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Old 12-30-2005, 12:32 PM   #1
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Im just curious about something. For the past 5 or 6 years I have been co- moderating several boards on the net dealing with office bullies usually concerning the tactics used by managers, among others to scapegoat various employees.

Needless to say, this type of behavior is very detrimental to the mental health of those being targeted at work.

I was wondering is some of you out there made a decision to FIRE based on this situation.

Im sure someone here wants to FIRE due to the crap they put up with by management.

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Im sure someone here wants to FIRE due to the crap they put up with by management.

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I'm sure this is true. It had no bearing on my decision as I
mostly always was management.

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Something like that might cause me to look for another job, but not out-right retire.
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I'm sure this is true. It had no bearing on my decision as I
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I'm sure you did everything you could to promote those employees to think about retirement
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I'm sure you did everything you could to promote those employees to think about retirement
Yeah, and a few I made the decision for them. Actually I think of
myself as a benevolent dictator. I am pretty sure not everyone who
worked for me enjoyed it, but I know many did and that is a nice
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Old 12-30-2005, 01:47 PM   #6
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Yeah, and a few I made the decision for them.* Actually I think of
myself as a benevolent dictator.* I am pretty sure not everyone who
worked for me enjoyed it, but I know many did and that is a nice
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Actually, management people, to their credit hold a pretty difficult position.

Usually in an organization, they are sort of caught in the middle. If they act too benevolent for what is normal in the worksite, they run the risk of being ostrasized by their peers or bosses. If they are too brutal, it usually brings no trouble unless of course they go overboard.

Middle managers have a juggling act to do in many cases, they have to "manage" their workers properly, which in itself is not so easy considering many people bring their own baggage to a job, but on the other hand, they have to keep their own bosses happy and cover up any situation that would make the mid manager appear to not be keeping "order" in upper management's eyes.

Its hard being in the middle, would rather be at the pinnacle or at least in very good favor with the "boys" on top. Less stress this way.
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Old 12-30-2005, 01:59 PM   #7
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Its hard being in the middle, would rather be at the pinnacle or at least in very good favor with the "boys" on top. Less stress this way.
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I have always felt safest at the bottom. No underlings to stab me in the back, no
unpaid overtime (20% more pay for 50% more work makes for an eay choice),
and if/when managers become ogres just quit and find a similar job elsewhere
(very easy as a programmer in LA). Of course, now the last scenario is even
easier to handle since I have become FI. . .
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Needless to say, this type of behavior is very detrimental to the mental health of those being targeted at work.

I was wondering is some of you out there made a decision to FIRE based on this situation.

Im sure someone here wants to FIRE due to the crap they put up with by management.
I did.* Age 48 with 26 years of service, cashed in my 'IOUs'.* There were 6 other employees on accepted stress workers comp in a management span of less than 30.* I made a graceful exit, then wrote a note to my representative (who was a friend of the Department Secretary) asking that the cause of the workers comp claims be investigated.* It wasn't 6 weeks before the manager had his walking papers.
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I was wondering is some of you out there made a decision to FIRE based on this situation.
I watched many many junior officers & enlisted leave the service because they "didn't want to risk having another CO like that EVER".

I'd try to tell them about all the great things they could look forward to... but they'd already been watching what my job was like and it was tough to change their minds.

In late 2001 an admiral visited a major base, had a mandatory meeting with several hundred JO submariners, and decided to administer a little tough love. He admonished them "You guys can't expect to just leave the Navy in today's market and make the same kind of money out there that you're making here. This is the only job in the world where you can make more than $100K/year with only five years' experience."

One of the JOs raised his hand and said "Sir, my wife makes more than that now." Then he asked for a show of hands and a dozen others went up.

