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Old 05-31-2011, 09:39 PM   #21
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Just take it and do something good with it. Perhaps a donation to charity.

It is just a sum of money that he clearly wanted you to have. Don't make him uncomfortable with his act of kindness.

I do think that it would have been more appropriate for him to get you a gift or take you out to lunch etc. Perhaps he did not think of it and felt a need to do something immediately and cash is all that he had to offer.
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Old 05-31-2011, 11:37 PM   #22
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Indeed! If you volunteered to do something, like helping a friend or acquaintance, then you volunteered. Case closed.

If said friend/acquaintance feels guilty and wants to reciprocate, great, especially if they may have skills you may need in the future.

I help friends (and my kid's friends) with many things: I'm a decent plumber, electrician and mechanic (if your car is > 30 years old). If it needs a permit then it's a SEP field (Someone Else's Problem).

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Everybody was trying to do the "right thing". Most important.....no one is embarrassed. You probably had some expenses to recover, gas, equipment, etc. Your friends nephew didn't want to be a mooch, I think. I respect that.
What to do? turn him down once or twice then take the money. Or, you could say; "I enjoyed helping you out, pay me back by helping someone else in the future". It's always nice when everyone finishes with a warm feeling. I know I would have offered to repay expenses, I know that I wouldn't have expected anything if I helped. Now, think about best ways to go forward with your friend and his nephew. Let them know you enjoyed being asked to help and would feel comfortable asking them for help if you needed it in the future. Most important, you like all of us, are lucky to have friends.
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Everybody was trying to do the "right thing". Most important.....no one is embarrassed. You probably had some expenses to recover, gas, equipment, etc. Your friends nephew didn't want to be a mooch, I think. I respect that.
What to do? turn him down once or twice then take the money. Or, you could say; "I enjoyed helping you out, pay me back by helping someone else in the future". It's always nice when everyone finishes with a warm feeling. I know I would have offered to repay expenses, I know that I wouldn't have expected anything if I helped. Now, think about best ways to go forward with your friend and his nephew. Let them know you enjoyed being asked to help and would feel comfortable asking them for help if you needed it in the future. Most important, you like all of us, are lucky to have friends.

Makes a whole lot of sense. Thx
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