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Old 04-26-2011, 06:33 PM   #21
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Originally Posted by tullynut View Post
Other articles talked about depression developing after retirement when the individual discovered that it wasn't all fun/games, that changes in structure and routine took a greater toll than expected?
This is just my opinion, but I don't think either the financial industry or the researchers, and certainly not the Internet discussion boards, have the data.

While depression can develop during retirement, the articles are there more for their great sound-bite potential than for any real trend or issues. Another theory is that Boomers haven't saved enough for retirement so we're just going to decide that retirement was bad for us anyway.

Whatever problems your spouse is struggling with were more likely a cause of retirement and were not necessarily caused by retirement. Now that he's retired, however, they're much more visible and can't just be swept aside by the whirlwind of the daily work/commute routine. The biggest challenge of retirement is that the retiree has to assume responsibility for their own entertainment. They can't look to the workplace anymore to provide all that fulfillment & satisfaction...

In other words you're not going to learn anything useful about solving his problems by reading retirement discussion boards. You would probably get more benefit from depression/midlife crisis discussion boards-- although the subject occasionally comes up here.

What you can learn here is more about coping with the changes that retirement brings in relationships and finances. But you definitely need more help than the random shotgun advice from a bunch of Internet strangers.


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Old 04-26-2011, 06:40 PM   #22
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Originally Posted by Nords View Post
The biggest challenge of retirement is that the retiree has to assume responsibility for their own entertainment.
Nords, your response to the OP's situation is excellent. As an aside, I also wanted to point out this line of your post which I think is a real gem - - an observation that I think could of value to others, far beyond this one thread.

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Old 04-26-2011, 06:49 PM   #23
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Just as well as your market-timing newsletter business.
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Old 04-26-2011, 06:56 PM   #24
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Oops, he just found out that health care will cost us over $500.00 a month for the next six years until he is old enough to collect medicare and cost may go up.

Where do two 59 yr. olds get health ins. for $500 per month?
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Whether this is a troll, or sincere, in either case I don't think this is the proper forum. If not a troll, the issues are way too deep for this website.
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Old 04-26-2011, 07:35 PM   #26
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Whether this is a troll, or sincere, in either case I don't think this is the proper forum. If not a troll, the issues are way too deep for this website.
I wold be shocked if this women were a troll. Sounds too real.

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Old 04-27-2011, 08:27 AM   #27
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Hello Tellynut,

It seems that the elephant in the room is "binge-drinking."

Maybe AlAnon would be appropriate for you - for relatives and friends of alcoholics. The crux of the program is to help you to take care of oneself.

I would try to get an overview of the situation, and make decisions based on my well-being.

Best of Luck.

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