That was the end of that retention meeting...
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After 31 years in management at various levels one come to appreciate the knowledge that you will no longer be one in a couple of years. *

My son is just starting out in a management job in IT where he has been recently promoted from "IT flunky" to "IT flunky manager." * He is learning to appreciate the rigors of being a manager of people and resources. *It takes a certain ability to deal with both ends of a large organization effectively; one end seems to want to bite you and the other end wants to crap on you. *

As for my initial ER. *Yes, it was for a lot of management related reasons. *I left a lot on the table to leave and move across the country but I would do it again in a heartbeat. *
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I watched many many junior officers & enlisted leave the service because they "didn't want to risk having another CO like that EVER".

I'd try to tell them about all the great things they could look forward to... but they'd already been watching what my job was like and it was tough to change their minds.

In late 2001 an admiral visited a major base, had a mandatory meeting with several hundred JO submariners, and decided to administer a little tough love. He admonished them "You guys can't expect to just leave the Navy in today's market and make the same kind of money out there that you're making here. This is the only job in the world where you can make more than $100K/year with only five years' experience."

One of the JOs raised his hand and said "Sir, my wife makes more than that now." Then he asked for a show of hands and a dozen others went up.

That was the end of that retention meeting...
What rank would it require to make $100K/year in with five years service?
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Jug, could you please provide links to the boards you moderate dealing with this issue ?
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What rank would it require to make $100K/year in with five years service?
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A Navy lieutenant (O-3) with five years of service earns $4297.50/month in 2006.* Some of this money, up to $1250/month, is probably going into the TSP, the federal govts' unmatched tax-deferred version of a 401(k).* The rest of the pay is fully taxable.

Then there's "bonus money".* When I joined the submarine force in 1982 as a lowly O-1 ensign I was awarded a $3000 signing bonus (before taxes).* When I passed the training schools in 1984, almost a lieutenant junior grade, I got another $3000 bonus (before taxes).* When finished my initial five-year obligation in 1987 as a lieutenant, I was given a choice-- $7200 at the end of every year that I stayed around, or a contract (3, 4, or 5 years) at $10K/year paid up front.* After taxes this bonus money, of course, went straight into the retirement portfolio.

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Interesting post. I was an E-4 in the AF. I made $850 a month when I got out. Thats Base + Seperate rations. (I was living off base.) I was offered $1,700 to reenlist in 1979. No thanks. Had I stayed in and made E-6 at 20 years I would be getting about $1,100 a month now in pension. Doesn't sound like much until you try to generate it from investments.

I have always been glad I did one enlistment. Being an Officer is a much better deal.
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Jug, could you please provide links to the boards you moderate dealing with this issue ?
No problem, Id be glad to, and if you have any problem you would like to run by me, I can help me, just contact me directly.

You have to understand that doing this type of work with people who have been abused at work is very taxing, since must victims of workabuse suffer exactly what victims of wife abuse suffered over 20 years ago, The police would come and call it a "family squabble"

Abuse on the psyche in any form over a long period of time makes for very unhappy campers.

So if you have a problem, contact me directly at pef260@aol.com, and maybe I can help.

Here are the sites, they are yahoo boards, so you have to join yahoo, its free and become a member

Nineveh@yahoogroups.com This one is a US based board, Im co-moderator, but lately the other moderators have family situations, so I have to jump in now and then.

the next is bullyonline@yahoogroups.com

This is a UK based group, the american group is a shoot off from this group. Both are excellent, and the phenomenom sp, of workabuse is quite new and there are excellent books out there written on how to handle it and survive it.

Jug contact if you are having a problem.
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Interesting post. I was an E-4 in the AF. I made $850 a month when I got out. Thats Base + Seperate rations. (I was living off base.) I was offered $1,700 to reenlist in 1979. No thanks. Had I stayed in and made E-6 at 20 years I would be getting about $1,100 a month now in pension. Doesn't sound like much until you try to generate it from investments.

I have always been glad I did one enlistment. Being an Officer is a much better deal.
Back in 69 as a private E-1 in basic training I think I recieved $54 for my monthly stipen. This was after they deducted for my buzz cut, anyone else able to relate. They offered West Point and/or OCS on the condition I extended my enlistment, to which I only chuckled.
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I was wondering is some of you out there made a decision to FIRE based on this situation.

