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Old 05-25-2014, 03:49 PM   #21
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Deepest sympathies. I know you loved her and were a good son.

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Old 05-25-2014, 06:10 PM   #22
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I am so sorry to learn of your loss. As I know too, even when expected that doesn't make it easier. You can say that you did the best you could given the circumstances. That's all anyone can do.

I heard the call to do nothing. So I answered it.
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Old 05-25-2014, 06:19 PM   #23
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So sorry for your losses Vincente and Dancer. Remember the good times and be good to yourself during these trying times.
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Vincente and Dancer, I am very sorry for your losses.
Losing a Mom is one of the toughest mountains we'll ever climb.
The only real encouragement I can give you is the thought that in time, today's sorrows will give way to a lasting memory of the good times.
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Old 05-25-2014, 06:46 PM   #25
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Originally Posted by Dancer373 View Post
My mother died Wednesday also. Don't do this to yourself...look for the good times and embrace them. The "should haves " and "could haves" will do nothing but cloud your good memories. If you think you made some mistakes just learn from them and go on. My sympathy on your loss but your life will go on ~~~~~~

That is definitely the right attitude. So sorry for both of your losses..

One of the good things about early retirement is we have the time to spend helping our parents. The bad thing is we are more aware of what their last days were like and so we constantly our second guessing ourselves.

My dad died 16 year ago last week. I was working hard, and all I remember is he got a sick, had an operation, was doing better, than got worse, than died in span of 9 months. My sisters weren't working and so spent more time with him and did a fair amount of second guessing.

When my mom dies I'll hope to adopt your attitude dancer.
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My prayers are with you. All relationships have highs and lows. I'm sure your mom knew you loved her.
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So sorry for you loss.

Your mother is no longer with you but you can take your lessons learned and use them in another situation. Someday there might be a sibling, child, spouse, friend or a neighbor who will need your care and support. Use your new perspective to help them get through their time of need.
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Thanks for letting us know, sorry for your loss.
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Sorry to hear about you losing your Mom.

Always remember her, and the good times you both had, and that way she'll always be with you!
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Originally Posted by vicente solano View Post
Died last Wednesday. Now I regret having said what I said about her. And not having had the patience I should have had with her, and not wanting her to stay for good at my home. All that despite my knowing that she was very happy with us. Probably because we let her have her way in everything. I remember my relief when she moved to my sister's, me not caring about her reluctance to rotate any more......
Shame on me.
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