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Old 06-12-2015, 06:41 PM   #21
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Your wife has to work one more year to earn the pension--do you "have" to do this too to pad the nest egg? If not, does your DW know how truly awful you feel about it? Perhaps you can be a househusband for her last year or look for something else to do short term to earn a little money.
No, I don't have to, and we have discussed it. I will give it the old college try, but may end up pulling the trigger anyway.
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Old 06-12-2015, 06:44 PM   #22
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Why did you do that to yourself?
Temporary insanity and fear of change.
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Old 06-12-2015, 07:52 PM   #23
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A year ago I set my goal at mid-2016. Things at work became easier because I realized that I no longer have to worry about career development, training, positioning myself for my next job. I can give exposure and opportunities to my staff. I can give away credit to other people because I just don't need it. So my staff love me.

Now that I am a year away, I now know that I'm not concerned if they lay me off. That doesn't mean I'll slack off - other people are depending on me. But it does mean that the boss can't hurt me. If things get hot, I can leave. In six months time, I'll give five months notice, and then she'll know that she has nothing over me. Things can only get better....
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Old 06-12-2015, 08:04 PM   #24
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I was in tears 3 or 4 days a week when I got out of the truck to catch the train pretty much the entire last year before I quit the cube job. If I had another choice, I would have taken it. Open the door marked "exit."
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Old 06-13-2015, 10:09 AM   #25
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Why flog yourself?

Zombie-ing around for a year is corrosive for you and your co workers...not to mention the employer.

You can support your wife by house-husbanding [or some other helpful task set] for the balance of her work term and not abuse yourself doing something you hate.
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Husband retired a year before I did. I wasn't even serious about retiring until he did and was enjoying his new life so much....coffee at a different place each morning is one example.

DH took over all the cleaning, laundry, cooking. Each evening I came home to dinner prepared and a clean house. He even packed my lunches and would bring me iced tea at work if I asked. Just guessing your wife might like that, too?

That made my last year much more bearable. It was a long year, but my responsibilities ended each day at 4PM.
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Old 06-13-2015, 10:21 AM   #26
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Husband retired a year before I did. I wasn't even serious about retiring until he did and was enjoying his new life so much....coffee at a different place each morning is one example.



DH took over all the cleaning, laundry, cooking. Each evening I came home to dinner prepared and a clean house. He even packed my lunches and would bring me iced tea at work if I asked. Just guessing your wife might like that, too?



That made my last year much more bearable. It was a long year, but my responsibilities ended each day at 4PM.

I came out of retirement for summer school this year to tack on some more Roth money. One week to go...Big mistake! The damnedest thing is I did the same thing last year and swore I wouldn't do it again. It wont happen again!


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Old 06-13-2015, 10:25 AM   #27
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I came out of retirement for summer school this year to tack on some more Roth money. One week to go...Big mistake! The damnedest thing is I did the same thing last year and swore I wouldn't do it again. It wont happen again!
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Old 06-13-2015, 10:29 AM   #28
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Maybe that is a bit better than senility which is what I thought I had. Its that darn "Roth" word that keeps biting me. If they would only let me fund the Roth with my pension income.


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Old 06-13-2015, 11:01 AM   #29
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My empathy. I did a single OMY, had started a second. DW begged me to join her in retirement but I didn't think I was ready.

I still recall the details of the 2 game changers. The first I wrote off to "chicken little management practices". The second crossed a line that I refused to accept. I waited almost a month till DW's birthday, that was her birthday present from me, best present ever, for both of us!
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Old 06-13-2015, 12:06 PM   #30
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I'm in a similar situation except DW needed to work 9 years more to get a pension, with paid health care. I retired as soon as I could and have enjoyed 8 years of doing whatever I want, including making her life easier while she worked. Next year she, too, will retire.
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Old 06-14-2015, 09:59 AM   #31
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You might let your company know super early. It could change your job enough to make it bearable. I announced I was retiring 3 months before I did, since my firm's work is mostly quarterly in nature. I spent the last quarter saying goodbye to clients and transitioning my work. Some of my clients asked if I could be available for special projects, and now I work about 5 hours a week on things I really enjoy.
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Old 06-14-2015, 02:13 PM   #32
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There won't be a second OMY for me. I was doing some financial calculations this weekend and decided that regardless of what my old company does, or this new one, I'm out next June after my 1-year vesting cliff, and moving back to Colorado.

I don't care if I have to buy a cheap mobile home in the middle of nowhere, be a hermit, and live off tins of cat food. I'm done being a cube rat and working IT jobs I hate.
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Old 06-14-2015, 02:46 PM   #33
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DW is a teacher and has one year until pension eligible. I told her I would also work another year. Every day is torture; I have mentally checked out. It's gonna be a long year.
So change your mind. What's stopping you?
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Old 06-14-2015, 07:41 PM   #34
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So change your mind. What's stopping you?
That lady over there is stopping me.
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Old 06-14-2015, 08:10 PM   #35
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There won't be a second OMY for me. I was doing some financial calculations this weekend and decided that regardless of what my old company does, or this new one, I'm out next June after my 1-year vesting cliff, and moving back to Colorado.

I don't care if I have to buy a cheap mobile home in the middle of nowhere, be a hermit, and live off tins of cat food. I'm done being a cube rat and working IT jobs I hate.
So what's wrong with a cheap (free to me) motor home in the middle of nowhere in the Colorado mountains? (BTW, I kind of like the Hermit lifestyle. Haven't tried any cat food, though. )

I planned on doing one more year when DS announced he would take longer to graduate from college, but after a 3-week vacation to the Colorado mountains, the first day back was enough for me. I put in the paperwork that day and was done in a month.
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Old 06-15-2015, 08:00 PM   #36
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Study hall and lunch were my favorite classes.
When I was in Jr College, our sociology teacher warned us against attending "Student Center-U" and majoring in "Drop-ology"...but I did get lots of fun dates there before xfr-ing to a majority male engineering U!
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