Im sure someone here wants to FIRE due to the crap they put up with by management.
jug,

Several years ago I was working for a workaholic who was also a bit of a bully. The situation got so bad, I carved out a few minutes at work one day and counted down the workdays until I could RE. As I recall, the number was close to 1000.

I was so stressed and working such long hours, I rarely had time to assess my situation other than to realize I wasn't happy. After a health scare that resulted in surgery and 6 weeks off to recuperate, I finally had the downtime to clearly see my situation. Upon my return to work, I immediately requested a transfer to another department. Several months later, I was transferred and cannot believe how much better my worklife and worklife balance is. Low to no stress.*

In fact, when in the bullying, stress-filled situation* I was originally targeting to RE in Dec. 2005. Now I'm thinking of hanging around until Dec. 2008 to bulk-up the pension. What a difference a boss makes.

So, in response to your question, management crap can have a huge impact on whether or not to RE.

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I think I recieved $54 for my monthly stipen.
Here's a link to military pay tables between 1949-2004.
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jug,

Several years ago I was working for a workaholic who was also a bit of a bully.
I was so stressed and working such long hours, I rarely had time to assess my situation other than to realize I wasn't happy. After a health scare that resulted in surgery and 6 weeks off to recuperate, I finally had the downtime to clearly see my situation. Upon my return to work, I immediately requested a transfer to another department. Several months later, I was transferred and cannot believe how much better my worklife and worklife balance is. Low to no stress.*

In fact, when in the bullying, stress-filled situation* I was originally targeting to RE in Dec. 2005. Now I'm thinking of hanging around until Dec. 2008 to bulk-up the pension. What a difference a boss makes.

So, in response to your question, management crap can have a huge impact on whether or not to RE.

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This is a very good post, and an honest one at that. Most people in the workforce will deny there is any bullying going on or that they themselves may actually be bullying others. Most just lay low and suffer silently as their innards are eaten up.

Only one abusive person in my worksite has actually apologized for his nasty behavior. He was an alcoholic and I guess he had to make amends with those he may have abused.

The rest are totally blind to it,and the fact that you had a health scare does not move them one inch in the sympathy department. There are alot of mean Sob's in this world causing many to ER.

Probably the best thing that can happen to one that is abused is to get geographically away from the abuser. Just looking at their face knowing they almost got away with murder can eat you up inside.

Now you know why some people go "postal", they've been messed around with at work, but this story never makes the papers, for it would ruin the system the way it exists today.

For management to make an attempt to quell any abuse by their peers on subordinates would disrupt the power structure and send the message that things are softening a bit. This is why you never or rarely ever see justice in the workplace and I do believe this is a very hidden reason for ER.

In my own situation, Im just burned out, since after studying workplace abuse the past several years, I fully understand the power plays, the psychology behind the abuse and through this understanding you accept what cannot be changed but then you go through a period of sadness realizing the futility of it all.

Its sad to realize most worksystems have this type of situation. You have the bullies, those scapegoated by the bullies, and the rest are the sheeple with their heads down hoping they are not next.

So to ER is to leave work with the idea of never being beholden to any human being again, and to re-enter the workplace at one's whim very conscious of the little games played by the little Hitlers with no clothes. To me its like re-booting your puter when things get stuck.

Once you know the story inside out, you can then stick your tongue inside your cheek and sort of smile to yourself when your superior orders you around as though you are some slave. I look forward to someone berating me, and I simply look back at him and say "no sh-t"!!!!

It will be interesting getting other jobs and observing this all from afar. In my case, I will probably go through many jobs, but since I am FIRE, it doesnt matter.

I always wanted a smorgesbord of jobs anyhow.
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Spent 10 years working for a jack-@ss. Eventually he burned too many bridges and was unpromotable. So he left. And I took his position. Later found out he was laid-off from the job he took and started "consulting" out of his house. I think he went from unpromotable to unemployable.

Moral of the story is that fate will eventually catch up with a jack-@ss. Hang in there.
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