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Old 11-17-2011, 06:43 PM   #21
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FinanceDude, that's an amazing story. Thanks for sharing it and I look forward to the next chapter(s). I have to say that my parents were the most loving, kind and caring people on earth. I guess that's why I still miss them and think about them all the time. Mom died in 1995 and Dad in 1999. I guess you can say that they did a good job if you continue to think of them and thank them after they have been gone so long.

I am so sorry for you and all children who suffer at the hands of their parents in what ever manner. DW had a tough childhood and she blames it on the fact that her father was kicked out when he was 13 and had to make it on his own. He never new how to be a good father so he just imitated had own abusive father. Sad situations.

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Old 11-17-2011, 08:08 PM   #22
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Old 11-17-2011, 08:39 PM   #23
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Wow. There's no telling how many people who have grown up in environments similar to yours and headed down the wrong path as a result. I applaud you for not letting your situation get the best of you.

I too look forward to reading the rest of your story.
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Old 11-17-2011, 09:34 PM   #24
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Financedude, Looking forward to hearing "the rest of the story". I am sorry that circumstances led to you growing up in a less than cared for and loving environment....

I'm a step mom and can not imagine treating either of my sons the way you were treated. When my husband and I married 18 years ago, blending his 2 sons and my daughter, we made a deliberate decision to not have any more children. Neither of us wanted the other 3 to feel they were "less special" than one we might have together. It is not a decision for everyone but it was for us.
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Old 11-18-2011, 08:41 AM   #25
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Thanks for sharing your story. More people than we care to know about are living every day having suffered abuse as children. You never know what goes on behind the curtains of the perfect-looking houses on your street. Talking (writing) about it helps some people to keep it from defining them - the secrecy is just as bad as the abuse for many, and sharing their story helps. It may also help someone who reads it. So thank you for your courage.
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Old 11-18-2011, 12:36 PM   #26
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I totally was my mother who did that to me. I am so glad you shared, it definitely is a wonderful way of healing and you have become an amazing person because of it.
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Old 11-18-2011, 06:56 PM   #27
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The most memorable quote from the movie Parenthood that has stuck with me over the years:
"You know, Mrs. Buckman, you need a license to buy a dog, to drive a car - hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they'll let any butt-reaming asshole be a father."
You can replace mother with father and it still rings true. In my case it was father.
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Old 11-19-2011, 06:49 AM   #28
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Old 11-20-2011, 09:24 AM   #29
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I am so sorry for you and all children who suffer at the hands of their parents in what ever manner.

Thank you for sharing, FD.
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I regret that happened to you, and to all kids who live with parents who shouldn't be parents.
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Old 11-20-2011, 01:43 PM   #31
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This is a phenomenal and courageous admission! What a burden to carry for a young child. Most people have experiences that affect them in a negative way. When the experience comes from parental abuse, it's bound to be even more difficult to shake off, if not impossible. I hope it helps you in a meaningful way to write about it in this way.
Can't you see yourself in the nursing home saying, " Darn! Wish I'd spent more time at the office instead of wasting time with family and friends."
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Thanks for sharing your story. I'm glad you found a way to endure the challenges presented to you.

From your previous posts, it appears you've overcome alot and enjoying the fruits of your hardwork. Congrats!

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