beloved pets. It's so hard, every time.

I hope the end, whenever it comes, is easy for him. And I hope that you are peaceful with his passing.
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Thank you all so much for the kind words everyone. I have a great vet who has been a great deal of comfort to my cat and me. I thought last night was the end - he was breathing fast and shallow and hadn't eaten a bite all day. Today, he seems a bit better but I still don't think he will be with me much longer.

Khan, I've been thinking about what you said all day and it's so true. I should think of it from his point of view. He's been through a lot including some major surgery. At this point, I just want to help him be as comfortable as possible. Perhaps by some miracle, he will recover. If not, I will not let him suffer and I don't want to put him through more invasive treatments. This would be for me - not him.
I held onto one for what I think (looking back) was too long. Since then I have had them put down somewhat sooner than later (after consulting with the vet).

The cat (or dog or whatever) doesn't know what is going on; it only knows how it feels at the moment. It doesn't care about birthdays or holidays or looking forward to next summer. It doesn't know that the surgery or other procedure is for its own good.

At this point, your only concern should be his comfort.
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The cat (or dog or whatever) doesn't know what is going on; it only knows how it feels at the moment. It doesn't care about birthdays or holidays or looking forward to next summer. It doesn't know that the surgery or other procedure is for its own good.
I've always wondered why people (including myself to some extent) are so sure of this. Why do we believe that humans are the only specieis with an awareness of death?
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So sorry to hear about your kitty .
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