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Old 12-29-2015, 11:19 AM   #41
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Why can't one answer the door in underwear?
Does anybody remember when it became acceptable to go out in public with parts of ones underwear showing?
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Old 12-29-2015, 11:23 AM   #42
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Does anybody remember when it became acceptable to go out in public with parts of ones underwear showing?

Uh oh. You mean they changed it?


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Old 12-29-2015, 11:25 AM   #43
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I find that dressing nicely when I am out of the house pays benefits in how I am treated in both business and personal contacts.
My dear (sloppy) nephew once observed to me that "you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover".

To which I replied: "No, you shouldn't, but people do it every day...it affects a job interview, a girl you want to ask out, where you're seated at a restaurant..."

Thankfully, dear Spaulding got it!
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My dear (sloppy) nephew once observed to me that "you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover".

To which I replied: "No, you shouldn't, but people do it every day...it affects a job interview, a girl you want to ask out, where you're seated at a restaurant..."

Thankfully, dear Spaulding got it!
As a bearded man who sometimes often let's the beard get a little unruly, I have found that dressing ONE notch above the expected goes a long way towards getting the service/attention from people that I would like.

So, a golf shirt and khakis or jeans is my everyday runaround outfit. Tee shirt and holey jeans would make me look homeless - dress shirt and khakis and I would still look employed.
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I now use 90% less clothes than when I was working.

Caution however: I found it's a fine line between not caring what I wear and just being a bad, lazy slob. The former is a good thing, the latter....not so much.
And the difference between the two categories might not be discernable to the casual observer............. But, so what?
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I find that dressing nicely when I am out of the house pays benefits in how I am treated in both business and personal contacts. Something just a bit 'eccentric' usually helps. But, just a very small bit.
I realize that most people here are married or effectively married, but still, it is probably worth the small amount of effort to look good. I think most men and women feel more disposed to be warm with well turned out people than those who may be descending into slobovia.

There is a good article in today's WSJ pitched to those who are still looking. What does it say? Go about your life looking better than presentable, smile, be open to interaction and you can say goodbye to internet dating. And on the reasonable theory that it is better to maintain a satisfying relationship than to be looking once more, why not try to please the man or woman who is already in your life? Don't forget, your current companion might be wondering if she could do better, at the very moment when you show up at her door, or even when you are looking at one another in what we optimistically call committed relationships.

Even the police are less likely to shoot you if you are well dressed.

I feel like my girlfriend is quite reasonable, but she does request that I wear appropriate attire when we go out, or really when I see her at her home. Why not? I know I much prefer that a woman look good, and I respond to this.

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women feel more disposed to be warm with well turned out people than those who may be descending into slobovia.
Well, you've convinced me.......sometime in the upcoming year I've promised myself that I'll take a shower and change my underwear.......maybe.
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Back in the fall one of my son's college visits required me to dress up a little. I struggled with how things went together and just how dressed up I wanted to get. This is from a guy that dressed to the 9s including matching watches, belts, etc and would pick colors and textures for the day depending on what type of events I needed to attend or what meetings I needed to influence.

It seems my closet has been taken over with biker apparel, ball caps, and fleece pullovers for the cold winters. Throwing a big dinner for my son's college baseball signing next week at a nice old school steakhouse in town. I think I will go with a button down and jeans. That's about it.

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It can go too far--someone pointed out to me this week that my shirt was inside out and I debated just leaving it....
Yes, I feel like I have been bordering on this territory. I ordered some new clothes over the past couple of weeks to look more presentable. I have a fear of being mistaken for homeless.
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Even the police are less likely to shoot you if you are well dressed.

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Well, that's a good thing. Would hate to have a cop blow a hole through one of my good shirts...
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I must admit I get some weird sense of enjoyment out of going out and dressing like.......let's just say someone who could not possibly ER. Always clean but not always fashionable.
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We also like to dress just "a bit eccentric." We also find people treat us differently.
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^ The guy above caused me to start singing "It's just a jump to the left, and then a step to the right......"
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While not interested in the latest styles, I prefer to dress neatly even if just going for coffee. I will never leave the house looking like a slob, shirt tail hanging out, ragged clothes etc. I truly dislike slobs.

In summer shorts and flip flops I do wear, my T shirt is always tucked in and not torn or splattered with last week oil change. And the gig line is alway properly set. If you never been in the service look that one up

Did I mention I dislike slobs?

It fascinates me no end that women will pay a fortune for ragged sliced jeans. Or wear skin tight camel toe enhancing paste ons, then whine that they are treated as sex objects. And the muffin tops AAAAARRRGGGHHH!

OTOH seems the fad of guys wearing their trousers below their butts with magic holding the things up are on the way out. Still can't figure the bit with baseball caps being on sideways with the visor over their ears. I am sure thare is a purpose for that.....
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I realize that most people here are married or effectively married, but still, it is probably worth the small amount of effort to look good. I think most men and women feel more disposed to be warm with well turned out people than those who may be descending into slobovia.

Even the police are less likely to shoot you if you are well dressed.

I feel like my girlfriend is quite reasonable, but she does request that I wear appropriate attire when we go out, or really when I see her at her home. Why not? I know I much prefer that a woman look good, and I respond to this.

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Having lived 30 years in New Orleans, I know from personal experience(at least three times come to mind) Da PO LICE are less likely to shoot you if you are well dressed.

Being a bit of a clothes horse - I love thrift stores - Salvation Army, DAV, Goodwill , etc.

Left handedness causes me to push the envelope - shrimper, farmer, urban cowboy, logger, ultimate tourist, and some Parrot Head for old times sake.

heh heh heh - now married I have dialed back a tad.

P.S> Back up north - I have more Pendleton than I have body to wear. Recycle time.
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In these challenging economic times, I have been known to counsel a young person to "Wear out your own jeans" in order to save more money....
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I just finished a 10 day span where I only wore pajamas. When I went out, I wore carhartt coveralls over the pajamas. But normally I'm in jeans or shorts, t shirt or sweatshirt. Hiking boots or running shoes. I'm using my former work shirts for rags.
There are weekends where I don't leave the house and just wear my PJs and slippers. Sweatpants, t shirts, and flip flops are my second choice as I don't care for shorts.
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I wear some torn jeans for gardening. These are jeans that started out pristine and wound up as real worker jeans. I'd never want to be caught dead in them outside our yard though.

My son (in his 30's, San Diego advertising guy) turned up with jeans that had those pre-dyed whitish legs. This is the same guy who used to wear those horrible baggy things in his late teens that fell down well below the navel. Styles are amazing.
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I find that dressing nicely when I am out of the house pays benefits in how I am treated in both business and personal contacts. Something just a bit 'eccentric' usually helps. But, just a very small bit.
+1 Have had to accept this as a "new widow." Am learning that some business people seem to think that -- since DH is no longer around-- I am somehow an "easy mark" for overcharging on whatever item or service I am looking into.

As I fix up the family home to sell, and a new condo to move into, am working as my own "general contractor." That's fine; but it does seem to help if I somehow dress "smart" rather than "dowdy." (Not sure how to define those. Your definitions could easily account for both.)

Of course, attitude and demeanor communicate more than clothes. It simply helps if clothing doesn't create obstacles or give the wrong impression.

(Left to my own devices--- once I move and no longer need to negotiate bids or sign off on the quality of a job--- I will return to my retirement "uniform of choice": t-shirt, jeans, sandals or sneakers. Denim skirt and top for jaunts out.)

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